Got asked out as a joke

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A colleague asked me on a date when he had been drinking and got my number .

We then met up a while later on what I thought was a date we went bowling and for a meal . I assumed he wasn’t interested .

We kept in contact as friends as spent some time together this weekend. He kept remarking how he doesn’t find people who look like me attractive . I am feeling a bit down about myself anyway . I got fed up and said could be tone it down.

He said it doesn’t matter what I think as I should know he doesn’t find me attractive and he only asked me out that time as a joke . He said he regretted asking me out but I’m a nice person.

He’s now blocked me. I feel so stupid. I can’t believe I was asked out for a joke !

Just hoping there is an HR department you can relate the story to. Get his card marked!

He sounds full of issues and certainly none of those issues are to do with how you loook but he knew how to get your attention this way and decided it was worth hurting you for some attention

He really sounds like a loser

No one asks someone out as a joke and then actually meets them. Why on earth would you when it’s not funny?!? He’s a twat but clearly did fancy you at one point. Put this down to a lucky escape. This is not a reflection on you at all.

What a loser I bet he would have slept with you if you'd have put that on the table

You've dodged a bullet there have a chat to HR

He wouldn't have asked you out as a joke...that's just a stupid defence mechanism that he's using to make himself feel better for whatever it is that goes on in his head that makes him act like a complete cunt.

I tend to think this. Nobody asks someone out for a joke unless:

a) It's a bet with their friends on the high school football team.
b) She's incredibly attractive but wears glasses so no-one realises this.
c) They are both supposed to be 17 but look 30.

He might have been trying to neg you. He might have met someone else and was doing a shit job at establishing boundaries. He might be an insecure dickhead who was worried you would reject him first.

Who gives a shit why- you were lucky not to waste anymore time on him.

What a dick. Is he 11? Isn't this the kind of crap kids pulled in middle school?

Lord above OP... what a piece of vermin! I can't believe an adult would do/say such a thing. I thought that stuff was only found on bad American teen films. Don't let this absolute creep get you down OP he's not worth it, the horrible cretin

Really ?

What a horrible nasty piece of work

Scumbag

Just remember OP you are so way too good for him

He is an absolute tosser and you shouldn't waste another second thinking about him and his pathetic 'it was a joke' nonsense.

You are a lovely person and you deserve better than this. Hold your head high and be glad that you dodged that bullet.

What a twat.

You should have said, "I only accepted because I felt sorry for you."

He’s sounds a delight.
Please tell me this is a Saturday job and he’s one of the paperboys. Surely no grown man behaves like this.

Scum

You're well rid of this idiot

I seriously doubt he asked you out as a joke but has hung out with you repeatedly ... There's something else going on with him; something that caused him to lash out and try to put you down/hurt you/maybe himself feel.superior.

Fk knows what's going on in his little four year old boy brain - in fact that's an insult to four yr old boys.

It reminds me if women talking about online dating when a man sends them a message and they before they can reply or if they don't seem interested : he starts spitting out degrading insults "you're a fat ugly old cow anyway haha" etc etc.

I wouldn't like to have a window into that guys head, it would be scary.

He is a complete dick and you deserve better. You've dodged a bullet there OP. I thought that was something only 12 year olds did.

I seriously doubt he asked you out as a joke but has hung out with you repeatedly ... There's something else going on with him; something that caused him to lash out and try to put you down/hurt you/maybe himself feel.superior.

This with bells on. For a start nobody asks anyone on a date “for a joke” unless they’re 13 AND emotionally dysfunctional. Grown men certainly don’t ask women on a date for a joke and then carry on hanging out with them.

This “physical feature” you have that he supposedly finds unattractive, let me guess is fat, curly hair, big nose, all of which he would have seen from the start and ALL of which many men find attractive.

What a pathetic loser to keep pointing out what he finds unattractive. There is nothing more unattractive than his attitude.

Twat! I'm sorry you've had to deal with this crap. Hope you've got him blocked - do you work closely together? Will you be able to keep your distance (professionally!) when you're both at work?

He sounds like an arsehole. His problem not yours!

Op he sounds vile. How rude and nasty. I pity whoever ends up with him on a future date. It's definitely not you, don't be down over this dickhead!!!

Look up "Bye Felipe". This is a common weird reaction by men when they feel insecure. They attack instead.

He absolutely wasn't asking you out as a joke. But you have absolutely dodged a bullet.

Don't feel stupid. You sound a nice person, and far more attractive than he deserves.

As others have said, 'Is he 14?'. I genuinely don't know any adult male who would be this pathetic. And he need not waste his time blocking you. Why on earth would you want any more contact with him?

Childish, rude and exceedingly unpleasant.

Hope you’re ok, OP.

No man would waste his time going on a date with someone they don't find attractive. It is highly likely that he did find you attractive and it was a proper date in his eyes. He just didn't like it when you stood up for yourself.

Please continue to stand up for yourself in future and do not go back to this man if he decides to "forgive" you in the future.

What a bloody freak. I can tell you now, you are beautiful. I think people underestimate how unique personal taste is. He is a cunt. I think people also underestimate how straight forward ticking the criteria for cunt is. As best you can please forget him, bloody nutter imagine saying that to someone!

View it as a lucky escape! Some poor woman is going to be stuck with that sewer sausage.
IM absolutely sure you’re worth so much more x

What a very ugly person he is irrespective of whatever he looks like. Just sounds like he’s revealed he is in fact a pathetic, cruel and childish specimen; you have definitely dodged a bullet OP!!

I also doubt that he asked you out for a joke; more like you weren’t fawning over him enough so his ego was damaged so he’s lashed out trying to hurt you.

Whatever his grim motives, at least you won’t be wasting any more time on a utterly grim and malicious Gollum.

Scrape him off your shoe and... Onwards and upwards!

What a horrible little man.

Be glad he has shown you what a nasty piece of shit he is.

Honestly OP, no-one needs a sad man like him within 100 metres of them.

Please don't take on board his awfulness