Is height really important ?

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Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

I'm 5"9 and long of limb. I am mainly attracted to stocky, long torsoed men between 5'7 and 5'10. I have never been attracted to tall men, they just aren't on my radar.
I like putting heels on and towering over my 5'7 DH

My 'partner' and I are both 5'8" which I must admit worried me a bit at first, mostly because it seems to be expected that the man should be a bit taller than the woman and I do let myself get bothered about what people think. However, we are perfectly sized with each other for kissing and hugging which is incredible every time, so I'm happy with that! He likes the fact we're the same height too, so, all good.

Never occurred to me to think about it until I was chatting with someone and he just went 'You did look at my profile? I'm an inch shorter than you. Are you sure you want to be talking to me?'

We did go on a few dates and he's lovely. Funny, gorgeous, great in bed. We're not dating due to incompatible lifestyles but we're now friends instead.

That lack of self confidence over height was a totally new experience for me. I didn't realise it was an issue. The amount of women who are missing out on great men because of height is amazing!

I've generally gone for tall (6ft +), 'sturdy' men in the past, however my bf for the last 10 months is 5ft 10 to my 5ft 7 and has a small build but I met him online and had already fallen for him by the time we met in person. I don't even think twice about it as after my marriage (to a 6ft man) ending after he had an affair, I value trust and loyalty over height these days.

I used to - partners and XH usually well over 6' tall. I'm 5'7". DH is about 1.5" taller than me and it really doesn't bother me. I put a height cut off when I did OLD - DH nearly didn't bother to contact me because he's shorter than my cut off! Really glad he did though.

If people are not getting dates, maybe OLD is not the right platform for them.

In today's world where OLD is so dominant that sounds a little bit like saying these people don't deserve to date.

I was pretty surprised when DPs friends showed me tinder and the fact that so many women just put 6ft or over on their profiles. I struggle to believe that this is because all these women have a considered this and really only find men at this height or above attractive. I suspect, like many online profile filling out that it is just clicked on without really thinking. OP sounds like an example of this, the guy is shorter than she has said she likes but actually she seems to like this guy.

At the end of the day we are talking about two to four inches in height here in most cases.

In today's world where OLD is so dominant that sounds a little bit like saying these people don't deserve to date.

Never said they don’t deserve to date but their entitlement to date should not justify lying and tricking someone into dating them. It’s one thing approaching a woman who says she wants a 6fter and having a honest profile, then she can look at his profile and decide for herself if he is attractive as a whole or not but it’s not ok to explicitly say he is 6ft if he is not.

I have height and other preferences like everyone else. To me, height is not that important as long as above 5’9 because it’s still quite a bit taller than me but if a guy who is 5’10 lies and says he is 6ft then that would put me off and I wouldn’t wait around to find out what other little white lies he has in store.

I prefer tall
I'm 5'10 dh is 6'4
I once dated a guy who was 5'8 and I couldn't wear heels - he didn't like me towering above him and neither did I tbh.

I'm very tall and I don't want to date anyone shorter than me. I'm just not physically attracted to shorter men.

I have been on dates with men who claim to be 5 foot 11 and 6 foot and are actually shorter than me which was annoying.

I have put on my dating profile that I don't want to date anyone shorter than me. A lot of men don't read this and message me anyway or go "I'm 5 foot 7, is that any good?".

At the end of the day it's up to you. Plenty of women date shorter men and don't mind. We all have personal preferences. Good luck

I'm only 4ft 10 so have to prefer someone taller... my partner is 5ft 10 so that's a lot of difference. I don't think it matters tho as long as you find him to be attractive and you get on all that.

I'm glad I started this thread, gained so much insight and coupled with the fact he is a nice guy and I'm looking forward to seeing him again has totally changed my view on height

My bf is the same height as me (5’8”) which is the first time I’ve dated less than 5’11”. The similarity in height really works re sex and kissing. He is fatter than me so I still have that slight ‘oh I’m so small and petite’ buzz which I think is what I need. And he’s not arrogant, unlike all the 6’ plus guys I met on OLD (seriously, without exception they were players). He knows he has to give rather than take if he wants to keep me!!

Yes, height is important. I want a man to be taller than me, not shorter.

Never done online dating and have been married for a very long time but back in the day, the problem with men shorter than me, was how it made ME feel.
I am 5' 11" and being with a man much shorter than me made ME feel really unattractive, like an elephant or a huge gallumphing giant.
I went on a couple dates with a guy who was about 5'5" and so so sexy but I just felt so unattractive walking next to him.
Dh is about 6' 1 or 2 and the difference is just enough to be comfortable.

I am 4 ft 11 so pretty much everyone is taller than me even my dc lol.

I’m 5’ 1 so it’s hard to be with anyone who’s not taller than me 😂
Height isn’t a factor for me. I’ve had shorter guys and taller guys. DP is 6’ so has to bend a whole foot to get to me

DH is a foot taller than me. But I have fancied and been with men of a wide range of heights and builds. If you asked me to describe my ideal man, yes, he'd be tall, but back in the real world, being tall is never going to make up for being a complete tosser.

I don’t mind about height, but then I am only 5 foot 2. My DH is 6 foot though!

To me, height is not that important as long as above 5’9 because it’s still quite a bit taller than me

5'9 is average male height, so even though you claim it's not that important, you've still got rid of half your potential dates. Which would imply it is pretty important still. Nothing wrong with that if it's what you want though.

even though you claim it's not that important

Not that important.

Nothing wrong with that if it's what you want though.

Yes that’s what I think too. I have got approached by much taller so that’s why I said it’s not too important. My point was more on the lying than on the height though.

The similarity in height really works re sex and kissing

Has it really been a problem before?

DH is a foot taller than me. But I have fancied and been with men of a wide range of heights and builds. If you asked me to describe my ideal man, yes, he'd be tall, but back in the real world, being tall is never going to make up for being a complete tosser.

I think that's the problem with online dating. See for example: woman matches with 2/3rds of her right swipes vs man matching with less than half a percent of his. I know we don't know anything about their looks, profile blurb etc, but I think it is pretty definite (and from other sources) that women on average get far more matches than men do. I don't really understand the statistics of it all to be honest (there's probably phds looking into it). But it does allow women to be a lot pickier than they might otherwise be.

@whatsthecomingoverthehill 1/2 of 1 percent

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I know!

I did online dating back in the early days before tinder, and when it was still viewed as a bit desperate etc. Even then it was very one sided. But I met my wife through it so shouldn't moan

It’s like a guy walking into a bar and be expected to consider and talk to every single female in there to give them a fair chance of building a connection instead of just discarding some of them just based on looks. We know it’s not like that, it’s never been and never will be. Regardless of which way around you look at it. Physical attraction is the starting point and has to go hand in hand with personality.

OLD is pushing the box ticking though I agree but it doesn’t ‘make women pickier’ and doesn’t stop men from having preferences.