Is this The Ick?

[RuffleCrow]

Been chatting with a guy for a few days, seems pretty nice. Which is probably the number one quality i'm looking for (long back story, dv etc).

Anyway, we arranged a day for a virtual date, buf not long afterwards he mentiones he had an embarassing minor medical condition. It's not the condition itself, it's the fact that he mentioned it really early on. AIBU to have cold feet?

OP, ask for this to get moved to relationships. You’ll get more replies

He mentioned it earlier on because he wanted to be honest, most likely. If you’re not attracted do not feel obligated to remain talking to him

You can get cold feet over whatever you like. If it’s put you off and you don’t want to see / talk to him again then don’t.

Oops! Not sure how it ended up in s & b! Will try to move!

Probably a spot.
Didbt want to be on cam with a massive boil on the end of his chin lol.

No advice but now I want to know what the embarrassing condition could possibly be...!

It's the kind of thing that could have waited at least a few months imo. It wouldn't have been obvious on camera. It's the sort of thing I wouldn't mention to someone i wanted to fancy me. Maybe that's just me.

You have to tell us what it is now. I'm imagining all kinds of stuff....

Omg what was it? Pls share!!!

Please tell - I’m trying to guess ....

Excessive sweating? Herpes?

A bent willy

Foot fungus? Verucas?

Maybe he mentioned it early on to see if it out you off. Maybe he’s had a lot of relationships stall because of it and he wa t to be clear about it early on.

Op please put us out of our misery and tell us what it is!

I'd love to but i'm a bit worried he might be on here and i'll out myself

Jeez, you have to tell us!!

I think fair play to him telling you up front, presuming it's IBS or something similar. The longer you leave it, the more you have to get the timing right to bring it up.

Well you have to admire his honestly? I would like that about him. But I understand that it should be flirty and not ickky at the start.

I vote micro penis!

Unless he was sitting on a donut cause of piles xD

Bless him. It's probably not minor to him and he is self conscious so wanted to address it. I'd give him a chance if hes a nice guy.

That's the @Littleshortcake, apart from the ick it's the feeling that i've moved straight from total stranger to partner who has to put up with tmi without any of the good stuff!

If he is on here Op I think he’d have recognised this anyway.

Yeh its rushing closeness which can be a bad sign. He might be another like your ex.

Telling people embarrassing things ect or secrets, is a common abuser tactic to encourage closeness fast. Or to get you to overstate too.

(Plus if it was about his willy then its totally tmi early on).

Tryst your gut.

I need to know. He won't be on Mumsnet come on!!!!!

*overshare too

Yeah. There should be a bit of fun and flirting at this stage. But give him a chance.