New man has long finger nails and it hurts me

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*(I have tried posting this in the sex topic but it won't let me for some reason so I thought this would be the second best place to post).
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Slightly embarrassed about this. I have been seeing a man for around two months now, both really happy and we get on great. Sex is lovely, I feel very comfortable with him (which is something new for me as I've not always felt comfortable with some ex's).

I do very much enjoy being touched and one issue that I'm facing is that he has quite long finger nails which in itself isn't a problem, just mainly when it comes to sex. It is enjoyable but sometimes it also feels like someone is pinching/scratching inside me and it can be quite uncomfortable. I've never had this issue before as all the men I've dated have had short nails.

Apart from that, the sex is great. I feel awful for mentioning it now as I've left it so long. When we have sex he always asks me if I feel comfortable/is he hurting me etc and I just say no I'm fine, but I probably should have mentioned it at the time. I just don't want to embarrass him. What should I do? 

@bubbleup

"Time.keeper knows about fisting but not fingering 😂 thats too wild for timekeeper!"

🤣🤣🤣🤣 these timid men start fiddling about and @Timekeeper1 is like, stop messing about man, geddit in there 🙈

This has just made me laugh way too hard

@ShowOfHands

You could slowly get your vagina used to abrasive sensations by experimenting with different grades of sandpaper over a period of several months.

Or you could use your words.

It's a tough choice but I'm sure you'll have an instinctive feel for which option is right for your relationship.

Insert the sandpaper in your minnie and his nails will be filed down during sex. Simples!

This thread is gold 😂

If I must help my advice would be to say...

"Hey fingers, can you trim your nails as they hurt when we're doing sexy stuff? Thanks, I'm grateful."

can I just say

1. long nails can be clean
2. if he's a guitarist, he will have short nails on one hand, so he just needs to be careful which hand he uses for what

Eww, long nails on a man. Very unattractive.

these timid men start fiddling about and @Timekeeper1 is like, stop messing about man, geddit in there 🙈

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I'm actually dying at these comments

Just the sight of long talons on a man makes me want to heave!
Unless he was a leading flamenco guitarist I wouldn't be able to accept such weirdness

As an ex groupie / muso scene person can confirm nothing in this post jumped out to me as a bloke who plays the guitar - or OP would have mentioned this by now. Sounds like sexually inexperienced hands, not guitar player hands.

Also guitar players will have long fingernails on one hand for strumming, it is difficult to make chord shapes if you have long fingernails & is part of the reason have never had long fingernails - because it actually makes it HARDER to play guitar, unless you are willing to walk around with hands that don’t match & most don’t, including your average guitar player.

It’s a bit of a wanky thing to do, just use a pick mate, is your finger plucking that much better with your ugly ass long nails? No, the average punter won’t know or care. Get over yourself

This bloke is no muso (stand to be corrected though)

Like think of all the rockstars who play guitar - no long nails. It’s an elitist musician thing, often jazz musicians who are notoriously the biggest, most elitist wankers out of any genre of music. In circles like that it is fun to ask them with a deadpan face who their favourite Spice Girl was

(Answer - always Ginger )

Selfishly want OP to come back & confirm if her boyfriend is a rockstar or 40 year old virgin (it is doubtful you can be both)

I'm fascinated by the visceral disgust and cries of unhygienic over long nails in a man.

Yet so many women grow theirs long (I personally think it's pointlessly making life hard for yourself and I don't find it pretty). I guess it's the amount of grooming of female nails that you expect to go in?

@category12 pretty sure even lipstick lesbians know to keep one or two nails shorter than the rest for a reason

Yes, but it's not all about the fingering, is it? I don't think the gut reactions on here are purely based on that.

This has made me clench, the scraping shudder

I had an unpleasant few days after a similar encounter. It's not just uncomfortable in the moment, it can flipping painful for days even if it doesn't lead to a more serious infection. And over time your attraction ends because you end up unable to relax in case he does something that hurts you. Always accidental, but a passion killer none the less.

No man should ever have long fingernails full stop. Yuk yuk yuk 🤢

Ouch, just crossed my legs reading that!

Just tell him OP, "your fingernails hurt me when you touch me, can you make sure they're filed please?" Job done. His reaction will tell you all you need to know (and if it's anything less than "Oh god I'm so sorry I didn't realise, of course I will in future" - he's not a keeper)

Surely just saying "OW!" in the moment should solve it.

I don't understand why you can't just tell him that. Vaginal tissues are sensitive.

Op? Has he clipped?

I don’t know what it is about long nails on a man but glad to see I’m not alone in finding it stomach churning, it just looks like he is ungroomed.

Long finger nails on a woman is different, because generally a woman who has long nails spends a lot of time keeping them that way. Any man I’ve seen with them it’s just some dirty bloke who can’t be arsed cutting his finger nails.

Is his toes the same?

Op does his name start with D??
And fisting is a nail- free pass time surely? Nails go inside the fist not the fanjo!

Christ, not everyone likes a fist. < not envy

@Timekeeper1

I must be missing something, you have sex with him, his penis goes in your vagina, not his hands! Unless he is fisting you or something? I don't understand how his fingernails would be inside you?

Are you taking the piss?!

@Sunnydayshereatlast you don’t actually make a fist while fisting! Ouch