New man has long finger nails and it hurts me

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*(I have tried posting this in the sex topic but it won't let me for some reason so I thought this would be the second best place to post).
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Slightly embarrassed about this. I have been seeing a man for around two months now, both really happy and we get on great. Sex is lovely, I feel very comfortable with him (which is something new for me as I've not always felt comfortable with some ex's).

I do very much enjoy being touched and one issue that I'm facing is that he has quite long finger nails which in itself isn't a problem, just mainly when it comes to sex. It is enjoyable but sometimes it also feels like someone is pinching/scratching inside me and it can be quite uncomfortable. I've never had this issue before as all the men I've dated have had short nails.

Apart from that, the sex is great. I feel awful for mentioning it now as I've left it so long. When we have sex he always asks me if I feel comfortable/is he hurting me etc and I just say no I'm fine, but I probably should have mentioned it at the time. I just don't want to embarrass him. What should I do? 

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I really don't understand why you don't say ow????

This thread is missing the sex topic. Why don't posters know what fisting and fingering are? Is this the vanilla world calling?

@vikingwife

As an ex groupie / muso scene person can confirm nothing in this post jumped out to me as a bloke who plays the guitar - or OP would have mentioned this by now. Sounds like sexually inexperienced hands, not guitar player hands.

Also guitar players will have long fingernails on one hand for strumming, it is difficult to make chord shapes if you have long fingernails & is part of the reason have never had long fingernails - because it actually makes it HARDER to play guitar, unless you are willing to walk around with hands that don’t match & most don’t, including your average guitar player.

It’s a bit of a wanky thing to do, just use a pick mate, is your finger plucking that much better with your ugly ass long nails? No, the average punter won’t know or care. Get over yourself

This bloke is no muso (stand to be corrected though)

That wouldn't apply for a classical guitarist though. Almost all have long left hand fingernails and don't use picks.

Do you know what ? This bloke will be able to feel his long fingernails snagging inside of you.

And he doesn't care, evidently.

This bloke will be able to feel his long fingernails snagging inside of you

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Omg eww hahah this thread just keeps on giving

OP my hubby is a guitarist and keeps the nails on one hand longer. I totally get the 'scratchy' thing you've mentioned. You have my sympathy!

It's simple - tell him long nails equals no fanny and they'll be stumps in no time.

Does he have long nails because he plays the guitar?

OP in the nicest possible way you need to reflect on yourself, your confidence and self esteem if you allow yourself to experience pain because you're worried about bringing up a difficult topic that isn't actually difficult, it's a simple request.

Why exactly are blokes getting free passes to be grotty and selfish lovers because they ‘play guitar’ ?

The fingernails aren't the issue op, the issue is he's asking if this is OK and you're unable/unwilling to tell him no.
You shouldn't be having sex with someone if you can't say no, don't, stop, not like that

@Smallsteps88

Ewww.

Does he have long hair too?

Guess I won't have to fight you for Jason Mamoa and Chris Hemsworth then

no you wouldn’t, they’re not my type. but I wasn’t thinking of men with nice long hair when OP described her long nailed lover. I’ve seen a few men with long nails in local shops and they have all had straggly greasy hair but balding on top. Grim!

The ick, the ick.

Is his name struwwelpeter?

Sorry OP but this thread is comedy gold.

Especially this from @Smallsteps88 as I thought the same

*Ewww.

Does he have long hair too?*

See it’s not just me! It’s a thing! Long nails+ long yucky hair.

@ravenmum there is definitely a good technique blush

There definitely is!!!

I had this problem with my fella. I told him. Tbh its pretty unhygienic and I find it a turn off so i had to tell him xx

the thing is this man DID ASK if OP was comfortable and she didn't say no! So how is he to guess that she isn't when she has effectively said that she is? You'd have to have a vagina yourself to guess that
I don't know if we have had the answer to whether he's a guitarist but just as lesbians can adjust to having some but not all fingernails long, so can guitarists, it really isn't rocket science. And men are just as capable of keeping long nails clean as women are.