I do think paying for sex is a very grey area in some regard, in my earlier post I stated that all men who paid for sex are sexual abusers but that’s just not true of all men.
There were genuinely some really lovely men that paid for it (obviously if they were all bad then so many women wouldn’t do it and the majority were normal men) but you just took one look at them and knew that there was no way they could, excuse my language, ‘get a shag’ in the normal way if their life depended on it, some were very unhygienic, dressed awfully and had no game type thing and they only felt comfy with us escorts because obviously they didn’t have to impress us or anything, then there was men with things like Aspergers whose social skills just weren’t there and I mean seriously high functioning Aspies, I’m not saying men with Aspies can’t get sex but for some they have zero idea how to interact with women.
My ex partner of 5 years has Aspies and he actually was in the year above me at school, we met back in 2013 (and no he didn’t pay me for sex) and he knew that at the time I was an escort and he confided in me that he used escorts because of his Aspergers and he genuinely thought they liked the sex and that’s why they did the job, but I put him right and by the end of our relationship he knew exactly what the real reasons of prostitution were all about, however I do have a natural flair for being easy to talk too and his mother told me that she thought I was good for him and that I had gotten him out of his shell a little with my very personable and friendly, outgoing personality, and I think he just felt extremely comfy with me, but he was 32/33 when we met and I was his second serious girlfriend, his first was at age 19 to 21 so he had been single for 11/12 years when we met, and right now then I do have a feeling that now we are split up then unfortunately, he will be seeing escorts again because as a man, he has needs and he doesn’t have it in him to go out and meet women m, I only met him as we had a mutual friend, also from school, and I met him in the friends house.
In no way, shape or form is my ex a creepy misogynistic man but he just can’t pull women with his personality due to his Aspies, which is quite a shame, he was very good looking though and women always stared at him when we were out and about so he had the looks, the clothes and very sexy (or I thought so back then) but the social stuff just wasn’t there and he couldn’t help it.
I feel for men like my ex feeling like they have to pay for it, but he was single and so wasn’t hurting anyone, he had no drug, drink or smoking habits so his £££ was spent on sex unfortunately
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It’s the men that don’t have to pay and they have wives, partners etc that I have no respect for, one regular user or sauna had wife, a mistress and he was in the sauna 3-4 days a week and went with us all, now that’s a bastard in my opinion.
With some men then I can’t blame them for believing that we actually liked the sex because when they would say “so what got you into this line of work then”, then if you said the money then oh Jesus, that wouldn’t work for you, they start to resent you and then go away on that awful UKPunting site and write horrid things about you all because you admitted that the reason you degrade yourself is for money, so instead you would say (and my very first sauna boss told me to say this) “I do the job because I just love sex and money so I thought why not combine the 2 together then”, and some truly believe this but most of us, who don’t pay for it and are mainly women, can see that it’s so very obvious as to why any women would do that job, men just seem to think that we are as obsessed with sex as much as them, and it’s really frigging annoying, I heard so many men say “if I was a woman I’d have a mattress strapped to my back and be a millionaire” and one guy in the sauna lounge said to him “well actually no you wouldn’t because women don’t think like this and women aren’t as into sex as much as men”, and I thought that as that man knew the score then why the hell did he pay? He had a nice personality, good job, normal social skills, funny and single (he said) yet paid for it, and you think ‘why’, plus he was lovely when he went with you, easy to service and normal to talk too.
It’s men that know that we need the cash and that’s the reason, the only reason that job is done, that pay for it that gets me, but then on the other hand we wanted them to pay for it so we could make money, it’s a very confusing thing to have in your head.
Sorry I’ve rambled but this is like therapy for me to get all the old prostitution issues out of my messed up mind, I wish I never started the damn ‘job’ in the first place, I have ruined a part of me I’ll never get back.