Do I need to stop speaking to him? (Talk some sense into me )

[harryberry44]

I was seeing a guy and he didn't want to commit so I ended it as it was going nowhere fast.
There were times it felt like it was then he ran away.
Anyway a month later we began texting again.
He has been lovely these last two months.
Chatting on phone.
Texting all the time,told me I looked nice on Saturday on a night out.
He's been supportive with my mum in hospital.
He is currently on holiday.
He text me earlier saying he's son has told him it's time he settled down.
He says so now he's going on a double date on Friday night.
I reply "oh well I'm sure you will have a good time"
He replied "no I won't"
Why tell me.
He knows I have feelings
He would never class us as "dating"
Now he's telling me he's going on a double date.
It makes me feel like shit
Like I'm not good enough etc
Part of me feels like just saying
Look I still have feelings with you
I don't want to know who your dating
Stop texting and phoning me.
I need to stop
He's hurting me.

Can’t you block him?

Block this messer

Why did he tell me ?
Does he not care that it hurts my feelings
Or trying to make me jealous

Block.

Also yes, I think he's testing to see how you'll respond which is a shitty thing to do. As per my first post, block.

block

Agree with others, block and move on. You know he's playing mind games... don't torture yourself.

It does feel like mind games.
Absolutely no reason for him to tell me
He knows I have feelings and all I ever wanted was for him to "date" me.

Block.

He’s making you feel like shit and will continue to do so.

Yes yes yes.......... chase me I'm a fairy.. horrible little man

Obviously the thing that's going round and round in my head is
Why is she good enough to go on a date with and I wasn't ?
He just makes me feel shit
Stupidly thought when he text about settling down ..he was going to ask me out.
Then ..tells me about his date.

There's no point thinking these questions. You'll just drive yourself crazy. He's a player.

Block all contact.

Everyone is telling you to block. That is what you need to do.

He's only treating you like this because you're letting him.

He isn't behaving respectfully towards you because you're not respecting yourself.

Just block him and put an end to it.

Literally everyone is going to tell you to block him. We have all experienced guys like this. He is absolutely no different. The only question is how long you're going to let him mess you around and make you feel like shit!

He's just not that into you. However he's not going to let a little detail like that stop him from getting his ego massaged by letting you dangle.

Block and move on.

And another saying BLOCK.

He's using you merely for an ego boost.

There's nothing wrong with you, he's a player and a nasty one!
Block him and start dating other men again and forget him.

AS PP have said: it really doesn't matter why he is behaving like this. The only thing that matters is that he is treating you badly and hurting your feelings. We've all been there. Block him. Walk away. Your future self will be very grateful that's what you did. Believe us all when we say you will get over him and he will become a dim and distant memory.

Would you guys explain why you are cutting contact or just simply disappear?
Does he even deserve an explanation.

Simply block and disappear. These types don't like to lose their ego booster and any explanation from you would just cause him to sweet talk to reel you back in.

You owe him nothing.

No he doesn't! Do you not think he KNOWS he's cutting you deep when he tells you he's going on dates?
Honestly, list 3 reasons you'd want to stay in contact with him. And one of them can't be 'he might want me to be his girlfriend one day.'

@GnomeOrMistAndIceGuy I honestly can't give you 3 reasons bar the one you said.
Everything is just hurt feelings /sadness
He knows he's hurting me but for some reason still does it.

No, he doesn't deserve an explanation. Just block and walk away.

More to the point - you know he's hurting you but you still let him do it. Time to stop.

I really do feel for you - it's so horrible to be trapped in this kind of mess with someone who doesnt deserve you and actively drags your self esteem down to the extent where you can't see yourself with anyone else.
Blocking him will seem absolutely impossible I bet. But the blunt replies from posters here are all coming from people who've been similarly messed about and deeply regret the time they invested into such horrible men.

Does he even deserve an explanation.

Nope.

He's not interested in a relationship with you, for whatever reasons (it may be he's not really interested in a relationship with anyone .. or even if he is, it's not you at this time and may never be) .. happens to the best of us. Every one if us has been rejected or not chosen including famous women who are envied for their looks etc.

Tbh his son having to tell him he thinks he should settle down - sounds like an ol jack the lad, wannabe player, fancies himself "free spirit" (wanker,) type.

Maybe he wants a (much) younger woman, maybe he wants a woman with serious assets,maybe he wants a woman whose kids are at a certain age, maybe something specific looks wise is his desk breaker that you don't happen to have (I dated an older man who liked big boobs and i didn't have them, he told me everytime he was tipsy, unsurprisingly the relationship didn't last), maybe he likes certain personality traits that aren't really you ..
Who the fk knows.

It doesn't matter, he's not offering you a relationship, you're feelings are getting hurt, it's unlikely to change. Concentrate on meeting other men not like him, on having fun and building up a great varied life try some new stuff.