Do I need to stop speaking to him? (Talk some sense into me )

[harryberry44]

I was seeing a guy and he didn't want to commit so I ended it as it was going nowhere fast.
There were times it felt like it was then he ran away.
Anyway a month later we began texting again.
He has been lovely these last two months.
Chatting on phone.
Texting all the time,told me I looked nice on Saturday on a night out.
He's been supportive with my mum in hospital.
He is currently on holiday.
He text me earlier saying he's son has told him it's time he settled down.
He says so now he's going on a double date on Friday night.
I reply "oh well I'm sure you will have a good time"
He replied "no I won't"
Why tell me.
He knows I have feelings
He would never class us as "dating"
Now he's telling me he's going on a double date.
It makes me feel like shit
Like I'm not good enough etc
Part of me feels like just saying
Look I still have feelings with you
I don't want to know who your dating
Stop texting and phoning me.
I need to stop
He's hurting me.

He's a wind up.

It's just wrong on so many levels, and not relationship material at all.
How can you "relate" to this!
It's sickening.

Do some nice things for yourself today OP.
Nice bath, put on a favourite item if clothing, eat well, study something for your development.

Best wishes

Well done for blocking

@harryberry44

I'm deffo not unblocking. One of the "dates" apparently can't wait for the sex when they meet. He's a looser. I do deserve better. Crack on mate ..I hope you catch chlamydia

Op, hes also a liar....

3 dates and cannot wait for the sex

I almost laughed out loud. Pathetic. What woman in the real world actually speaks like this?
Who is this man?
Some kind of sex god that women have no impulse and control around?

Op, hes is absolute cringe. Even if he did take your seriously and want to date... could you really?! It would end so badly with this egotistical lying knobhead....

Its so sad and pathetic you almost feel sorry for him.

Please never hit that unblock button, he will come back round sniffing, hes that kind of man...

Hes also a liar, and an hilarious one at that....
"Can't wait for the sex" ffs.....

Well done op, you've done the right thing. Some blokes don't want you, but like their ego stroked.

I dated someone like this, he then finished it saying he didn't want a mediocre relationship (charming), but then a month or so later kept reaching out to me, wanting to talk and flirt whilst telling me he didn't want a relationship. He got blocked too.

He thinks he is gods gift.
He isn't even anything special.
He's near 40 and behaves like a 20 year old

He thinks he is gods gift.
He isn't even anything special.

OP. You also need to take some responsibility here. He might be all the things people have said, but of course he thinks he's gods gift and special. You made him feel this way with your behaviour towards him.

Guys do this all the time.
They love the ego stroke and having someone to show off to, chat to, send pictures to, because it makes them feel special. The thing is though, thats a lot of the emotional connection that you'd expect in a relationship where they are expected to actually reciprocate and they're not interested in that bit.

You were just being the generic "girl" to text when they were feeling a bit lonely and wanting attention, good for you for cutting them off from their freebie ego boosts at the expense of your mental health.

He's a fantasist 🙄

On god he makes me full body crying and gives me second hand ick ugh. He's the type of bloke even his mates laugh at.

"Had a date with a model last night she was fucking gagging for it, couldn't get enough. Only problem is she's really small and my dick is so big you know?"

He's one of those OP. Keep him blocked, he's embarrassing.

As many I have been there, done that - when my kids were probably old enough to know better sadly - age is not a barrier to acting unwisely on feelings - for me anyway! I would say it was a long, complicated relationship but it wasn’t - he was a player and not into me on top - silly me wanted to ‘win’, but eventually realised he would only ever be a booby prize if I had done. One thing I noticed was that one week in the midst of this when he decided (yes I know) he would spend every night with me I actually found his company boring - it was all about the excitement of it all maybe. I kept trying to remember that week when we were done - which is only when I refused to interact with him for nearly a full year, as he would always nip back for an ego stroke, like my cat really! You can’t get past this guy until you stop communicating with him - everyone is right - but that’s a decision you might have to make in your own time, but the sooner you start the sooner you will get perspective and a happier life. Have to add that this guy is a bit excessive in his meanness re his dating reports and dangling you with nearly nothing - it won’t get better. But be kind to yourself as it’s a stressful time and a sad one, however unworthy that guy is to have caused it.