Never been part of a friendship group.

[Whisperywords]

This really.
It bothers me a lot.
I've seen women I used to go to school with continue their close-knit groups into their thirties. I've been on the side-lines of many groups, but never quite "made it." At school I used to eat my lunch with the same group of friends every day, I remember inviting them to my 16th birthday party and none of them ever inviting me to theirs. I'd been on the side-lines of their group since primary school.
I tried making friends with trouble-maker groups then, but just wasn't trouble enough.
I used to go clubbing with a different group of school friends then around the time of my 17th birthday, but never properly gelled with them either. There was no space for me in their limo to the prom, so I ended up going with the trouble makers, despite spending no time at all with them at the prom itself.
In my 20s, I made friends with a completely different friend from school and had by this point, friends I'd met at college and university, but still no group as such. I watched my previous friends become bridemaids for each other. Still, at 35, I've never been a bridesmaid.
I've had different circles of friends since but basically, always been a bit of a wanderer. DH has had one set of friends all his life. Hes 40. They've holidayed together, been each others ushers and god-fathers.
I'm still wandering and have a handful of friends from different times of my life. I still don't have a best friend and doubt I'd ever be a bridesmaid for any of them should they need one.
It makes me sad.
Where have I gone wrong?

[Whisperywords]

@VioletGrace I think you have a point about those with more friends being more sought after.
I once did a little experiment, I had a week where I had a lot of social meet-ups planned and I decided to post about them on SM (wouldn't usually) just to see if this made other "friends" want to meet up with me. I'd long suspected this theory.
It was a huge surprise to suddenly receive lots of messages from people wanting to meet up and socialise.
People don't like missing out. So, if it seems like you're the person everyone wants to socialise with, they want to get involved too!
Also, if you're someone who posts about meet-ups on SM, I think it rallies up more friends. I'm not someone who likes to post about my whereabouts on SM personally.

[kerryw1992]

Hi,
I think this is so common, it's honestly not just you at all!
I feel a bit like this too, I've got people I speak to but I don't really feel that I've found the right fit yet if you know what I mean!
Have you tried a friends app?
Ive tried peanut and I was really skeptical at first but I've met some people on there who I actually really get on with!
It's basically tinder for mums 😂
peanut.app.link/yORwALobN7

Hope this helps, it's free so worth a shot 🤷‍♀️ x