New man has long finger nails and it hurts me

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*(I have tried posting this in the sex topic but it won't let me for some reason so I thought this would be the second best place to post).
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Slightly embarrassed about this. I have been seeing a man for around two months now, both really happy and we get on great. Sex is lovely, I feel very comfortable with him (which is something new for me as I've not always felt comfortable with some ex's).

I do very much enjoy being touched and one issue that I'm facing is that he has quite long finger nails which in itself isn't a problem, just mainly when it comes to sex. It is enjoyable but sometimes it also feels like someone is pinching/scratching inside me and it can be quite uncomfortable. I've never had this issue before as all the men I've dated have had short nails.

Apart from that, the sex is great. I feel awful for mentioning it now as I've left it so long. When we have sex he always asks me if I feel comfortable/is he hurting me etc and I just say no I'm fine, but I probably should have mentioned it at the time. I just don't want to embarrass him. What should I do? 

The Germaphobe in me is stressing about all the gunk under those long talons & them scratching inside uncomfortably & literally shuddering. I’d go through the sex once but could not repeat this act again. He wouldn’t be allowed fingers inside which is fine, I dislike the term & feeling of “fingering” there.

Honestly does he need to touch inside you? Or ask if he can clip them? God I would hate to have to tell someone to cut their nails. Only in the most deepest, profoundest of loves could this be a “funny ew” thing we could ask the other to do - if this was someone i was just dating it would end swiftly with an “ick” factor setting in.

Am sorry but long fingernails inside such a sensitive place? Is he even sexually experienced? Most guys who have been around the bush know to keep nails clipped short

You could always keep a hammer by the bed and when you feel his talons creeping too close give itchy and scratchy a good whack.

What I mean is someone must be talented with their hands or “fingering” internally (god I despise this term) can feel weird & clinical so would not be much to give up - but the long nails Would need to go as it’s just gross. Does he paint them at least ?

We really need a new term for fingering because it sounds way too clinical

I don’t know if it’s just me, but long finger nails on men turns my stomach. I’d assume poor hygiene. Why are his nails long? Why isn’t he trimming them?

I honestly couldn’t let a man with long finger nails near me never mind put them in me,,,I’m not sure how you stomach it.

@ravenmum

Not all men finger inside (is there a good technique for that? I have never encountered one!)

Yes there is a crazy good technique lol

Are you thinking about teenage in and out fingering? I doubt that does much for any women.

But men can massage the g-spot with fingers inside!

Most guys who have been around the bush
Well chosen phrase :)

Are you thinking about teenage in and out fingering?
No, more grown man wiggling about! - OK I have not had that many partners, but even with the more talented one I have now, it has done nothing for me. I will clearly have to look into this

I tell me DH to wash his hands and trim his nails before he touches me! If he doesn’t like it tough, he then doesn’t get the goodies 😳😂😂😂

@ravenmum, do you know where your g-spot is?
You can explore yourself too, it doesn't have to be with a man :)

How about ow?

I do understand OP as my dp has stubble which I hate and I find irritating but I haven’t been able to tell him either

He'll do you an injury. You have to tell him. Dude, you keep scratching me, youre gonna have to cut your nails

A man with long fingernails is my number 1 turn off

Men with long finger nails always remind me of this character from the Mary Whitehouse Experience in the 90’s. Jarvis the Perv
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@ravenmum you need to sort this out! Try the classic “come hither” motion to find your gspot. Seriously you are missing out on a world of opportunity!

So one takeaway from this thread is that many women could benefit from exploring the joys of internal clit stimulation via fingers, traditionally using the 'come hither' finger motion

If you are a fan of multiple blended orgasms, then it's a highly recommend, especially alongside a bit of tongue action

Or you could just go straight to fisting

But why aren't you allowed to post in the sex topic?

Sorry OP but why would you allow this man to continue to cause you discomfort and not tell him?! Blimey.

Perhaps you should email HQ and ask them?

Why are we so scared to tell men what we like or don’t like when it comes to sex? It’s hurting you OP - immediately you should have told him.

This would be a massive turn off for me. I can't stand finger nails that aren't very short and neat.

I think you have to be a member for a certain amount of time to post in the sex topic.

Show him this and laugh, then say "no seriously sort it out"

I wouldn't have dated him! Haha
Just ask him to cut his nails or not finger you?

don’t know if it’s just me, but long finger nails on men turns my stomach

Me too! It makes me feel physically sick 🤢
Such a turn off and doesn’t he realise it would hurt internally? Seems flipping obvious to me

@draughtycatflap

You could always keep a hammer by the bed and when you feel his talons creeping too close give itchy and scratchy a good whack.

This wins the internet for me today.