Is height really important ?

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Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

@coronaway thank you! It is

I'm 5'3 and DH is 5'6. Shortest guy I ever dated, but also the best in bed BY FAR.

@Wolfgirrl yes my shorter friends do on the whole refer to themselves as petite even when they are quite curvy or a larger build. I think its because clothing shops allude euphemistically to 'petite' to mean under 5'4.
I don't think shorter women are more aggressive though, I certainly haven't noticed. In fact my shorter friends have actually called me elegant numerous times but I suppose I am tall and have a small frame and high cheekbones rather than any innate grace I certainly don't possess.

However I do sometimes think that short women will have the attitude of having won some sort of prize by having a very tall DH. It doesn't bother me though. If I were short I would want to have children with a tall man too.

@HotSince82
I agree that tall women are more elegant and wear clothes really well as they are designed for models tall models.
I am self confessed short (trousers are always too long ) and it really doesn’t bother me! I don’t think because shorties are fabulous, tall gals are any less fabulous.
My point was live and let live. Beautiful souls come packaged in all shape and size. For this reason luckily everyone has different preferences and ultimately chemistry is mysterious, there’s no formula!

@hotsince82 I used to work with a girl that was about 5 foot, but ENORMOUS, as in virtually round. Easily 16 or 17 stone. She was constantly called 'little'

I think height is a bit like ginger hair; if you are attractive it adds to you as it is striking and unusual, if you are not attractive it doesnt help as it draws attention to you.

I think its a personal preference and so nothing wrong with preferring tall men, in the same way as preferring blue eyes/dark hair etc. Personally I'm 5'9 and couldn't date someone shorter than me.

Surely it's individual preference. I am 5'4 and I have never dated anyone shorter than 6'3 and my husband is 6'6. I'm just really attracted to very tall men and that's just my preference.

But my tall male friends have always preferred tall females who are at least the same height as them. I think it’s a generation thing. Younger men today tend to prefer slim tall / taller women.

This. It goes both ways, I’ve never been attracted to short women. Apart from the lack of attraction, I’d also worry about practical problems: simple things like buying a bath. Have to say I’m always slightly baffled by mothers (and it’s usually them) of short sons who act like it’s the end of the world.

allfurcoatnoknickers your post made me laugh. I have also found that short men are great in bed

The idea of "tall" differs though. Someone who is 5 foot 7 a 5 foot 9 guy would not be tall for them. But for a 5 foot 3 girl guy 5 foot 9 would be tall.

And regarding heels. A lot of men shoes (formal and casual) actually increases their height 1-2 inches.

Yep I'm 5"6 and a half and minimum I would date would be 5"10 I like to wear heels and not be taller

I think height is a bit like ginger hair; if you are attractive it adds to you as it is striking and unusual, if you are not attractive it doesnt help as it draws attention to you.

Yes I agree with this, incidentally the most beautiful woman I know has bright ginger hair, the hair makes you notice her and then you see how gourgeous she is.

I think anything slightly out of the ordinary on an otherwise attractive person can make them really striking.

Shallow?

I think a lot of women like to feel "protected" by their partner. This is an evolutionary trait. And also we still live in a society where women are in relative danger.

Hatrack yes theres probably something in it evolution-wise.

The tallest man I dated was 6'6 and he was a really moany, irritating sort of guy, a total wet weekend.

The shorter guys I've known are more fun and have stronger personalities, maybe they don't assume their height is 'enough' and try harder?

@HotSince82 yes I agree. That's why a tall beautiful woman generally gets more attention than a shorter beautiful one. It is more eye catching/rare.

I have found in my life that men who are built like brick shithouse seem to be less sexist and more likely to do things that are gender nonconforming themselves.

My theory is that as they are automatically up the male pecking list because of size, they can afford to do whatever, they have nothing to prove.

Just my experience.

I suppose height gives you a certain presence irrespective of your sex. I've never wished to be shorter, in fact if I had my way I'd be an inch or two taller. On my torso please, its a pain in the arse being short waisted!

'That's why a tall beautiful woman generally gets more attention than a shorter beautiful one. It is more eye catching/rare.'

Hmm.

I think people notice anything unusual tbh.

And, I have a stunning friend who is 5'11. Men seem terrified of her.

built like brick shithouse Now there's something to add to your OLD profile fellas!

It's put me off before now, or at least a contributing factor.

I am 5ft6 and I like to wear heels. This guy was like 5ft5. And I just felt like a towered over him.

If it's got a jokey grin after it and is true, it wouldn't put me off! I'd find it funny

I've always wondered what a 'brick shithouse' was

@HotSince82

built like brick shithouse Now there's something to add to your OLD profile fellas!

Common saying in my town.

Meanwhile, I am 5'4". Ex was 5'7" so taller, and I'm fine with taller and not bothered by how much.

I am sad for my DS, though. He's unlikely to be any taller than 5'7" at full height.

He's a lovely person, and I feel sad that there's a possibility that he'll be overlooked in favour of taller men by people unwilling to actually get to know him.

I'm 5' 7", my partner is 5'9". For me that's ideal. He's just a little bit taller, but not enough to be intimidating. The shortest man I've dated was several inches shorter than me. The only thing I regret about that was not going out with him sooner because his lack of height put me off. Once we were together I realised it didn't matter but by the time we got it together he was already leaving the country, so it was just a brief fling before he went.

I think it depends on why it matters to you. If it's just because conventionally women date men who are taller than them, then stop worrying or you may miss out on some great blokes. If you just aren't attracted to shorter men then fair enough. I'm not attracted to overweight men and attraction is important to me, so I don't date them.

Height-based discrimination is a real thing for men - their earning potential increases with their height. What you deem mere 'personal preference' is actually a much wider societal issue. Taller men have many advantages in society, so it's unsurprising women want to date them when they're more likely to also be higher earners/higher achievers. For women, weight is a similar disadvantage.

www.theguardian.com/science/2016/mar/08/genetic-study-shows-mens-height-and-womens-weight-drive-earning-power

Similar issues for women

Good looking women get hired more but offered less money in a thing I saw. Esp if blonde.