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Distasteful thing said during sexting.

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User7458398748 · 12/08/2020 08:46

This might be TMI for some people.

Nice guy in every other way said during sexting.... that I am just three holes that need to be filled. We've been seeing each other a year and I like being a little submissive but this still makes me want to leave the relationship.

Quick question? Would it make you want to leave?

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RLEOM · 13/08/2020 23:57

I'd say "banter" stemmed from a degrading attitude towards women. Either way, not great.

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Trunkella · 14/08/2020 04:36

Ugh - he sounds exactly like a FWB I had many years ago (also in a high profile office based job). The sex was incredible, but it became addictive. Lots of boundary testing - he’d say it was fantasy, and he was unlikely to go through with it. Ultimately I felt objectified and dehumanised. Well done for blocking, but he will probably find a way to contact you - or you may well unblock. You’ll need to be strong. I wanted a family life based on trust and respect - and this is what I now have. As for ex FWB - he has had a string of failed relationships and I’m aware that he is not a happy person.

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