Got asked out as a joke

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A colleague asked me on a date when he had been drinking and got my number .

We then met up a while later on what I thought was a date we went bowling and for a meal . I assumed he wasn’t interested .

We kept in contact as friends as spent some time together this weekend. He kept remarking how he doesn’t find people who look like me attractive . I am feeling a bit down about myself anyway . I got fed up and said could be tone it down.

He said it doesn’t matter what I think as I should know he doesn’t find me attractive and he only asked me out that time as a joke . He said he regretted asking me out but I’m a nice person.

He’s now blocked me. I feel so stupid. I can’t believe I was asked out for a joke !

Don’t feel stupid - the poor thing needs professional help.

Givemeabreak88
“People do ask people out as a joke sorry but just being honest, has no one heard of pull a pig? Not saying you are a pig op but it is a “thing” confused shockingly“

People don’t do ‘pull a pig‘ without their mates watching, and then carry on hanging out with that person. It’s an end of the night ‘jape’ by bellends in clubs.

I think he did genuinely like you and was interested but a complete twat found it just to hard to say sorry I don't think this will go anywhere. Trying to big up his ego by saying it was a joke. You are well rid.

Trust me. This says WAY more about him than you.

What a cunt.

Dear god! These sad little twats have all read the same damn book about negging being the way to gain and keep a woman ‘keen’. He sounds staggeringly immature as well as unbelievably charmless. I do hope you find some kind, emotionally intelligent adult male company soon, OP, nice men are out there.

All the boys I knew at school were like this. I was well into my 20s before I trusted that anyone asking me out wasn't doing it as a joke or a bet. (And I'm no oil painting, but I haven't got 3 heads or anything either, and I try to be nice to people most of the time...)

What a dick, I'm so sorry op!!

He didn't ask you out as a "joke" I agree with pp. he made that up for some weird reason. My best guess is that you're not somebody his mates regard as conventionally attractive and he's been getting stick for liking you.

It doesn't matter at the end of the day he's revealed himself early as a pathetic man child who doesn't deserve to even be friends with you. He did you a favour in the long run because he stopped you wasting any more time on him.

Chin up op it really is his loss

I don't believe he asked you out as a joke. That sounds like a story. But I DO believe that he is in possession of a teeny weeny tiny tiny minuscule penis and a dick personality.

Only one word for this man. C U N T. Sorry for the language but you deserve better!

@CorianderLord

Lol men always play the 'it was a joke' card to put women down when they call them out on being rude.

He's been negging you and you stood up to him so he got angry and lashed out with a lie.

Exactly this. His actions were likely a defence mechanism. He's embarrassed because he has no control. Not about you, promise, although I definitely know how this must feel. I'd be angry too.

Tell him you are £160 up from your bet, spending several hours in his company without puking due to his 'unusual' body odour and then ask how much he has made going on his joke date with you ?

"I only asked you out as a joke."

Reply, "Oh, thank God. I only said yes because I felt so sorry for you and you always seemed so sad and lonely, and you seemed so desperate. Great to clear the air."

The best response would have been to laugh a lot for a long time and in between gasping for air , saying things like 'oh my God you thought I liked you , like properly liked you ' cue more hysterical laughter and then Feministschool's response followed by a sad and concerned face

Wow that is why he is single!
Don't worry I could write a list of things I have had said to me, including someone who was after me and asked for my number, call me extra large when they saw me out one day having a meal, I've heard it all, it hurts but goes over your head after a while. This year has been a real eye opener, and having left my abusive ex, and now having to suffer my fathers behaviour because me and my DS has nowhere else to go, I am so fed up of men and their crap! That I will not suffer it going forward, anymore.

So you are not his type, that's fine that's life, and he is certainly not other peoples either! X

Just have pity for whoever he ends up with.

He’s blocked you because he’s got less emotional intelligence than a 12 year old. And being the parent of a child, who is currently 12. I can tell you they’re basically giant toddlers making the most stupid decisions.

Everything he’s done has said more about him than you. Instead of putting the experience down to no chemistry between the two of you, he cannot face potentially being rejected and has attacked you then blocked you. Yup. Definitely something a 12 yo would do.

What a total oddball!!!

So he is single? That’s a real shock 😂

Don’t give it another thought - that’s very much about him not you!

He sounds deeply pathetic. You definitely dodged a bullet there. What a sad, inadequate little man.

@Feministschool

Good reply. I used something similar to a guy once who decided to wander up to me in the street and tell me how unattractive I am. I wouldn't mind, but he made the back end of a bus look like Miss World.

He was just trying to make himself feel better by making me feel shit. And that's what OP's twunt has done.

He is really messed up so don't even consider being friends with him. Also he didn't ask you for a joke and he doesn't find you unattractive - this behaviour is about his insecurities and nothing else. Stay far far away from him.

He should be ashamed of himself. What kind of person thinks this is an ok way to treat someone? He is despicable.

What a bellend. Sounds like weird negging, along with telling you he doesn't find women who look like you attractive.

Please remember, as you know, that decent, well adjusted adults do not ask others out 'for a joke'. Neither do they speak negatively of someone's attributes for no reason. He is an inadequate and twisted little man, avoid him.

Do something nice that makes you feel good about yourself and forget this toerag.

What a weirdo.
No he wouldn't have asked then gone on a proper date with bowling and dinner if it was a joke.

@frumpety and @Feministschool

replies are gold!

It's handy to memorize a few snarky phrases to put asshats in their place.

He sounds pathetic. Don't spend another second worrying about that loser.

Op if women had the ability to spot arseholes at twenty paces, MN would be a very quiet place.