Is height really important ?

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Had a social distance date with a guy yesterday. Was a little disappointed to see he looked shorter than the 5'11 that was on his profile (I'm 5'7 so quite tall) but then when we got talking I found him a nice person and we seemed to get on great.

Just wondered others thoughts on height and those who have a partner what are your heights ? Does it bother you ?

@ThoseBootsAreMadeForWalking precisely!

Different routes to the same end.

I'm a 6ft curvy size 18 and my husband of 30 yrs is a stocky strong 5ft 3...so no height didn't matter to us..

The height thing is really weird. I have seen 5 foot 2 girls saying a guy who is 5 foot 7 is short for them. That is a 5 inch difference very significant. It is also quite strange for short girls calling other guys short when they are significantly taller than them.

Guys as well are strange. Not wanting to date a girl the same height or taller than you. Or someone who is not Slim.

I think what we forget is that a lot of beauty standards have been set by society and we had no choice in that in fact we are influenced by society. Being tall guy is seen as most desirable. Being a Slim girl is seem as most desirable. Having light skin is seen as most desirable.

I think if we forget about what society deems beautiful we would see much more successful and happy relationships. E.g. a girl finds someone a guy who is only a few inches taller than her but he treats you well is a great person etc.. Or a guy who finds a girl who isn't Slim and nearly the same height as him but she has a lot of love and care for him. The biggest attraction is love and care for someone. Yes physical attraction is important to an extend. But when you are in a relationship with someone who is truly loving and caring that becomes much more important than physical attraction. Perhaps if we were all more open then we would be happier.

@bumblingbovine49 - I know my exact height. I've been measured at the doctor's and I've measured myself. Don't men do this?

I've been on a date (many years ago) with a guy who made a comment about my height and I was taller than him. We talked about how tall I am. Quite recently I saw him on a dating site claiming he was 6 foot so that was a fib, he's probably 5 foot 10.

I don't think wanting a taller partner is anything complicated. It's just what you are attracted to. Some men like curvy women, some men like petite women. I don't think it's shallow, everyone has their own preferences when it comes to attraction.

I'm taller than my husband and we've been together for 25 years. If anything he is more conscious of the difference than I am, but he won't get any taller and I won't get any shorter by wishing it was different!. There are so many reasons why I love him that height doesn't even get a look in.

Another strange reason is the "short son argument."

A lot of women say things like "what if my son becomes short." So what does that make anyone less of a man? Just cause your son was short would you love him any less? This whole idea of "feeling protected" is a joke. We don't live in the jungle plus a lot of shorter guys can fight well look at boxers many are 5'8 and under (Amir Khan, Pacquiao, Mayweather etc..)

Also sometimes people forget to realize that just cause you have a partner that is say 6 foot and you are 5 foot 2 does not automatically mean your son will be 6 foot or higher. From my experience, with couples with this height range it is common to find the son being 5,8-5'10.

Oh noooo, absolutely no way! I’d be so annoyed at wasting my time on a liar as well. Just be honest and then women who are up for dating shorter men can go for a date with him. Personally, I find height very important and wouldn’t consider dating a man under 6 foot at the minimum. My husband is 6’3” and that’s perfect.

A lot of women say things like "what if my son becomes short

I dont think anyone fears their son becoming short. You can’t really become short.

It is likely that 2 parents one tall and the short have a child of average size indeed. A lot less likely if they are both short. Not sure I understand your points tbh 🤷🏼‍♀️

@DreamChaser23 height comes from both parents. So if mum is 5'2 and hubby 6', son usually around the 5'7 mark. Of course he could be 6' as well, but he could also be 5'2.

Kissing and sex were not a problem with taller men, they’re just better with s man my height I’ve found - a personal thing probably

We don't live in the jungle plus a lot of shorter guys can fight well

Taller guys generally don't have to fight at all.

Actually sons tend to gravitate towards the height of males on their mothet's side of the family. Girls tend to either follow the height of their father's female relatives or to average their parent's height.
I can't remember precisely why, its something vaguely to do with the gentic info contained on the X chromosome though.

When we say the average for a man is 5’9”, we can’t be talking mean or median so it must be mode ie the most common height is 5’9”?

@wolfirrl and grandparents, I'm the token shorty in a tall family, Dad 6ft, Mum 5'8, brother 6ft me 5'3ish. It just takes one tiny Nan...

@PhoneLock I should rather hope that in a civilised society nobody 'has' to fight.

Taller guys often have to fight because shorter guys want to take them on to show they’re ‘men’, in my experience!

Anyway, to comeback to the OP: definitely worth giving him a chance, he sounds lovely

I’m the weird tiny person in my family. Even my mum is over 6ft, my dad is short(5’5”), but everyone else is 6’4” plus. My DH is 6’4” and our toddler is in the top end of height for his age. I wouldn’t love either of my sons any less if they grow to be short men, but nor do I think life is as easy.

“A lot of short men can protect” - naming a few boxers isn’t really a lot of men, they’re clearly exceptional regardless of the merits of the protection argument. I imagine that as opposed to an overt preference for protection, it’s an evolutionary drive that’s subtle and steers some people’s preferences.

I should rather hope that in a civilised society nobody 'has' to fight

Exactly!

As a tall woman height is super important. DH is 6'7 and that was the first thing I noticed about him.

What age bracket are these averages compiled from? 18-65?

Also I think it makes sense that women who find taller men more appealing would want their sons to be taller. They're viewing the world from their point of view so think a taller son will have an easier time of it than a shorter one. They would probably prefer their son to be handsome rather than ugly too...

I understand the desire to have taller but I think what causes the issue is even very short women want 6ft+ - I'd appreciate if you'd leave those for us taller ladies

My husband is ALOT taller than me. Doesn't affect sex if that why people get hung up on height.

*I should rather hope that in a civilised society nobody 'has' to fight

Exactly!*

Until one day, the grizzly escaped from the zoo!

At 5’11, I'm taller than most British men. It would be ridiculous to rule out most men as potential partners because of this, but I definitely wouldn’t have a relationship with anyone who was so pathetically insecure that he had a problem with being shorter than me.

DP is a bit taller than me but, because he isn’t a dickhead, he has no issue with me wearing heels which make me taller than him.

I prefer men who taller than me by at least a few inches, I don't really fancy short men or really tall men either.

what causes the issue is even very short women want 6ft+ - I'd appreciate if you'd leave those for us taller ladies

I had a tall friend who used to get really frustrated about this back in the years. Why should we? If the tall guy approaches us, he is also allowed a preference too surely? Dating is not charity work as a PP said.

Maybe consider reviewing your preferences if your pool is too narrow.