Is height really important ?

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Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

but I definitely wouldn’t have a relationship with anyone who was so pathetically insecure that he had a problem with being shorter than me.

Presumably, if he had such a problem with your height, the lack of attraction would be mutual.

what causes the issue is even very short women want 6ft+ - I'd appreciate if you'd leave those for us taller ladies ime taller men prefer significantly shorter women, so they might not want to be “left” for you

@pumpkinp that's the opposite of my experience! All my past boyfriends were over 6' and I'm tall.

One of them told me he would only date girls over 5'8 as he liked the whole Victoria's Secret, Scandinavian beauty look.

@ThoseBootsAreMadeForWalking easier for a non tall woman to say. As has been proven by this thread the overwhelming majority of women are more attracted to a man who is taller than them. As a tall woman this means my dating pool is small enough without every women requesting 6ft+ blokes!

@Wolfgirrl I have had similar experiences.

Almost every guy I've dated has had a thing for tall girls with long legs, even if they were only 5'8 themselves. However some arseholes have paraded me around like a trophy so they didn't last long.

@coronaway
Let everyone request what they like!
Your dating pool is restricted by yourself. If you can’t find a 6fter you like and who likes you, go for shorter or stay single. That’s your decision to make.
Your can’t force 6ft+ guys to want tall women and you can’t force short women to leave them to you.
You can only change yourself or have a word with mother nature I’m afraid

that's the opposite of my experience! All my past boyfriends were over 6' and I'm tall.

I'm 6'4" and used to get quite a bit of attention from tall women. Not all of it reciprocated. I don't/didn't really care how tall a woman is as long as they are slim and in proportion figure wise.

@ThoseBootsAreMadeForWalking Yes I'll just make myself shorter...

I get it, we want to date taller men but I don't see why the women who are 5ft tall can't consider guys who are of average height. At 5'11" I have to make enough sacrifices already.

@coronaway I'm not really attracted to 6 footers. You can have my share if it helps?

@coronaway I think there is such a thing as short woman syndrome.

To me yes, my dh is 6ft 5 and honestly love how he towers over me. It makes me feel small and protected (I'm 5ft 4)
I don't think I've ever dated a man under 6ft. Though I will say if their personality is proper banging, I could maybe be swayed but probably not someone smaller than me. I have to be able to wear heels and not tower over them 😂

@Wolfgirrl what is that then?

@coronaway
I don't see why the women who are 5ft tall can't consider guys who are of average height. At 5'11"
They don’t have to! They might just prefer it! If they find matches then great! Who are you to tell you them not to give a chance to someone they are attracted to!

Plenty of talk guys I am sure like tall women. Great!

I had the opposite. A very short guy at work who thought he was owed a date because you know as long as he was taller then I should give a chance..... the attitude was a bit aggressive (like you demanding than similar height people stick together).

If people give off negative / angry energy then it might be more the reason why they can’t find what they are looking for rather than physical attributes 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well men will have their own preferences so I don’t think it’s right to say short women should leave the taller men for tall women, if tall men aren’t attracted to shorter women then they wouldn’t go for them so no one needs to leave anything for anyone. And judging by this thread a lot of petite women seem to be with really tall men so obviously it is some men’s preference

@PumpkinP I think lots of tall men prefer short women too.
Not quite so sure about petite though.

ime taller men prefer significantly shorter women, so they might not want to be “left” for you

I'm surprised at the amount of shorter ladies on this thread with husbands/partners over 6ft (although as per my earlier post maybe people aren't sure on their height 😆). Amongst my peers, family & what I see out & about it's unusual to see couples with a vast height difference.

@tubbatops my experience is the opposite. Lots of short, curvy women with tall, lanky guys in my circle of acquaintances.

I've said it upthread but I do believe the old adage 'opposites attract' applies here.

@hotsince82 in my experience, short women tend to be quite bossy and abrupt. They constantly mention their height (aren't I small, I'm a little pixie, good things come in small packages) and make barbed comments at taller women.

Obviously not all (know some lovely short women), just a very sweeping generalisation.

They're also allergic to the word short and always use petite it's not like we're French is it? In which case tall women would be called elegante or something 😂😂

Yes I see that all the time too, tall skinny men with small 'larger' women.

Maybe, I do know a lot of tall people (used to do modelling) & they are all with tall people. I'm the runt at 5ft 9 😆

@ThoseBootsAreMadeForWalking

*I should rather hope that in a civilised society nobody 'has' to fight

Exactly!*

Until one day, the grizzly escaped from the zoo!

In that case all I'd be looking for is someone who couldn't run quite as fast as me

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@HotSince82 haha thanks! Nice username assuming it is after the DJ.

It would be important to me - I couldn't go out with anybody shorter or the same height as me. They'd need to be at least 4 inches taller if I wore heels.
I am 5' 5" and OH is 6'4" so not a problem with us

I'm 5ft1 and he's 6ft4. It's not overly important given I'm so small. I wouldn't like someone that would be same height though when I had heels on. So I wouldn't want anyone below about 5ft6 but prefer taller. I've always went for guys that are pretty tall though lol.

@forgetthehousework

In that case all I'd be looking for is someone who couldn't run quite as fast as me

Oh that twist made me giggle!

So much better than the scenario in my head! the tall guy fights the grizzly and loses, the short girl who was with the tall guy ends up a widow. The tall girl puts her boxing gloves away and is grateful she has a short guy. The poor short girl ends up dating the grizzly who thinks she has a dazzling personality!