Getting my life back

[Witchesandwizards]

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The next chapter starting on a slightly more positive note. x

Hi OP, when I saw you'd updated I really hoped that the reason you hadn't posted was because everything was sorted and you were either happy in NZ or back in the UK. I'm sorry to hear that things have been so tough for you, but it's great that you now have proper support. Sad that your husband is showing his true colours, but given how long he's been gaslighting you and suggesting you are the problem, there must (?) be at least some comfort in knowing that you weren't the problem?

Also, if he's only seeing the children a few days a month, he's not going to want to ramp that up to 50/50, but presumably your worry is that he'll take the time and palm them off on his ropey family? I'd say that if he hasn't tried that already, it's fairly unlikely?

All the best to you - I've though of you often over the last few months.

So pleased you have updated us xxx

Randomly looked for this thread today and saw your update. What a truly awful time you’ve had.

Glad you have found support and hope things do improve for you

So glad to hear from you OP. Stay strong

So glad to hear you are okay... I too have thought about you often 🌸

I've been strangely attached to this thread as well, and I'm not usually. I really hope things get better for you - I'm glad to hear that you've found some work and that some things are better. Fingers crossed that you can continue to work on things to get better and eventually come back home. All the best.

@Witchesandwizards I hope you are doing ok.

I think of you often

Hi @Witchesandwizards, thank you for your update. Sorry to hear it's been so awful. I really hope the legal process moves on for you in the way that you hope it should. I'm also hoping that your kids would love to come back to the UK with you one day, permanently. Your ex doesn't deserve the three of you. Keep stalling re: house until legalities settle - it's a crazy time to be in limbo property-wise. It will just gain in value while you stall anyway!

Just read all your threads and I think you are amazing. Both as a woman and a parent. I so hope things are better

Hi OP, just wondering how you are doing

Sending lots of love to you OP. Have often thought of you since your very early posts and wish you all the very best.

I had missed the 2021 update and although shocked to see you were still mired in this mess you came across as having some support, a close and peaceful routine with your children and potentially legally a way through.

I hope things have settled more for you since your last update. I think often of you and how you have continued to push through with dignity and I hope that you are in a place or peace and comfort.

Totally agree @Glorified - well said.

I think of you too. And hope and pray you are safe, content and thriving.

I also think of you often and hope everything turns out ok for you 💐

@Witchesandwizards wishing you and your DCs a kind and gentle Christmas wherever you all are - the physically and emotionally. Take care of each other.

Hi OP, I am on holidays just north of Auckland and have been thinking of you. I so hope you are happy and well.

Oh this just popped up in my notifications. I often think of you too witchesandwizards.

I was on your threads from the start and was moved by the devastating isolation that you found yourself in physically and emotionally.

I saw you try so so hard to make sense of the situation totally unsupported or understood (in fact actively undermined) by your DH and his family.

I hope you and your DC have found a way to live and a routine that is comforting and gets you through the day until other options are available to you.

I think of you often too. I hope you're finding your way through.

Still thinking of you @Witchesandwizards and hope life is being kind to you xxx