What small, dull, mundane things make you love your DP?

[OilBaron]

I don't mean big things like him being a good father or a loving partner.

I mean little things that just make you think "I'm glad I stuck with you" and "life would be just a little bit worse without you doing XYZ" a couple of times per day.

For me...
My DP is freakishly good at making up rhymes and limericks on the spot. They're always rude and very often offensive about people (including me and him) and really make me laugh. Life would be much duller without his impromptu poems.

DP is also amazing at making cups of tea. He's a scientist so I don't know whether it's many years of lab work measuring things out and stirring things but his teas are fantastic even though he's not been in a lab for about six years. Life would be considerably worse without his tea-making. Even I can't make tea for myself as well as he does.

What about you?

Silly dancing to the radio with me whilst helping me cook

He has endless patience for IT issues.

He somehow manages to be always up for sex without being a pest - any slight suggestion from me and he’s basically in his boxers and pointing at the nearest flat surface

I know this seems old fashioned but he always holds the door open for me .

He takes my car to get it cleaned and fills it up for me at weekends so I never need to.

He makes me lunch and cups of tea, or will bring lunch home for me as a surprise if he’s working nearby.

I run an online business and he takes my post to the post office every morning on his way to work and photographs all the receipts so I get them straight away.

We were on holiday recently and the dog wanted to sleep on me, I was really overtired and couldn’t sleep with him on my legs (dog would normally sleep downstairs at home). He took the dog and slept on the floor with him in his dog bed so I could sleep.

He’s always happy when he arrives home and loves playing with the kids and talking about their day. He says they ‘destress’ him (the complete opposite of my dad who found us stressful and always had to eat dinner in silence).

There is a very lovely poem by U A Fanthorpe. It always reminds me of dh and always makes me cry.
Sort of sums up this lovely thread

There is a kind of love called maintenance
Which stores the WD40 and knows when to use it
Which checks the insurance, and doesnt forget
The milkman; which remembers to plant bulbs;
Which answers letters; which knows the way
The money goes; which deals with dentists
And Road Fund Tax and meeting trains,
And postcards to the lonely; which upholds
The permanently rickety elaborate
Structures of living, which is Atlas.
And maintenance is the sensible side of love,
Which knows what time and weather are doing
To my brickwork; insulates my faulty wiring;
Laughs at my dryrotten jokes; remembers
My need for gloss and grouting; which keeps
My suspect edifice upright in air,
As Atlas did the sky.

What a brilliant poem, @nearlyoldenough. Thank you for sharing it.

Not so little, he does all the finance, so moves money into or out of savings, pays off the credit cards, pays bills. I’m so thankful, I just hate doing it!

He makes most of the meals, I come home, food is on it’s way, it’s great! He’s great!

DH also has a magical superpower - when my computer plays up and spins rainbow wheels and freezes he comes and stands by it and it starts working again. The amount of times I've felt like throwing it across the room when I'm working to deadline and it starts glitching, so he stops what he is doing and comes and stands beside it, then it just settles down and reloads very obediently. He has that calming effect on things.

I don't have a dp..i left my exP through horrific abuse but this gives me hope that there are wonderfully decent men out there :)

He always makes sure I have enough pepsi max in the fridge.
He does all the shopping and cooking.
He knows so much about plants and nature and I love listening to him speak about it.
He makes the best chicken pie.
He always makes me feel beautiful.
He is very handsome- shallow but it makes my days brighter looking at him. After 14 years he still gives me butterflies at times.
He massages my feet.
He is the best cuddler- if I am feeling crap his strong arms make me feel protected.
He has a really sweet laugh.

These are lovely to read. My dh is another one who brings me tea every morning. He'll always do the emergency shop run, he can fix anything, he's great with the kids, the dogs, and me.

Makes me a coffee every morning and brings it to me in bed.
Takes the Micky out of my clumsiness in a way that I can’t help but laugh at because he makes it funny.
Let’s me warm my cold feet on him and steal his baths when he’s just run them.

What a great thread!

He remembers the first time we met - he's always remembered what I was wearing - and we were only 15 at the time.

He can't get to sleep at night if we're not touching - sometimes when it's hot we just lie as far apart as possible but hold hands.

He talks to his dog - an enormous dumb beast - as though he is a toddler and reminds me of what a brilliant dad he was when the kids were babies.

At the beginning of the year DD and I both had tummy bugs. He slept on the sofa with her all night because she fell asleep with her head on his shoulder (she's 18!) and I had the bed to myself.

He pretends not to be interested in any of my trashy reality shows (like Married at first sight) but makes me call him over whenever any drama is happening and makes loads of observations about the contestants.

He always does little runs to the shop when I fancy something.

He scratches my head while I lay on his lap when we’re watching tv together.

He makes up really fun games with our DD

My DH is able to reverse huge things into tiny spaces. At one caravan park he did reversed our huge twin axle caravan onto an awkward pitch in a single manoeuvre. It was so good, other caravan owners came up to congratulate him.

The second he hears me creaking about upstairs in the morning, the kettle goes on and there'll be a cup of tea waiting for me.

He's very patient with my health issue and if we have to change plans or I have to spend time in bed, he understands

He adores animals and they, without fail, love him.

He does a fantastic Donald Duck impersonation.

He runs me a bath every night and makes sure my dressing gown and towel are handy. He'll warm then on the radiator if it's cold.

If I say I fancy a gin/cake/chocolate he'll always say go for it. If there's none in the house, he'll go and buy it for me.

He's very reassuring and solid.

Mummybiscuitx I was in the same position as you. Please don't give up hope, there are decent men out there.

It's boring but my DH always brings me a cup of tea in bed in the morning and puts a fresh glass of water on my bedside table each night.

My DH makes me laugh so much. I love the cup of coffee he brings me in the morning. He always makes me feel special and puts up with all sorts from me

He does technology stuff I can't be bothered to do or don't understand. He will always tickle my back even when he's tired and make me cups of tea without me having to ask. He's also really funny and we have the same sense of humour.

@OilBaron Just back from work...to read this lovely thread. Your DH's limericks are hilarious. Here's one for him which I made up for a friend called Harriet.

There was a young girl called Harriet,
Who met a young man in a chariot,
He poured her some wine,
'T'was simply divine,
Until he told her he was Judas Escariot.

These are so lovely to read.

Mine has pissed me off tonight so the only compliment I’m willing to give is for his excellent parking skills. I may return tomorrow if he redeems himself

When he comes home from work and I see him is all I need. He makes a good cup of tea though

He does all the ironing. And enjoys it.

He also has the most gorgeous soothing voice and when I can’t sleep will whisper all sorts of random chat in my ear as it calms me down and I drift off.

He is delicious

DH has a busy and demanding job but works from home and always does housework every day in his lunch break, so there’s never anything to do when I get back.

He always notices when my drink is empty and gets me a new one without me asking.

He always makes secret notes of things I mention I like so he can surprise me with them for my birthday, or Christmas, or sometimes just for no reason.