new covid guidelines: is everyone in a non-live-in relationship still not seeing their partner?

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Given that there has been no mention at all of social interaction beyond:
1 - meeting one other person outdoors at a distance of 2m
2- in the relatively far off future, being possibly able to socialise in "bubbles" with one other household thus facilitating childcare etc

basically if you are in a relationship with someone whose household or day to day life you do not share, there is no mention at all of when that will resume.

What does that realistically mean in terms of what people are actually doing?

• following the rules to the letter? for as long as it takes?
• saying "fuck it" and meeting indoors and being physically close anyway, in secret?
• somewhere in between?

Please tell me the truth. I won't tell a soul!

@Sunnydays123456 my kids wouldn't care in the slightest, ds19 barely speaks to me. Ds15 has no such fears. it's only dp with issues which probably makes it harder...

My suggestion is to back off from a caring role and let him make his own arrangements. Then maybe do a bit of video chatting... so he can see how much he's missing you..?

I think this is good advice!

@otter71 That does sound very difficult. I agree with Mascotte as a good way forward, let him try and find a way around the shopping etc so that your relationship comes back to more of a partnership, it might feel tough but I think it would benefit you both in the long run.

My 18 year old is also very much a rule follower, which I'm usually glad of, so I too had to get her permission to have him here. She said it was fine but was annoyed that she couldn't have her boyfriend in the house. I do feel bad but I said to her that in a couple of weeks we will see as he also has his own family to consider and I doubt his mum would be happy if I just went ahead with it.

@booboo24 aw re your 19yo

My 18 yo had his gf move in for the duration as wouldn’t have coped don’t think

Teenagers!! I have an 18 year old too and so does my DP. Bloody gatekeepers!!

Otter I agree with others. Stop doing the caring role. You don’t live with him. You need to get back to the more romantic place of dating. He does sound extreme to be honest.

Just found this thread - my partner lives a few miles away which has until now suited my lifestyle (single mum) and life was good.
Since lockdown I've found I'm getting obsessed with the lack of physical contact though! We've seen each other once a week in the garden since this was allowed but haven't been closer than 2m for 3 months and it's torture! My mental health is definitely suffering from this and I cry most days over it. I just need a hug!!!!
Seeing all the people on here who break the rules makes me wonder whether I'm sticking to them unnecessarily though...

@eenymeenyminyme (and everyone else) I feel your pain.
I've been watching this thread for a while, but some of the posts from people that are bending the rules make me sad, as I wish my Mr would bend the rules too but he won't and I'm struggling. I just want a hug and a kiss.
I live alone and I've really struggled with all this, over the past month or so every time Boris is due to lead the daily brief (like today) I get my hopes up that he's going to say we can see our partners and when he doesn't I just end up in tears.

To all: just shag your partners and enjoy 😃 Life's too short.

I think everyone is starting to relax a little bit now. I can’t imagine neighbours reporting etc any more. I think now it’s more down to individuals to start making their own choices. As schools are opening up and shops etc are all looking at ways to get back to normal, relationships HAVE to be a priority.

I feel sorry for my DS (20) as his GF is also risk averse (mainly for him, as she’s still working and he isn’t, so she’s the risky one).

She asked her parents if he could move in and they originally said yes, but then changed their minds . I did suggest she could move in with us, but she has pets that need her there, so they’ve only seen each other a couple of times since it all kicked off. I’m actually surprised they’re still together tbh, but they’re obviously better at this than DP and I!

For anyone who’s still unable to see their DP

OMG HE'S DONE IT!!! I'm surprised you haven't all heard me celebrating!!

Big smiles here ( although we have been doing it anyway )

I am so excited!!!

Sooo happy!!

And they finally chose a question about couples who live apart!

THIS WHAT YOU HAVE ALL BEEN WAITING FOR??
No more rule breaking !!!! If this is correct !!!! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🤪
apple.news/A3yqlYOjYSJi2iUIUhGzSRw

My daughter is 18 so technically I'm still breaking the law but.......oh my god I could cry i'm so happy!

Asked this on another thread but can someone clarify if this allowed?
Single parent picks partner who lives with shielding parents.
Would this be allowed?

@Cherryghost it’s single adult households only so it wouldn’t be allowed (I’m in the same situation)

@Cherryghost sorry ignore me! You can join another household

@Cherryghost It doesn't apply to shielding people so I guess not :(

This article explains it pretty well....
www.theguardian.com/world/2020/jun/10/support-bubble-plan-lets-single-parents-in-england-combine-households

I see the BBC are reporting this incorrectly and saying both in the couple need to live alone. It’s clearly wrong but I wish they’d get it amended!

I think the BBC and Sky are saying that it's only single parent households or people living alone that can form a bubble, which does seem to be what he said at the briefing.

I'm in Wales and dp in England so no mingling for us yet

Same here, I'm in England, DP in Wakes 😩