Advice needed by a guy

[tawaanchu]

Hi,

I am not sure if its a right platform to post but I needed an honest advice. I shall be very grateful for a response.

I'm a 21 -year-old guy. I am a virgin and I find it incredibly hard to talk to girls. I have had many female friends, even my closest friends have been women but when it comes to taking it to next level (dating), I don't know what to do. I have never had any girlfriend or even kissed a girl I used to like a girl very much, we were very good friends and when I told, she said that she considers me as her best friend. I respected it and we are still very good friends but now she has found a boyfriend. It makes me feel very down and sad. I genuinely loved her and think best of her but seeing her with someone else makes me feel very low and rejected.
It has been a miserable life so far and often I feel sexually frustrated. I have thought about many times of seeing an escort and getting the feel of sex. It just seems impossible for me to take my friendship with a girl to a relationship level. I have only asked girl out once (that I like her). I have many female friends but almost most of them see me as a good friend. I'm highly anxious that if I tell a girl that I like her, she would get offended and could lead to disastrous and awkward situations. I would say I am a popular and decent looking guy and if I talk to girls, they dont air or ignore me. I have taken out girls for dinner or even food but then we end up being friends. I am properly stuck in friend zone.

I don't know what to do about it. I'm in university and I see my friends enjoying, feeling loved by their girlfriends etc while me on the other hand don't enjoy the warmth and love of opposite gender. I feel incredibly nervous infront of girls that I really fancy which leads to quite awkward situations. I have only told one girl that I liked her (which was my best friend as abobe). I see my friends asking girls out in mins and next moment they start dating. While on other hand I'm still hanging around like an idiot and dont know how to flirt. My female friends consider me the nicest guy they have met but only I know how low it feels to be friend-zoned while they talk about their sexual experiences.

I have an extrovert nature with my friends (including normal female friends) and in order to act as a cool person, I lie that I am not a virgin and have slept with many women. But deep down I feel so frustrated and I think I will forever stay single. I am very tempted to see an escort and get a sexual experience as I am very sexually frustrated.

This has been affecting me a lot. Any advice will be really appreciated.

I am sorry if its not relevant to this forum

[NotNowPlzz]

You probably do know virgins of your own age, but they're lying, just like you

With regard to finding out if a friend you like has romantic intent. You could try this. While you're out walking somewhere say something like, 'i was just thinking the other day, do you think we'll always be friends or do you think we might get together one day?' said with a smile.

You should be able to tell from her reaction if she's interested or not.

If she says 'why' then she's probably interested and you should say something like 'oh I was just thinking about you and how much I like spending time with you' or a compliment about her CHARACTER and why you admire it. 'and obviously you're very pretty'.

If she says you'll always be friends say that's totally cool with you and then change the subject.

If she gives signs of being interested then you could make a move. I totally understand your fear of not looking like a creep. But I think your anxiety is getting in the way of you noticing signs and signals of interest.