What small, dull, mundane things make you love your DP?

[OilBaron]

I don't mean big things like him being a good father or a loving partner.

I mean little things that just make you think "I'm glad I stuck with you" and "life would be just a little bit worse without you doing XYZ" a couple of times per day.

For me...
My DP is freakishly good at making up rhymes and limericks on the spot. They're always rude and very often offensive about people (including me and him) and really make me laugh. Life would be much duller without his impromptu poems.

DP is also amazing at making cups of tea. He's a scientist so I don't know whether it's many years of lab work measuring things out and stirring things but his teas are fantastic even though he's not been in a lab for about six years. Life would be considerably worse without his tea-making. Even I can't make tea for myself as well as he does.

What about you?

Every morning I wake up to a pot of tea and a reminder to take my pills. If I am away, he rings me up to remind me.
He chops wood and stacks it up in the shed for winter.
When I lose my glasses, car keys, phone, pen etc, he finds them.
He can't say the word “pie” without a big greedy grin on his face
He deals with the spiders.
He makes me laugh.
He has a special silly song that he sings to comfort me when I feel ill (too outing to repeat, unfortunately)
He does most of the shopping and loves a bargain, and always brings back something as a treat for me.
Ever since the pandemic, he has taken to saying the word “China” in the same breathy, venomous way Donald Trump says it.
He always does the bins, the vehicles, the wood burner and makes the bread.
All dogs adore him, and it is so obvious that it is mutual!

Love this thread. It was reading things like this that made me hopeful I’d eventually find a nice partner. Now I have one who sings to the dog, brings me tea in bed and always cuddles me even if I’ve come back to bed in the night and he’s actually asleep. He also puts on the lights I like for when I get home from a long day.

He learned to make a good cup of tea for me, despite the fact that he can’t stand tea.

Knowing that I get quite anxious about following the rules, and that I have a rare medical condition which was not supposed at the time to make me more vulnerable to Covid, he didn’t want to take the chance and took on all of our shopping. As well as the shopping for his sister and parents who were all isolating. He’s doing the shopping for three households and never complained about it once.

Every evening when he goes to bed he has a cuddle with the cat while I’m in the bathroom, and I can hear him saying “tell me about your day” and “did you chase that spider?” “Were you looking out of the window?”

When I get upset about something for the millionth time, he listens and responds like it’s the first time I’ve told him.

@Oxyiz I hope the test results are something that can be fixed easily

Mine makes me a cup of tea in the morning. He tells me I'm gorgeous even when I look & feel like a bag of shite. He does all the finances even though he hates it. He doesn't walk our dog alone often, but when I've not been able to, he takes her out on long rambles and cleans up after her (even though he doesn't in the garden as it makes him retch).

He’ll put my phone on charge as I leave it everywhere around the house, he gives me food first thing in the morning, he’ll do the laundry and I never have to think if I have to think if I have clean shirts for work, he is feeding the very birds that prevent us to keep the window open at night- early mornings on hot summer nights, he will still say some funny word I never heard him say after 2 decades together, still calls me pet names, texts me wishing me a good day around the time I should start getting ready for work as I am terrible time keeper, and the list goes on. What lovely responses I have read so far😻

@The3rdWatermelon your answer about the cat has got me melted

He used to always buy me little gifts and do nice things. We had a rough patch and now he does nothing nice at all.

He can fix things and do DIY so that’s probably it

He always makes me feel safe , from the first time we met .I love the smell of his neck , he is very domesticated and does all the washing ,he is really good at making / building things , and really good at sex !

These are all absolutely lovely. Makes me so sad to realise what I haven't got. In fact, I might print this out and stick it in front of him!!!!

There is always a hazelnut Lindt bar in my secret place, even though I never buy it and he never eats it.

He always makes me a drink to take to bed ...he is away for work this week and when I went to bed he had put some bottled water on my bedside table . It's the little things 🥰

Another one here who always gets a morning cuppa. He'll make me scrambled egg whenever I want as mine are absolutely awful! Loves my daughter more than I ever thought anyone but me would/could.

He always asks me what time do I need to wake up in the morning (we both work from home atm) so he can get up before me to bring me a cup of tea in bed.

He makes a great cuppa

He's friendly to everyone, even if I've dragged him to something for one of my friends and he doesn't know anyone

He always dances with me at weddings

He always drives long distances and does tyres and oil before we leave

He never complains

He wraps me up when I've fallen asleep

He lets me fill the house with plants

He runs me baths and puts my towel on the hot rail to heat

He sweeps the garden and loves it. It's so sweet

He lets me warm up my cold feet on his warm legs in bed

He's wonderful. I feel very blessed

This thread is so wholesome and wonderful ❤️

He buys me a bag of Maltesers once a week
If he has to pick me or someone else up ( from the airport or something) he is never late.
He gives me a foot massage everyday
He takes the dcs school uniform shopping and labels everything- really grateful for this because I dislike uniform shopping.

It's been so lovely to read!
I've been trying to think of something to add, but don't seem to have much
He does get rid of spiders if i ask nicely, so that's something

He sorts out Christmas gift buying for dcs and most of our family. I help, input ideas and often pick things up Eg if he orders from argos but he takes the lead and puts the thinking in about who would like what.
And we share a sense of humour, helped by the fact weve known each other 25 years. Just a word or phrase can have us both laughing at the same silly joke.

Wow this thread is making me realise things I was perhaps taking for granted, so thank you.
My DH is never late, never keeps me waiting. He is so utterly reliable which makes me feel very safe.
He is an amazing cook and does most of the cooking. The fridge can be bare and he'll make a delicious curry from store cupboard ingredients. If I happen to be having a lie down at the end of an exhausting day he'll ask me if I want to eat it in bed (yes!) and bring it up to me.
He makes me tea every morning. And then a coffee later (both WFH).
He too chops logs and does all the gardening and veg growing and animal care.
He patiently listens to my worries and it helps me get a load off my mind.
He lets me choose what to watch on tv.
He always brings me a drink and refills it without asking.
If there's not much left of something (food or drink) he'll always give it to me.
We've been together 20 years.
(Just for balance though.... he does zero housework, washing up, or laundry and doesn't always do the bins without a push!!)

@Themadcatparade

Whenever we are out and we bump in to someone he knows and he gets talking or he is distracted elsewhere - on the phone, driving in the car, at his parents - he always reaches a hand out to me and touches me or gives me a tiny squeeze. I think it’s his way of reassuring me that even though his focus isn’t on me at the time, I’m always in his thoughts.

That is so sweet.

He rings me from work just to see if I'm OK. He fills my car up so I don't have to. Tells me I always look gorgeous. Let's me be a housewife. Let's me have lovely long naps. Helps me look after my mum.

@allthegoodusernameshavegone

There is always a hazelnut Lindt bar in my secret place, even though I never buy it and he never eats it.

Is that a euphemism? 🤣

@GolightlyMrsGolightly 😉

Always Pepsi max in the fridge even though he prefers Fanta.
He bought me a new fluffy towel for my toilet 😍

None. He is small, dull and mundane, sorry!

Love this thread ❤️

Mine is the most wonderful man I wish I had met 10 years ago as I think I'm already massively boosted just by having him as a boyfriend.

He makes me feel like I'm the sexiest and most attractive woman on the planet (even though in reality I've had 4 children and my body shows it!).

He is always gently pushing me to do things but things that will better myself, take a new course or meet up with my friends (I struggle socially and would usually try to cancel plans).

He makes me a cup of coffee every morning we wake up together and always greets me with 'Morning baby, you look beautiful today'.