What small, dull, mundane things make you love your DP?

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I don't mean big things like him being a good father or a loving partner.

I mean little things that just make you think "I'm glad I stuck with you" and "life would be just a little bit worse without you doing XYZ" a couple of times per day.

For me...
My DP is freakishly good at making up rhymes and limericks on the spot. They're always rude and very often offensive about people (including me and him) and really make me laugh. Life would be much duller without his impromptu poems.

DP is also amazing at making cups of tea. He's a scientist so I don't know whether it's many years of lab work measuring things out and stirring things but his teas are fantastic even though he's not been in a lab for about six years. Life would be considerably worse without his tea-making. Even I can't make tea for myself as well as he does.

What about you?

My DH stands with his back to me and flexes his buttocks in time to a tune he is do do doo ing! No matter how low I am (and I am ill a lot this last three years) I laugh because it is bloody hilarious. He has had cancer twice and both times he dropped to skeletal proportions. Even though he had no buttocks and his skin was hanging like swags, he still did this party trick. I have saved his life twice but he has saved me a lot more.

And he makes AMAZING sandwiches! He'll always ask if I want one too when he starts making himself one, and I'll often say no thanks as I'm not hungry. Then I'll see the delicious sarnie he's created, and want a bite (and he'll then make one for me).

When our dog went blind in the space of a weekend and the (very expensive) specialist said there was nothing we could do, DH went around the entire house and garden wrapping everything in bubblewrap that might injure the old fella. He then taught him a series of clicks for left right etc. and made a rigid lead so he could be steered out of trouble on a walk. He made a special backpack to carry the dog in when he got tired. Within thirty seconds of being placed in it the dog woud be asleep with his head on DH's shoulder.

After we had the old doggo PTS, seeing DH sat in a pile of bubblewrap that he had removed from everything and crying like a child broke my heart. I could not love him more.

@FlapsInTheWind - I love the sound of your DH.

Since our son was born my husband texts me every day he's at work to check how I'm feeling and if I need him to pick shopping up after work.
When I was in hospital recently he sent me photos of our children every day which really helped as, I was missing them so much
And he makes me the best malibu and coke ever. Don't know his secret but never tastes the same when I make it..

[quote monkeyonthetable]@FlapsInTheWind - I love the sound of your DH.[/quote]
Thanks Monkey

Thanks for starting this thread OP. There are some good 'uns out there. This thread proves it.

@FlapsInTheWind that made me cry

My DP always makes me tea in the mornings and if I'm out during the day and he pops home, he always makes me a tea and a note so when I get back I have a cup of tea waiting for me.

He gives the best hugs and makes me feel safe and loved always

He buys me flowers because he knows they make me happy

He sends me an I love you text at least once a day

He can fix anything and always goes out of his way to help my family when they need it

If I'm in pain, he makes me a hot water bottle and tucks the heated blanket round me

He's the best daddy and it melts me when I see him and our son together

He sits and chats while I'm cooking - XH never did that & it was really lonely

I'm a good cook but poached eggs have always defeated me - he makes great poached eggs

He rubs my feet if I drape my legs on his knee

He gets on with things that need to be fixed - no messing, no faffing

He lets me stroke his beard whenever I want to - a waitress looked at us really fondly when I was doing it in a restaurant

I've really enjoyed this thread, its brought tears several times! Here is my contribution.

Things I love about my fiance -

Hes a big chap, heavy built. He has his hair cut short back and sides, and when his tousle haired muscly self returns from the bathroom in the morning, he has combed his hairs all neatly in a row and smells nice.

He gives lots of kisses and cuddles. He joins in when I use baby talk. In bed I cuddle a teddy and when I get out to make the morning coffee, I give him the teddy. Hes half asleep but a hand comes out and grabs the teddy and snuggles her in under his chin and in his chest.

He would help anyone with anything and he is generous with money.

He is a very calm, stable man who has not had much of a home, being abandoned by his mother as a child. He loves our home and is blossoming in the stability and I think secretly likes me with the decorating, arranging, nice lamps, pink stuff, nice thick towels and he admits he likes having a shopping list on the go.

We are full of plans for when we buy our first home together and he can have a man shed and do things in the garden.

I love this thread - these wonderful men out there. Should be compulsory pre-nup reading.
Mine, funnily enough, also makes excellent poached eggs, and I can never get them right.
He does voices for each of our pets, which really match their personalities. He's sure one of then is a Russian princess, and the cat is Scottish. We live down south.

He always fills the fridge with cold water for me. He makes me hot water bottles. He tells outrageously offensive jokes. He makes up games and jokes for the kids. I never refill the water tank in my car for the windscreeny thing and at some point I'll get in my car and it's filled.

It's a weird thing, but every time I hear this I think "thank God I married him, he's wonderful!"

DH earns about five times what I do. We have a lot of friends and family where the man is a high earner and the woman earns little or nothing. And occasionally it has happened that at some point the husband makes some remark about her "spending my money on X", or "why am I buying us a nice car if you can't park it" or something else that implies all money is rightfully his and it's only through indulgence his wife and mother of his children is allowed to have it. Even if said in jest, it makes DH fume.

I might not even notice it but he'll rant in the car on the way home that he sees that attitude a lot in his (male-dominated) profession and if you expect someone to marry you and raise a family then your income is both of yours because you're in this as a team. He always notices what the under-earning wife brings to the team - cost of childcare, flexibility, her savings when they got married contributing to the house etc. I love him for this.

I didn't work myself for 6 years when our eldest was little and he never once breathed a word about my use of "his" money.

@FlapsInTheWind

When our dog went blind in the space of a weekend and the (very expensive) specialist said there was nothing we could do, DH went around the entire house and garden wrapping everything in bubblewrap that might injure the old fella. He then taught him a series of clicks for left right etc. and made a rigid lead so he could be steered out of trouble on a walk. He made a special backpack to carry the dog in when he got tired. Within thirty seconds of being placed in it the dog woud be asleep with his head on DH's shoulder. After we had the old doggo PTS, seeing DH sat in a pile of bubblewrap that he had removed from everything and crying like a child broke my heart. I could not love him more.

Bloody hell that made me cry. Our dog had surgery a few years ago and was pain all night after. Dh slept next to him on the floor and patted him all night.

When I open the drive gates, he drives through ever so slowly and carefully to make sure he doesn't hurt me.

He switches the tap from shower to bath every morning when he finishes so I don't forget and soak my hair.

He brings me flowers from abroad because he knows I love them ( puts them through the X ray machine at security! 😂)

If we go to a restaurant for a special occasion he helps me on and off with my coat and makes sure I'm comfortable before he sits down.

If he wants something and I say it's in my bag, he'll bring the bag to me because he doesn't think a gentleman should go into a lady's handbag.

If I or our DC have ever needed something he has made sure it's there, no matter what it took.

He respects me and my opinions, and I respect him. This means on occasion we can have very very full and frank discussions, because that respect is never in doubt.

He helped save the life of our child.

When I bought a long wig to try, he put it on so I could give it a haircut. He's very masculine, and it was literally the funniest thing I've ever seen.

He's very special, and after several decades my favourite sound is still hearing him laughing with friends in the next room.

He likes cats and will stop to stroke/say hello to cats we meet when out and about.

He's generous - there's none of getting your own coffee because he's too tight to buy things when not in a round that I had in a previous relationship.

He's kind and helpful - if he sees that a tiles on a neighbour's roof has slipped as a result of a bad storm and knows they're away, he'll get his ladder out and get up on their roof to sort it so they don't come back to damp.

He'll automatically carry bags for me when we're out. If I've been to the supermarket, he'll come out to the car to help carry bags back to the house.

He kisses me hello, goodbye and goodnight. He's affectionate.

We cry laughing at very silly jokes and observations.
He dances with me and compliments me on everything . I know absolutely that he would never cheat on me, I know he wouldnt risk losing me.
He is amazing at carpentry and makes the most perfect furniture as if it was nothing at all.

@something2say

I've really enjoyed this thread, its brought tears several times! Here is my contribution.

Things I love about my fiance -

Hes a big chap, heavy built. He has his hair cut short back and sides, and when his tousle haired muscly self returns from the bathroom in the morning, he has combed his hairs all neatly in a row and smells nice.

He gives lots of kisses and cuddles. He joins in when I use baby talk. In bed I cuddle a teddy and when I get out to make the morning coffee, I give him the teddy. Hes half asleep but a hand comes out and grabs the teddy and snuggles her in under his chin and in his chest.

He would help anyone with anything and he is generous with money.

He is a very calm, stable man who has not had much of a home, being abandoned by his mother as a child. He loves our home and is blossoming in the stability and I think secretly likes me with the decorating, arranging, nice lamps, pink stuff, nice thick towels and he admits he likes having a shopping list on the go.

We are full of plans for when we buy our first home together and he can have a man shed and do things in the garden.

This is such a lovely post. You make your fiance feel safe and allow him to be who he is without judgement and that's really special.

I hope you get that house and have a long and happy life together

This is a lovely post.

My dh and I are facing major challenges at present. He has his good points which I overlooked over the years because I have never been content. I have realised If you are unhappy within yourself you cannot be happy with anyone.

Takes out the bin
Deals with car insurance
Hands on with the children
If I am unwell he will run out and buy medication
Buys me nice gifts
Buys me flowers and chocolates
Unloads dishwasher

If he goes to the shop, whether the local one or the supermarket, he always brings me back a bottle of fizzy wine even though he doesn’t drink it himself, because he knows I love it.

@yaottie

Thank you xxx our flat sale completes soon and then we are off!

Mine will get up and make me tea, however early it is - often v early as I'm an early morning waker ... He never complains (sometimes a gentle sigh when it's 05:30).

What I don't understand is how he knows I'm awake and why he's awake too (IFSWIM) .... It must be telepathy or something.

I do love him for it

Oh these are lovely!

When I'm hungover my favourite chocolate bar, crisps and a can of diet coke appear as if by magic.

When I get into bed he reaches for my hand.

He takes out the bin and cleans the bathroom because I hate doing them.

He's an amazing cook and cooks my favourite meals as if it's no bother when they really take hours.

When he's happy he makes little 'Hmm' noises

He would do anything to make me laugh

He knows when something is wrong even if I've been trying really hard to hide it. And he lets me know he knows, but we don't have to talk about it until I'm ready. Sometimes not at all.

Always hugs me, tidies up after me, coffee in bed most mornings :)

Oh I (almost) forgot one for dp he flirts with me all the time. But really cheesy over the top heart attacks at how gorgeous he thinks I am. I do the same back, objectify the living daylights out of him most days

Does anyone know how we nominate this thread for Classics?
@Admin?
Such a marvellous thread and wonderful comments 😊