My Dh's wrist watch is driving a wedge between us...

[artichokes]

... it is a very expensive watch and he loves it. He could never afford another watch like it. Thing is it was a gift from his ex. She got in engraved on the back "To X, I love you every second, Y".

I hate the fact that we are married and have a baby but everywhere we go this memento of his last love comes with us. They are not in touch anymore and I am not worried he still loves her but I find this inordinately annoying.

Am I being unfair, obsessive and mad or do people agree that it is weird for him to keep the watch irrespective of how nice it is?

I'm assuming if he's such a nice bloke that his ex must have hurt him very badly. That he went through that and can treat the watch as a nice watch ought to be something you could manage too. Everytime you look at it think of something nasty you know she did/said to him and give him a cuddle.
Bit of schmaltz never hurts.

It wouldn't bother me, I'd see it as just a watch.

And I know that I'd never sell all the jewellery and presents that my DH has bought me should we get divorced. Not least because the DCs can divvy it up between them when I've carked it.

Dp says he would want the watch not the sentiment, so would ditch the message but not the watch IYKWIM

Lol at it being a big cock on his wrist. And the suggestion that he must have amazing bedroom prowess to have ever earnt it. DH is amazing in many, many ways but I think his ex also just liked to show off. The bloody watch is worth more than our car.

DH and I have had a really good talk about this tonight. He just loves the watch. He really loves it and knows he will never own anything like it again. He has acutally offered to try and sell it and use the money to buy another, similar one. The funny thing is that as soon as he offered to do that I knew I didn't mind if he kept the watch. All I wanted was for him to be sensitive to my concerns. He has been and that has destroyed any threat the watch signified to me.

aah good

I'm glad about that

next time it starts to niggle you just remember that it is a giant cock bracelet

OH morningpaper....you were dying to say cock ring really, werent you?

go on, ask him to demonstrate how he earned it... you deserve it. he needs to keep his skills up. i think it's his skills.

A watch that is worth more than a CAR???

OMFG, i didn't know such a thing existed...unles you frivesa really clapped out old banger that is!!??

frivesa = drive a

I can get you a fake patek philippe, is it the one that flips round? My dad has loads of them for some reason. You could give him that and he can still wave his willy but not have that particular watch

lol at CD fencing watches

set up a shop in member adverts love

I wasn't proposing that he sells her one
more that he gives her one!

(watch that is )

im glad you are feeling better about it all artichokes

oh LOL cd

My aunt used to have a problem with her husband's watch. She became allergic to it! These nasty little rashes used to appear all over her body.....in some rather embarrasing litte areas too. oooh Betty....

ooh good idea

paint the back of the watch with some allegen and then act surprised when he seems to be developing an allergy to it

I wonder how sick his ex is that she spent all that money on a watch for someone who is now her ex.

At least get him to delete the engraving, artichokes.