Secret planning to leave DH - days to go .

[Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme]

Hi there - previous thread started with DH AWOL , arrested for drink driving . Final straw for me in out marriage , planning to leave in secret on Thursday. 6 days to go . Feeling shit about everything - pain the kids will have to go through , pain and upset his family and him . Wishing he was a reasonable person enough that we could separate amicably. Wishing I could predict which way this is going to go- hating the double life I am currently leading . started this thread just for the hand holding whilst the proverbial hits the fan over the next 7 days !

So glad you got away. Enjoy your new life

What was his reaction? Or did you still manage to get him away from the house whilst you packed up? If so, has he tried contacting you yet? Or has he stayed quiet?

Brilliant news onwards and upwards OP you are inspirational 💐

brilliant ! so happy to read all went well. Wish you a happy and healthy future with your children.

So pleased to see your update! Happy new home, and new life

Look how far you've come, op, you did this, you made it happen.
Bloody well done to you, cheers!

Your new home looks like a lovely cosy new nest and a proper sanctuary..
Don't let anyone spoil your fantastic achievement, op.

I am SO, SO glad you made it! Amazing. And your family and friends are amazing too- they obviously treasure you.

I am so sorry I lost you @Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme! I have just found you again and I am literally crying here, so happy for you and so in awe of what you have done.

OP you are so strong. You will do this for your children and one day they will realise how strong their mother was.

So happy for your dc too because that is so true, gives me goose bumps thinking about how you just rescued their future and how they will one day realise what strength and love that took.

I know there will be ups and downs, and lots of adjustments. Wishing you the very best xx

Wonderful news OP, have followed both threads. This is the beginning of your future, congratulations!

Keep us updated how you are getting on in your new home.

Toasting you with a gin! Delighted you & the DC are away to start your improved life together 🎉. Your house looks homely already

Been a long time lurker but never posted. Congratulations OP so happy for you!

I've lurked one your threads and am so pleased that you are in your new home

I've lurked one your threads and am so pleased that you are in your new home

Another lucker, may I wish you every happiness and joy in the world to you and your kids. You are an inspiration!

I remember your last thread. Well done for getting out. Enjoy the rest of your life.

I think this pretty much covers it....

Well done op. I was counting down the days for you am so glad to see your update. Your new home looks warm, calm and cosy and I wish you and your dc lots of happiness there. You may have wobbly days but the hardest part is done and now it’s up up up 🎈 ❤️

Hope you've had a good day today op, I know it was potentially going to be difficult with family events etc

Well done 🍸🎉

@Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme

I am so glad you stuck to your guns & got out. Please do let us know how you are doing?

@ChewChewIsMySpiritAnimal you have misunderstood me - I mean that she done it and left. An example to others that it can be done and you can have a better life

I suspect the poor OP is dealing with some very bewildered and distraught children who are missing their dad, their bed, their 'old life' and feeling very homesick. It's a shock and a loss to them, even if later on there might be a sense of relief. Remember the OP has been preparing for this for weeks, the children didn't see it coming at all. One day they have a normal life, the next they don't. They'll need a lot of huge support and I'm sure the OP is very busy, and I hope they're able to pull together and comfort each other. OP will need a huge amount of support IRL too, I hope you've got that OP. It may be the children feel betrayed and you're the bad guy for a while, I really hope you're okay. 🤗

Yeah you can leave and have a better life - lots of posters around here can attest to that. But do we know if the op wants her personal pain to be enshrined in classics? If she does, then great but it should come from her, not other people. Maybe she doesn't want to be a parable for Mumsnet to stick in classics forever for people to read what she's been through. This is her real life. She's still in the thick of this. We can all sigh happily and dust off our hands knowing she's out, and move onto the next thread, but she's still got a hell of a long road ahead of her until she is really completely free of him. I just think that calling for this to be in classics is treating her as though she's just here as an example to others. Just really doesn't sit right with me.

Chew. well said and I'm happy with whatever the OP chooses to do. She may even want this while post deleted for privacy. Which I support too.
-Altho I do love the idea of this being in Classics-

strike though fail Oi

I hope you are all okay OP.