What small, dull, mundane things make you love your DP?

[OilBaron]

I don't mean big things like him being a good father or a loving partner.

I mean little things that just make you think "I'm glad I stuck with you" and "life would be just a little bit worse without you doing XYZ" a couple of times per day.

For me...
My DP is freakishly good at making up rhymes and limericks on the spot. They're always rude and very often offensive about people (including me and him) and really make me laugh. Life would be much duller without his impromptu poems.

DP is also amazing at making cups of tea. He's a scientist so I don't know whether it's many years of lab work measuring things out and stirring things but his teas are fantastic even though he's not been in a lab for about six years. Life would be considerably worse without his tea-making. Even I can't make tea for myself as well as he does.

What about you?

We share a similar sense of humor and can make each other laugh and do.

He's my favourite person to drink with.

He is kindness itself.

Very patient.

Makes me coffee every morning.

Is an endlessly patient, loving father to our children.

He tries to help when he can without being asked.

Every morning when he leaves for work he gives me a kiss on the cheek while I'm still curled up in bed.
He walks the dog when the weather is bad so I don't have to. He also takes the dog out if he needs to go during the night.
He makes amazing cups of tea.
Brings in firewood for me in winter so I don't have to go out to the shed in the cold.
Whenever he goes to the shops, he brings me back a treat of some sort.
He lets me control the remote.
He also let me get three cats, even though he never even wanted one

@nearlyoldenough I just sent that poem to my dad. I should have married a man like him instead of my STBXH

He makes and brings me a cup of tea every morning. He will deal with a spider if it's freaking me out. He will open any jars bottles etc that I can't. He texts or emails me during the day to ask how my day is going. He deals with many of the big bills so I don't have to think about them (I do lots of others so he doesn't have to think about them).

Tells me he can't believe his luck that he found me. He really does seem to think I'm beautiful and tells me every day. Is an amazing cuddler. He makes me laugh and makes me feel safe. He's brilliant with kids and animals and awkward old ladies. He does the weekly shop because I hate doing it. I usually cook, and he usually washes up. When he does cook it's always delicious, and every now and again he'll surprise me with some dish he's knocked up, thanks to Google.
He's funny and warm, and kind and patient. And gorgeous and sexy, and great in bed.
I love everything about him.

Oh I forgot he is the Spider Knight too and removes them from the house in a humane way, dropping them off in the field at the bottom of the garden.

He does his fair share of crappy household admin like booking holiday club and sorting car insurance.

He loves reading Catherine Cookson type sagas.

He insists on buying my mum a separate birthday present off his own bat. He’s lovely.

@Laurie01

My DH buys me a Bounty every now and then just for no reason!

My DH did exactly this tonight :)

He buys a little pressie for me every Friday, today's gift was a bouquet of flowers (and a bag of Sainsbury's custard doughnuts!)
He makes me a cuppa every week day before he leaves for work
He always tells me how much he loves me
He seems to fancy the pants off of me even after being together over 30 years (I feel the same about him mind!)
He tells really bad Dad jokes
He plugs in my phone most nights because he knows how useless I am at remembering to do it
He insists on cooking every evening because he finishes work earlier than I do even though he starts work 2 hours before I do!
What a lovely thread - it's made me feel all warm inside thinking about how much I love him!

He dances TERRIBLY but DEEPLY enthusiastically in his pants in the morning while making coffee.

When we're snuggled in the mornings and he wants DSS to come in, he'll cover my ears with his hands before he shouts through.

He makes me snacks that I didn't even know I wanted, in order to keep The Beast at bay (I get hangry)

When we're sitting quietly and I suddenly come out with something completely random (which happens fairly often), he never, ever comments on the randomness - he just goes with it.

He doesn't often talk to me about the specifics of why he loves me –but he tells other people (sometimes even strangers) all the time.

Even though he doesn’t really like music (I know!) he dances with me whenever I feel like it, eg in a Greggs at a service station, in the kitchen, at weddings.

He’s completely wild when drunk and we behave very badly-he once went down on me in a lift .

He makes up songs that gently take the piss out of me and I once laughed so hard at one I actually pissed my pants.

He’s a secret eater and I’m always finding empty biscuit packets and sweet wrappers hidden in weird places. He sometimes eats in his sleep. For some reason I find it adorable.

When I had bad MH issues and couldn’t get up from the floor, he actually laid down with me so I wouldn’t be alone. This was after he’d paid for a date activity, and he didn’t even mention it. No one has ever done that for me before.

This is really cheesy but in our better moments I think I might have made him up cos he’s too good? Like in practical magic when she wishes for him to arrive.

He really really likes jigsaws.

Lots of affection and knowing my favourite things from the shops, be it fruit or a hallumi burger I love them with salad and mayonnaise.

DH has the ability to "snip" things (thread, plastic tags etc) with his very sharp incisor teeth. I don't know if this is an unusual ability, or if I just have blunt teeth.

He also has an amazing sense of direction, and is very capable at "survival" stuff. I love going out into the hills for adventures and feeling safe in his hands.

He's great with kids (playful and not patronising), and is a lifelong vegetarian, with such a kind heart to animals.

He never uses deodorant, yet somehow never smells bad?! His natural skin smell is gorgeous.

The crook of his arm is so soft.

Most of all though, he makes me laugh so hard.

One of DH's gags which is guaranteed to make me laugh is to say something like "hey Wank, have you seen what's under here?" While lifting the corner of a book or the edge of a mug, and as I unsuspectingly peer over, he produces a perfectly timed fart.

He dries my hair and loves doing it. He strokes my back and plays with my hair when we go to bed because I love it.

I hate gardening but like a garden to look nice, he doesn't like it but does all the gardening because it makes me happy to see it looking nice.

He sorts my car out any time it needs it. He notices and does the bins without me ever having to ask. If anything needs fixing, he does it straight away without question. If he doesn't now how to do something, he will find out by watching YouTube or asking a friend.

He buys chocolate he knows I like. He rubs my feet if we are watching TV. He loves cuddling me last thing and night and first thing in the morning. He makes great cups of tea and makes them often. He used to be a chef so if I ask him to cook (I work less than he does) he does it without question. I get hangry and often don't realise before he does so he'll quickly go and get me food. He makes me laugh every day.

He compliments me and always tells me how much he adores me.

He is genuinely one of the good ones and whilst we have had the odd difficulty with stress etc, we know what we have is worth anything and that we can sort it and be better than ever.

My DP usually gets up before me, and when he does he'll often gently grab my foot or my hand and give it a squeeze, while saying in a voice if wonder, "Well, isn't this just a perfect scaled-down model of a human hand" or "Look at this perfect recreation of a human foot."

I'm petite, but not that petite. It just makes me feel perfect and loved.

I cannot believe all of this happens in real life! Honestly, I have set my bar so low. I need some of this!

Always puts the heated seat on in the car, if it's cold or I have period pain etc.

Will jump out of bed to get me painkillers if I wake up in pain, without being asked.

Puts things in my handbag he knows I'll forget the next day.

Let's me warm myself up on him when we get into bed without complaint.

Will always carry my suitcases and heavy bags, even if I can manage.

Puts my phone/watch on charge because I always forget.

I'm 33 weeks pregnant and if I role onto my back during the night, he pushes me onto my side.

DH is so gentle and kind to every living thing that’s smaller than him (which is most things ) especially our plants - he tends to them with such care and talks to them!

Automatically takes bags from me when we’re out together - even if they are light, or bulky, or embarrassing

Patiently teaches me things I don’t know - like words in his language or how to maintain my bike - even if he’s done it a thousand times before and I’ve forgotten

Face lights up like a little kid when he sees his favourite treats

Does a freakishly good impression of all farm animals

Invests all his time and money into making our tiny home a nicer space for both of us

Lets me stroke his facial hair as if he was a cat

Can fix literally everything - from his best mate’s computer, to our knackered old boiler on a freezing New Year’s Eve, to my work dilemmas

He is honestly a godsend and every day I am amazed and endlessly grateful that our paths crossed all those years ago.

This is such a lovely thread and I wish I’d read this 20 years ago.

How excited he gets about car adverts. And washing the car.

Rubbing toes with him.

He rescues snails from our garden. If they munch plants he has lovingly nurtured from seed, then he lifts them off gently, puts them all in a bucket and sets them free in the park.

This thread is such a tonic. So lovely to read about all the quietly wonderful DHs there are out there.

He's a natural early riser so often bakes something for breakfast before I'm up and I wake up to the smell. (sadly not today as we have early plans)
He cooks lots
He's not remotely tight with money. This is a bigger thing for me than it might sound as growing up we did have enough money but my parents did lots of building projects so I feel money was a kind of stress thing. So just knowing we can buy what we want/need without needing to check in is great.
I still get a little excited feeling when I kiss him after 16 years.

Lovely thread BTW. Really enjoying reading it

Some more things: the ridiculous voice he uses to talk to the cats.

Since he started WFH I've loved seeing the way his face creases with laughter as he chats with his work colleagues, and how he is also very brainy (I can see what a great work mate he must be).

He loves fixing bikes. Watching him do it reminds me of when we were students, and he would be repairing his old racer, with grease on his hands, a rough woolly jumper, and a cold nose.

He's great at doing the very boring and methodical stuff... Reading the small print, understanding taxes etc. He's saved us a small fortune over the years by noticing glitches in PAYE, or mortgage overcharging etc.