Secret planning to leave DH - days to go .

[Mydoghasbettereyebrowsthanme]

Hi there - previous thread started with DH AWOL , arrested for drink driving . Final straw for me in out marriage , planning to leave in secret on Thursday. 6 days to go . Feeling shit about everything - pain the kids will have to go through , pain and upset his family and him . Wishing he was a reasonable person enough that we could separate amicably. Wishing I could predict which way this is going to go- hating the double life I am currently leading . started this thread just for the hand holding whilst the proverbial hits the fan over the next 7 days !

Good on you OP. Good luck tomorrow

Best of luck for tomorrow.

Take anything and everything you can -you will not get a second chance. Turn off location on your phone. Change all passwords -Netflix etc

Good luck -if you only have a little time frame consider asking people local to help (a local church for example) just ask if someone would be williing to provide a car at this time and take whatever stuff put in -to the church or your new place and not say a word.

Please also take as much video and camera footage as you can, chargers, any CDs, DVDs, books as well as paperwork -don't forget meds, contact lenses and anything out of sight (under stairs, garage etc) tool box might be useful etc

Good luck!

Take all the keys as well, don't leave them and don't forget little keys and jewellery etc and photos -do not leave your spare car key for example

Good luck OP. Keeping everything crossed that it goes as planned

Hi everyone thank you for your good luck wishes and great advice ! X am in bed , DH downstairs. Tried to dress up his early anniversary suprise of a golf lesson as something exciting and he does not want to go . At all. My brain hurts just trying to figure out what to do right now. So will sleep on it and hope tomorrow brings a good idea . To be honest , it may be just a case of not going home and my sisters and beat mate have volunteered to go in with my list perhaps Friday and get everything bless them . We will see. Also my big sister has found this thread so have been rumbled ,,😳 but it's ok as she is in on it and on my side so hopefully by the time I come on and update tomorrow even it will be for the most part over !! Thank you all again for your well wishes xx

I hope all runs smoothly! Good luck!! 🍀🍀🍀

Could you use reverse psychology? "Well I don't want the golf lesson to go to waste so I will go & you can stay home with the kids". Surely he'll be out the door before you can blink?

Best of luck OP, you rock

Wishing you all the best OP

Good Luck tomorrow. You are stepping in to freedom so do it confidently.
These threads are going to help a lot of people in similar circumstances. Looking forward to your update once you have a new address..

Good luck!

You’re doing brilliantly OP, have followed both your threads, delurking to reinforce how amazing you are.

If it has to be a grab and go while he’s there, please consider giving the police a heads up in case it turns nasty. I wish you were nearer, as others have said, we need an MN hit squad with or without patios for anyone in your situation.

Good luck, you are amazing and can do this. Take what you can, but stuff can be replaced. You can’t. Take care xxx

Good luck op, you might not be feeling like a very strong woman right now but your posts ooze on strength. You are an inspiration to any woman living in a similar situation. I hope it all goes to plan tomorrow.

Good luck!

Good luck. As long as you all get out safely nothing else really matters. Stay safe.

Keep on staying strong and safe! All the best for tomorrow!

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This maybe a silly idea but can you put a few bin bags of your stuff into the outside bins to collect on the way to the car? Or lower out of the window down the side of the house to pick up? I'm not sure what your house or area is like privacy wise for this but could it work for you?
Good luck. You are so very brave!

@Alisonjabub Not all relationships are worth saving, particularly controlling relationships with alcoholics/drug users.

Good luck OP!!

Yep, perhaps they did, but I bet he didn't vow to abuse his wife.
No one should have to live with an abuser, regardless of vows.