Dating Thread 191 - Daters Gonna Date

[JeSuisPrest]

Props to @HairyArsedMan for the thread title - hopefully we'll be able to start dating again normally soon - grabbing a coffee, drink, dinner whatever. I wonder how many hours walking around parks, we've racked up on the last couple of threads.

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

cravingthelook

I’m normally happy to message first - my tone is usually “soft sell”

“Hey X was great meeting you yesterday - please do let me know if you’d like to do it again some time. Hope you got back safe.”

Vary as needed!

So sort of letting him ask you out without giving away too much or doing too much work.

ZoZo I’m literally sick of the walking around outdoor date now, I want civilisation and dinners! 😂

Was this MrPosh? Just send a quick message then it will be off your mind.

@ZoZoBo just send the message and it's done.

Ok @Bunkbedpeople I kept it a really breezy chat like message. See if he comes back tonight

@ZoZoBo just send the message and it's done.

Ok @Bunkbedpeople I kept it a really breezy chat like message. See if he comes back tonight

Cravingthelook like others, if I'm interested in seeing them again (rare) I send the "lovely to meet you, if you fancy doing it again let me know" type message

I'm not sure I'll be going on my first proper date after lockdown on Saturday now. After a chat on phone the other night where he asked if we could meet even earlier for drinks first ive now not heard at all today. Its my child free weekend so if don't hear by tomorrow morning will assume ghosted and make alternative plans

I did send a light playful message and he replied back playfully, suggesting he drove home a little too quickly because he was excited.

@Bunkbedpeople and @cravingthelook thanks for the push! I sent it - feel horrible but it’s done now 😬

@cravingthelook that’s a good sign :)

Just catching up with the thread this morning. Mr S just left, running slightly late for work but neither of us could help.it this morning.
We ended up walking along the beach and then along the pier. I have an irrational fear of piers so he held my hand all the way along to make me feel safe and then we just stood at the end of the pier cuddling and talking for awhile. Went back and played some arcade games, I left my card in the car and he didn't flinch about paying. He let me have the few tickets we won to choose a prize. Then we strolled holding hands back to the car where we had our picnic. Just sat there talking, listening to music and kissing for a while. Drove back and although I only got about 4 hours sleep last night I feel so well rested and contented. He never fails to deliver and waking up in a handsome man's arms is amazing. I miss him now he has gone but should be seeing him later in the week.

As you can tell that he now Mr S instead of Mr Smile we are exclusive and he called me his girlfriend last night. In his mind we already were ☺️

@Dancerinthemoonlight

Just catching up with the thread this morning. Mr S just left, running slightly late for work but neither of us could help.it this morning. We ended up walking along the beach and then along the pier. I have an irrational fear of piers so he held my hand all the way along to make me feel safe and then we just stood at the end of the pier cuddling and talking for awhile. Went back and played some arcade games, I left my card in the car and he didn't flinch about paying. He let me have the few tickets we won to choose a prize. Then we strolled holding hands back to the car where we had our picnic. Just sat there talking, listening to music and kissing for a while. Drove back and although I only got about 4 hours sleep last night I feel so well rested and contented. He never fails to deliver and waking up in a handsome man's arms is amazing. I miss him now he has gone but should be seeing him later in the week.

As you can tell that he now Mr S instead of Mr Smile we are exclusive and he called me his girlfriend last night. In his mind we already were ☺️

This update has made my morning! So pleased for you!

I’m seeing Mr Surprises today. I’m looking forward to it. He’s not much of a texter really but when he’s here he is very attentive and not once have I seen his phone. The guy before was terrible! The last date we had he answered and made 4 phone calls and was WhatsApping his group chat constantly. So rude.

Shit, having a wobble, almost in tears. Got to the office today and Mr Swan is here. Day 51, keeping my head down.

@Dancerinthemoonlight what a fabulous update, I’m so happy for you 😊

@Dancerinthemoonlight awesome news, sorry I missed it earlier in my wobble

@Dancerinthemoonlight lovely update. how many dates have u been on?

@cravingthelook oh no can u avoid him and just keep busy with work?

I have a date with Mr Positive tonight. He has booked a beer garden as they have just opened up here, weather forecast is not looking great tho. Think we will also be getting a takeaway (as pub dont sell food) and back to his.

Dancerinthemoonlight lovely update

Well my date Saturday is off. He at least sent me a message this morning to say cancelling as not feeling it at the moment

@crazycatlady20 that was date number 3 with him. I know for some people that is early to be exclusive but we both feel that it just feels right.

@MummyGoingItAlone Mr S has answered his phone on date 1 and date 3. First call was his daughters mum as his daughter wanted to face time with him and yesterday was with his brother as he is going down to see him at the weekend as was confirming plans. Hasn't stayed on the phone long either time and told me who called both times.

@cravingthelook keep your chip up and post here to vent if you need to. You are worth so much more than him.

@Dancerinthemoonlight that is acceptable. Answering the phone is not an issue if it’s important. This guy answered, was on the phone 5 minutes, apologised and said he was trying to arrange a car meet up, called somebody else, then another person, somebody called him, then it was text text text text! The meet wasn’t for another week so it wasn’t urgent. Needless to say that was the end of that!

@mummygoingitalone that would annoy me. What's the point in meeting you if he is just going to be on his phone all the time.

I found Mr S phone calls fine but then they were short and needed. I didn't ask who called he volunteered the information

Happy for you dancer

Hope you are okay craving....

@Dancerinthemoonlight not at all, if u like someone and being intimate, then why not? I wouldnt like to think they're off doing the same with anyone else. pleased for you.

Thankfully I don't work directly with him at all and have no reason to interact unless he asks me for help. So unlikely. I did ok all morning. Then I was talking with a mutual friend and he came over, mutual friend made a comment and I shrugged and he walked off again. He's now sitting 2 tables down in the canteen and I'm listening to music and typing to you lot to distract myself.
I know I should be the bigger person and say hi, but I can't trust myself not to cry.

@cravingthelook I dont think you have to be the bigger person. There is nothing stopping him coming and saying hi to you

Thanks @Dancerinthemoonlight he office instant messaged me saying he wants to talk but doesn't know how
I think he's only messaged because we are both in the office and felt an uncomfortable moment.
If he'd have missed me he'd have messaged before today.
I wish I'd not replied.

@cravingthelook I think you are probably right there. He has your number so has had weeks to send a text, even with what he put today. It's going to be a tough one to ride out as you both work in the same office

A bit tmi and I'm not sure if this would be the correct place to post it. For those of you who have had sex with a well endowed man who is on the girthier side. Does the soreness go away when you get used to it or is there something I can do to minimise it ?
We do lots of foreplay, already orgasmed before insertion and well lubricated.
Previous partners have told me I'm very tight and so did the nurse doing my smear test