Got asked out as a joke

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A colleague asked me on a date when he had been drinking and got my number .

We then met up a while later on what I thought was a date we went bowling and for a meal . I assumed he wasn’t interested .

We kept in contact as friends as spent some time together this weekend. He kept remarking how he doesn’t find people who look like me attractive . I am feeling a bit down about myself anyway . I got fed up and said could be tone it down.

He said it doesn’t matter what I think as I should know he doesn’t find me attractive and he only asked me out that time as a joke . He said he regretted asking me out but I’m a nice person.

He’s now blocked me. I feel so stupid. I can’t believe I was asked out for a joke !

What a total dickhead. It’s wasn’t a joke by the way he’s using that for an excuse for whatever reason. Jokes on him however because you do not have to give this man a second of your time ever again. Poor women’s who’s next mind. Fucking prick.

He's somewhat lacking in social skills isn't he!

'I only asked you out as a joke' is so 'teen' & ridiculous, how old is this knob?

The rest of what he said is breathtakingly rude! & weird.

Honestly, he's just a twat you can ignore!

Why are you feeling down about yourself? Can we help?

How old are you?

You weren’t asked out as a joke, because (think about this) people don’t actually do that. His weird insult strategy went wrong- you called him out on his rudeness and he’s embarrassed. Instead of apologising, he’s decided to hide.

What a dick.

What an absolute dick. Clearly an insecure, immature, sad wanker.

Well done for standing up for yourself. You sound lovely and don’t need gits like that in your life x

That's low, really shitty but I'd take what he's saying with a pinch of salt.

Call him a cunt bag, chin up, move on

WTF! Sounds like he has something seriously wrong with him, clearly he gets off on making women feel like shit to make himself feel better

No, no you weren’t.

He asked you out, was horrified to find that you are utterly out of his league and when he tried negging you to pull you down, you called him on his bullshit.

Sad twat ego couldn’t take that so he lied

What a tosser.

What an absolute fucking bellend!

When people ask someone out as a joke it goes like this: “want to go out with me?”

“Ok”

“Ha ha I was joking”

You don’t ask someone out on a date for a joke and actually go on the date.

So he’s just making something up for whatever fucked up reason.

As if any bloke asks a woman out for a joke. What a knob. I honestly don't know what his problem is, but its nothing to do with you. I've literally never met another bloke that'd ask a woman out for a joke. Bellend.

I also think he didn’t ask you out as a joke. I think he asked you out and when there wasn’t the chemistry on either side, he invented that to ensure it was you who didn’t “measure up”.
Irrespective, he’s a prize twat. He should be embarrassed.

Take it to HR, see how funny he thinks it is then.

I suppose he looks like Brad Pitt and is an all round great catch?

Hold your head up high and give him space to continue to embarrass himself. Immature imbecile!

I remember being 19 and given a whole lecture by some hairy, 30-something tossbucket how I was unattractive to him because I was on the wrong side of 18 and therefore too old for him, and how once a woman passes 17 they start to know their own mind and let themselves go, etc, etc.

There are some truly repellent taunts out there.

*twunts

How embarrassing for him.
At least the trash took itself out and you don't have to bother with it anymore.

@Givemeabreak88

People do ask people out as a joke sorry but just being honest, has no one heard of pull a pig? Not saying you are a pig op but it is a “thing” shockingly

What a helpful and confidence boosting thing to post.

Op, he’s irrelevant. The question here is when he was insulting you and you asked him to tone it down, why didn’t you just tell him to fuck off and leave.

I think that’s the issue you need to address.💐

Are you ok, OP? Why are you feeling down? Anything you want to talk about?
Swat him off, he is an annoying fly that doesn't deserve headspace

Insulting you on purpose (negging) and you rightfully called him out on it. He went on the defensive like the 14 year old twat he was acting like.

You're well rid.

@Givemeabreak88

People do ask people out as a joke sorry but just being honest, has no one heard of pull a pig? Not saying you are a pig op but it is a “thing” shockingly

Wow. So that's your input? Seriously? The OP is not a joke, not to that man, not to you and not to anyone else. I despair sometimes.

The bit that gets me is that he told you that it doesn't matter what you think.

Doesn't matter what you think.

How dare he say that, never mind the rest! You are entitled to think what you want to think without some pencil-dick telling you that you are basically there to be disregarded.

You have dodged an enormous, elephant-sized bullet.