I need help I have kids scared to leave my partner

[lovemychildren27]

Hi everyone just looking for some advice or someone who's been in a similar situation I have kids and have been with my partner for a long time but I'm scared of him I no this isn't right but I don't no what I can do about it please if anyone can help me out thanks

OP do not get trapped in the kitchen or bathroom. If he goes to attack you, keep the phone on you and get out. Run outside and shout and scream for help. Tell the children to call the police.

OP are you ok?

Spaces change regularly so it’s worth ringing them every couple of days. Remember if you need to get out, phone police. They’ll have to take you somewhere safe until a refuge is found.

i hope you are well op.

I’m ok but he has my phone so I am using the kid’s computer to log in I will keep you updated if I can

I will try and log back in in a bit if I can

OP you need to continue to contact domestic abuse organisations and refuges.

If you go to your email and press BCC in the 'header' lines, then put as many email addresses as you can into the 'To' space and copy and paste the messages from earlier or just type in something similar. The way you're doing it is too slow, just put in as many as you can find and hopefully you'll get a response soon.

Is there anyone you trust that can phone around for you? You can send them the link and they can call and speak to refuges and organisations.

Oh crap about the phone

Op you are so brave and I hope you are ok.
I hope you manage to get your phone back and you are safe

Why does he have your phone?
I do hope it's password/fingerprint protected

I'm really worried

I pmd a few times too

Please stay safe

OP hope you are okay?

Hoping OP and her children are ok.

Hope you are ok
Please pm if there is anyone I can call for you??

Hope you’re ok.

Sorry it has took me so long to reply he has given me my phone back but he’s not speaking I haven’t slept atal with stress and worry thanks you everyone

Pleased you're OK OP! Is there any way he could have found anything re:your escape plan on your phone?

OP I'm so sorry your going through this. Do you have access to cash? Is there a city where he doesn't have friends/family? Could you try getting information for refuges in the city's that he doesn't have family? Once you've found one, it's train tickets and escape! Your doing so well OP. Keep going.

What can we do that may help?

That’s great you’ve got the phone back. Try getting in touch with the refuge you did before.

I tried saying I had an appointment at school today and he came with me and sat outside I’m really trying but losing hope I’m going to email every where tonight when everyone is asleep

But what if none of them get back to you

That's more waiting and waiting

It's too dangerous

Do WA still organise free travel for people fleeing d v? If so could we maybe link you up and get this sorted for you??

I rang refuges and many of them are full but there are still options

Please get out
This is eerily similar to my situation - he flipped and tried to strangle me to death
Only after agreeing with him that I was such a terrible person did he let me live

I am a teacher. If you had disclosed to us what was happening we would've pulled out all the stops to get you the help you need and to ensure that your children were safe. Next time you are with somebody - teacher, nurse, dentist, optician, pharmacist, anybody at all that you can trust, please tell them your situation and ask them to call someone on your behalf whilst you are there.

I am worried for you OP. If this man is known by the authorities for his violence, I would have thought that you could simply ring the police from inside the house and ask them to escort you and the children away immediately. I think your situation sounds too critical and dangerous for the other organisations to help you with the actual act of leaving. They may be able to help you with support and advice afterwards but you need the presence of the police to leave without being attacked. You could call them to explain where you are in the house. I don't know. It just sounds really dangerous

OP here are your options:

Contact the police. You can try to get to a Boots and ask for the 'consultation room' from there you can call the police. Dial 101 and tell them what is going on and they will advise. You can also report via the internet here.

Contact Women's Aid live chat, keep trying.

If he attacks you again or goes to attack you dial 999 and call the police. If they arrest him and take him away, you have time to pack and get to a refuge. They can keep him away from you for 48 hours. They also have a domestic abuse unit who can help you get away. If you need to get to the hospital, tell the staff about the abuse and ask for help. Write it down and hand them a note if you can't talk.

In the meantime, keep emailing the domestic abuse organisations (who can call around for you) as well as the refuges. If one of them gets back to you with a phone number, tell them you cannot make calls and ask for an email address.

If you can get to the doctor, your GP should be able to help you with a referral and by making calls. They will ask him to leave the room and they will help. They are in contact with local DV organisations.

There's also the Domestic Abuse Helpline which is 24 hours: 0808 2000 247