Is it OK for dp to have naked photos of ex-girlfriends on the family computer?!

[bigwombat]

Just browsing randomly through the family laptop (kept in living room) when I came across 2 photos of one of dp's very treasured ex-girlfriends (tasteful but still naked!!) along with loads of other clothed ones. She was basically the love of his life but dumped him. I started seeing him a few months after they stopped seeing each other for the 2nd time (first went out 15 years before, he then left his wife for her more recently but it didn't work out).

There are also naked photos of another mysterious woman!

Is it commonplace for men to keep such photos of past lovers or am I right to be a bit bothered? It was on a computer used by everyone including dd1 so he obviously didn't feel he needed to hide it. Also he has never shown any interest in photographing me naked!!

I use 'monogamism' to describe excessive, irrational behaviour, as opposed to 'monogamy' or 'monogamous' which describes a particular sexual preference. Theres' nothing wrong with being monogamous as long as both partners have made a free and concious choice to have that sort of relationship, and have discussed it. THere is something wrong with constant snooping, spying, whining and obsessing - particularly when it leads to destruction of property or unreasonable restrictions on another person's life.

do you mean polygamy????????

Am ROFL at this exchange further down!!!

By UCM on Sun 30-Sep-07 21:31:31
Newy if I found a photograph of Dh's ex with her 'Jack & Danny' hanging out, I would be very annoyed. Sentiment would not be high on my list.

By fransmom on Sun 30-Sep-07 21:37:23
what's j&d ucm????????

By UCM on Sun 30-Sep-07 21:39:16
it's a fanny mate

By fransmom on Sun 30-Sep-07 21:39:34
ahhh

madamez - "THere is something wrong with constant snooping, spying, whining and obsessing - particularly when it leads to destruction of property or unreasonable restrictions on another person's life"

I don't think that many people would disagree with you. It's hardly an ideal situation and certainly not what most people aspire to. Trust has to come from both parties though and everyone differs in their idea of what 'unreasonable restrictions' might be. I wouldn't expect to have to complain about DH keeping naked pictures of exes on the computer but only because I know he wouldn't do it. Ditto his being unfaithful. I may be kidding myself of course but if you don't have that trust it must be very hard not to snoop, spy and whinge.

Sigh - I agree that no one would want to be in a relationship with 'constant snooping' etc. If directed at me, I was looking, bored, at photos on the pc, both mine and dps, opened a folder called 'General' and discovered said photos. Hardly snooping and spying. Anyway, I have moved on now

Bigwombat, that post wasn't directed specifically at you or at anyo hter individual, it was a general observation.