New man has long finger nails and it hurts me

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*(I have tried posting this in the sex topic but it won't let me for some reason so I thought this would be the second best place to post).
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Slightly embarrassed about this. I have been seeing a man for around two months now, both really happy and we get on great. Sex is lovely, I feel very comfortable with him (which is something new for me as I've not always felt comfortable with some ex's).

I do very much enjoy being touched and one issue that I'm facing is that he has quite long finger nails which in itself isn't a problem, just mainly when it comes to sex. It is enjoyable but sometimes it also feels like someone is pinching/scratching inside me and it can be quite uncomfortable. I've never had this issue before as all the men I've dated have had short nails.

Apart from that, the sex is great. I feel awful for mentioning it now as I've left it so long. When we have sex he always asks me if I feel comfortable/is he hurting me etc and I just say no I'm fine, but I probably should have mentioned it at the time. I just don't want to embarrass him. What should I do? 

@Timekeeper1

I must be missing something, you have sex with him, his penis goes in your vagina, not his hands! Unless he is fisting you or something? I don't understand how his fingernails would be inside you?

You don’t? Really?

Time.keeper knows about fisting but not fingering 😂 thats too wild for timekeeper!

@Timekeeper1

I must be missing something, you have sex with him, his penis goes in your vagina, not his hands! Unless he is fisting you or something? I don't understand how his fingernails would be inside you?

Ffs, you’re close enough to him to have sex but not to tell him his nails are too long.

Why is his potential embarrassment more important than you not being hurt?

There is no excuse for this. It shows a total lack of awareness on his part. Has he ever been with a woman before? Doesn’t sound like it. It’d really put me off him!

"Time.keeper knows about fisting but not fingering 😂 thats too wild for timekeeper!"

🤣🤣🤣🤣 these timid men start fiddling about and @Timekeeper1 is like, stop messing about man, geddit in there 🙈

Being physical hurt vs a man's potential embarrassment?

Women's socialisation to be nice.

Never understood how people can feel comfortable to have sex with someone but not bring up issues. If you don’t feel comfortable speaking your mind in a relationship you have no business being in one or are with the wrong person.

I'm 25 @Regularsizedrudy and he's 31.

I've been reading all your comments and you're all absolutely right. I really do need to say something. I think @Sacredspace has hit the nail on the head and I quite like your suggestion to. I might try that. It doesn't feel so blunt I think.

Well @Timekeeper1 I honestly don't know what to say back to that comment but you're definitely missing out by the sounds of it 🙈🤣

@Timekeeper1 I must be missing something, you have sex with him, his penis goes in your vagina, not his hands! Unless he is fisting you or something? I don't understand how his fingernails would be inside you?

You win the internet!! 😂 Please let us know when you figure it out!

To know about fisting but not fingering is inspired @Timekeeper1

😂

Not all men finger inside (is there a good technique for that? I have never encountered one!)

The only reasons I know of for long fingernails on a man apart from a guitar player are:

He’s a warlock.
He does coke.

@ravenmum there is definitely a good technique

Also while I agree most longer finger nailed men I have encountered have been the scruffy stinky type I do know a few who have lovely clean delicate nails.

there is definitely a good technique
Then I live in hope

Can't believe this is even a thread tbh and you're scared to tell him.the mind boggles!

I don't think there's any need to be so rude @Kittykat93

What about waiting till he's asleep and have a nail clippers beside the bed and clip them all off, then just turn over and pretend to know nothing.

Tell him to cut his nails! He's lazy.

As easy as I would say your elbow is on my hair, get off!

MashedSpud The only reasons I know of for long fingernails on a man apart from a guitar player are He’s a warlock He does coke

He could also be a Mandarin of the Chinese Empire.

I know the thread has moved on but just to clarify - long fingernails are grim on men and women! Why on earth did it occur to people that I meant only men??

And guitar playing isn’t an excuse to be a scruffy grotbag either!

@bluebluezoo

Why are people assuming his nails are dirty?

Do women with long fingernails pose the same infection risk? Do lesbians all have short nails?

Bit surprised at the “all men with long fingernails are dirty, grim and disgusting” narrative. Assuming you don’t think the same about women, of course.

I'm bi and in my pre DH years my friends could always tell the sex of the partner I was dating/shagging by the length of my nails!

Long nails and sensitive skin - no thanks!

I’m more sad for the poor women here who haven’t had a good finger bang!