Got asked out as a joke

[Reallysad11]

A colleague asked me on a date when he had been drinking and got my number .

We then met up a while later on what I thought was a date we went bowling and for a meal . I assumed he wasn’t interested .

We kept in contact as friends as spent some time together this weekend. He kept remarking how he doesn’t find people who look like me attractive . I am feeling a bit down about myself anyway . I got fed up and said could be tone it down.

He said it doesn’t matter what I think as I should know he doesn’t find me attractive and he only asked me out that time as a joke . He said he regretted asking me out but I’m a nice person.

He’s now blocked me. I feel so stupid. I can’t believe I was asked out for a joke !

What an absolute scum bag!! You are worth than him. He sounds shallow and mean. Total asshole.

What a nasty piece of work. Well done to you for standing up for yourself. Don’t spend another moment with this idiot, he is not a friend and is not a good person. You deserve so much better. Please don’t let him affect your confidence!

I could use expletives to describe him. But he's not worth the time of day.

He has behaved exceptionally badly and you would do well to remember you deserve better.

Chin up.

He sounds 14 and a total dick.

Honestly op it really really isn't you.

He wouldn't have asked you out as a joke...that's just a stupid defence mechanism that he's using to make himself feel better for whatever it is that goes on in his head that makes him act like a complete cunt.

This really isn't about you at all!

What a toad 🤬

Sounds like an extreme form of negging. He's a childish twat.

Very shallow don't concern yourself with people like that.u are worth so much more.their loss.

Not worthy of a second of your time OP.
He is the joke!

He has issues. You sound lovely, OP, and deserve much better than this shallow selfish person.

@SleepingStandingUp

He sounds 14 and a total dick.

Honestly op it really really isn't you.

This....!

Wow he sounds like he is majorly insecure - forget him sounds like he has bags of issues and you've had a very lucky escape!

You are much too good for him @Reallysad11

He still has the brain and emotional intelligence of a toddler and the spite and nastiness of an adult. Bad mix.

Obviously he's a total dick so technically it doesn't matter, but he won't have asked you out for a joke. That will have been his strategy,

You were supposed to crumble and then feel grateful when he throws you a bone. Then he's in charge.

But you haven't. It didn't work. You won. You didn't fall for it.

That's awful.
Let his tyres down ... and say you only did it as a joke.

The one who should be feeling bad is him! You acted in good faith. Gather all your self-belief, take a deep breath and forget the ass off him.

It's a horrible thing to do. I've had it done to me in the past.
It's fine to feel sad at the moment. It's fine to feel hurt. But try not to give it any long term headspace.

The blokes an idiot

What a total creep, sadly lacking in the personality department. He probably realised that he was underwhelming you. Agree, lucky escape!

Negging!

Lol men always play the 'it was a joke' card to put women down when they call them out on being rude.

He's been negging you and you stood up to him so he got angry and lashed out with a lie.

He doesn't deserve you. Arsehole.

Horrible fucker. I’m sorry. I agree with what others have said, I don’t think he did actually ask you out for a joke, I think him saying that now is a defence mechanism of some sort.

I hope you’re able to shrug it off and move forward - this really is entirely about him and not you.

Wow! What a prick. Don't be embarrassed or ashamed.

If any colleagues ask you, make sure to tell them what a childish pratt he is.

I don't find pathetic, cowardly, immature cunts attractive and I'm sure you don't either OP, so you've dodged a bullet! Onwards and upwards

What an absolute arsehole. A joke? Is he 4? He's a fucktard and completely in the wrong. Don't be embarrassed OP, you're clearly a lovely person and he's an enormous cock end.