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Intimidated by my boyfriends intelligence :/

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jasminepeony · 14/05/2020 09:01

So I haven't been able to see my boyfriend for many weeks (due to the current situation) but we have been keeping in touch over facetime. But because all we have is conversation (no hugs etc), sometimes I'm left feeling a little drained.

Basically, he's super intelligent and he speaks in this very intellectual way. I'll be saying stuff like "yeah I watched this movie earlier and I really liked it". He will ask me about it and then he will give me this really comprehensive analysis on what it was really about and my mind is just blown.

Like, I do really value his mind and he always helps me to see things in a more in-depth way, but sometimes I feel so out of my element. Recently it has dawned on me that he's like my teacher, and I'm his student and sometimes I feel intimidated and just wish we could be on the same level. He's always so measured and thoughtful in his speech and I feel like I have nothing to contribute.

I have expressed my worries to him before and he tells me I'm much more intelligent than I give myself credit for and that he likes the way I speak and finds it endearing etc.

I guess maybe I just need more girlfriends to have those silly, emotional conversations with and should stop trying to get this from my partner? I don't know, I just needed to get this off my chest.

OP posts:
Insertdeadcatsnamehere · 14/05/2020 16:32

Are you sure he's as clever as he thinks he is?

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