I need help I have kids scared to leave my partner

[lovemychildren27]

Hi everyone just looking for some advice or someone who's been in a similar situation I have kids and have been with my partner for a long time but I'm scared of him I no this isn't right but I don't no what I can do about it please if anyone can help me out thanks

But what if they can't call for 3/4 days

Could you try another option?

Are you hoping they will suggest a refuge?

U have to give them a timescale they can call back in I could only say within 2 hours so I have to re ring and leave another message with another timescale they can ring in tomorrow I can’t say for them to call any time I cannot talk when he is here hope that makes sense . The lady I spoke to said they hold database for refuges all over so they should be able to say where is 1 available so yea I am hoping they can help with that it has to be a refuge with the available space and one that does haven’t people from his community in or nearby

Could they email you back with information ??

So then you don't have to worry about him hearing the conversation

So sorry there are extra layers of complication with this

Yes I was thinking that I think email replies are up to 5 days I just worry about emails as I would be constantly checking my emails I suppose I could create a new email that I could log in and out off though

But just to add the longer you stay the more dangerous it is

Not meaning to scare you
Really hope you get some clear answers from WA

Is there an area you have in mind? Could you go and present homeless there??
Sorry just thinking out loud here

So so brave keep on going you will get there ❤️

Thanks I haven’t got any area in mind I don’t think it’s safe for me 2 just leave and present myself in abraham as they might not have anywhere to put me ringing women’s aid again today so will see what they say

When I used to work in refuges, some women would phone up every couple of days. I never minded. Just keep trying whenever you can.

Keep going my dear

Your opportunity will come

You already have done fab
Reaching out at the start is so hard

Sending you lots of good wishes

OP there are other things you can do while waiting to make a phone call.

Women's Aid have a live chat line. They can search for refuges while you are on the chat line with them.

You have been given the link to the refuge database already and can continue to email refuges for available space. It's here. Press Only show services that have a refuge service for women and put in an area where there are no known links to your husband and contact those places to see if they have space.

Also remember that outside office hours you need the National Domestic Abuse line number which is 24/7: 0808 2000 247

People here keep telling women to contact Women's Aid when they mean the National number. That number is run by Refuge who run the majority of refuges in the UK which is why they have access to the database.

You can chat to Refuge online and Monday to Friday 3-6pm. They can also do a search for refuge spaces while you wait.

This is so useful for many of us !!

Thank you

Op how are you?

Need some help I’m shaking and pancaking there was a mistake screenshot on my phone of this chat forum I’ve just deleted it but it been on my phone since yesterday and I’ve only just seen it my phone does that sometimes when I don’t realise I pancaking don’t much don’t no if anyone still awake

Hi op, I’m still awake

Happy to chat nonsense if you want some distraction?

Try and slow your breathing..

Hope you’re ok OP, I’m guessing you’d know about it if the screenshot had been seen x

Does he often look at your phone? If he’d seen it, don’t you think he would have challenged you about it?

Just what I thought 7996cath

Worst case scenario is that he may have seen it and decided to investigate further himself. Downloaded Mumsnet himself to keep an eye on this thread.
Take care OP

How are you op?

Can you get out this week??

Are you on Instagram? As I have discovered lots of support groups and refuges on there and many accept direct messages and so far I have found they respond quickly

You ok op? Worried we’ve not heard from you since your panic last night. Sending strong positive thoughts xx

Hope all ok op x

Is there anything we can maybe do to help?

He may have seen the thread.

Hope not but it’s possible. I’m very worried about her.