Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

[ElderflowerPotion]

I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

Its up to you. I'd be very careful about contraception though. Its not something I would do, but in my younger wilder days I might have.

Urgh. That's grim and disgusting. Do you HAVE to have sex with the 2 men everytime you see them both? Are both 'relationships' just sex based? God, no. It's your choice though, just be careful you don't go picking up any nasty diseases because if they know you're screwing both of them, chances are they are getting it where they can too.

You’d have to change the sheets and brush your teeth

Personally, no.

And I really wouldn't want anything to do with a man who slept with 2 women at the same time either.

Then again, casual sex was never for me.

I don't think it's grim to shag someone the first time you meet them.

Sex is what you make of it. Funny, satisfying, meaningful, an act of love, scratching an itch, two souls meeting, making a baby, quick, slow, average, disappointing... If you want to imbue having sex with a particular meaning then fine, go right ahead. But don't impose your standards on someone else.

There are still some incredibly puritanical attitudes towards sex, especially where women are concerned. I find it surprising how common it is to believe that your body is some kind of sacred vessel that should only be shared with one person - or at a push, a discerning few (and judging by this thread, in strict chronological order rather than concurrently!).

No. I wouldn't.

There is a point where a man feels uncomfortable with the quantity of partners and lose respect for the woman. There is also a point where a lock opened by too many keys means you don't respect the lock.

😂🤣😂 I’ve got no words 😂 And the post about a runny egg is just as hilarious 😂

OP, go for it if that’s what you want. If a friend told me they’ve slept with two different men I wouldn’t bat an eyelid (as longs as they weren’t doing it to try to please the man). I’d just think, Good on you for enjoying sex and not being embarrassed to admit it.

What's the difference to if its 2 days onntheboropertonnthebproperty or 2 in a week instead of 2 in a day?

I'd say the more pertinent Q is whether you want to be having 2 sexual 'relationships' at the same time.

I'd assume that Op would automatically shower between the 2. I guess some people might have multiple partners without having a shower - orgy type scenario, but she isn't suggesting this.

For lots of people, the idea of multiple sexual partners at the same time (regardless of if its in one day or not) isn't appealing or pleasant, but Op can do what she wants. I'd agree it's important to be clear with both that Op isn't considering it to be an exclusive thing. And actually that might need spelling out, because lots of people automatically assume a sexual relationship is exclusive, which I don't think is unusual. Therefore, I'd say the onus is on the Op to make clear it's not exclusive rather than on the men to ask if it is....if you know what I mean. I expect some people will disagree there though and say the Op owes neither of these men anything. However, if she hopes to continue having sex with either or both of them or to be in any kind of communication with either or both of them into the longer term, some level of openness seems the adult approach.

If both she and the men are happy it's not an exclusive sex thing, then I think it's fine. I'd think we can disregard the idea of her not having showered between.

Personally, wouldn't be for me, but with honesty with the men, I'd say it's no different as a concept to sleeping with 2 men concurrently across a week or a month really.

Runny eggs and sacred locks! Who needs the MRAs when you have MN?

If you are thinking/hoping that the man you haven't met yet might be relationship material then probably not.

Tappering Totally agree.

I've often seen the puritanical attitudes to women and sex go hand in hand with people thinking women should be 'ladylike'. Which is also something I have no intention of adhering to.

If someone I was meeting for a date already had a regular casual partner I'd want to know about that, ether whether I was looking for something casual or more. Assume casual partner has already agreed that non exclusivity is fine so new guy needs that opportunity too.

If you feel comfortable with it then do what makes you happy.

It's a bit slutty.

And I mean that kindly. I was a terrible slut in my youth. If that's the stage you're at then go for it!

So OP, will you be communicating the fact that you don't see either of these liaisons as being 'exclusive' with both these men - via either communication in the past or communication of the day?

I think this is the key really. All parties need to be aware and all parties need to be happy with the situation. If they are, then Op can go ahead happily if she wants to.

Where I find difficulty with a lot of the arguments for unlimited sexual partners and freedom to have as much sex as wanted, for both men and women, is where there is no communication about intentions - because I think that's where people get hurt and I do think adults do owe that little bit of basic communication to anyone they plan to have sex with, even if it is very much a 5 minute incident with a stranger which is not to be repeated. I don't think it's adult or responsible to think you can have sex, especially repeated sex over time with someone and not have any communication about your mindset about it.

I don't think there should be double standards for men and women. If a man wanted to have multiple sexual partners I'd also expect him to make clear to each he didn't see it as exclusive. I think though that lots of people who do have multiple partners aren't brave or considerate enough to have that communication, and that's where the problems often occur. I do t think it's disrespectful to have sex with lots of people as lomg as people know. What's disrespectful is to not communicate.

What I find weird is so many posters are assuming the OP would not use condoms! Did all of those posters last have free sex in 70s and completely miss the AIDS crisis or something?? Of course she’d likely use condoms as would most people nowadays as a baseline. Yeesh. Unless this is just being used as a morality stick to beat her with? MN is so weird and conservative about sex sometimes.

Only if I'd had a good breakfast.

In my youth, that might have been OK as an occasional thing, but personally I don't think I'd fancy it as a regular set up.

@ElderflowerPotion wow, you're getting some very over opinionated people replying to this, think they're forgetting it's YOUR life and your decision what you do when you have some time to yourself. You do you girl!

Also, they don't both need to know because it's irrelevant. I imagine you see them both for very different reasons which again, you go girl!
Nobody's getting hurt!

Enjoy it while you can. Life's too short. Don't let others opinions make you feel shitty either, most of them just wish they had the chance I'm sure some people don't think before they say things. Because it's easy to say things when they can't see you!

And who she has sex with is nobody else’s business, seriously. She can keep that info to herself and doesn’t need to seek approval or consensus from the men she’s sleeping with. What absurd prudishness. Her body, her choice, her sex, her privacy.

I once slept with three different people over a long weekend, wasn’t planned, but it was fun. Didn’t want a relationship with any of them.

The premeditation here is the predicament. I think if I was talking and meeting with someone potentially to start a relationship then they need to know you have a FWB. I wouldn’t want to have any deceit hanging over me if it became a proper relationship, or something that might put them off.

I’d probably see new date on the Friday, see how that went, decide if I wanted to pursue anything or not....and that would determine if I saw FWB afterwards or not.

Did all of those posters last have free sex in 70s

Probably 😁 it's been a while since I picked up random men. And aids wasn't a thing when I was a teen.

If someone I was meeting for a date already had a regular casual partner I'd want to know about that, ether whether I was looking for something casual or more

Then you need to ask them.

As far as I’m concerned who I sleep with isn’t anyone’s business and that includes someone I’m going on a first / second date with. If things progress past a second date and exclusivity is spoken about then I’m more willing to open up about who I have as casual partners but to be honest what’s it got to do with someone I’m just going on a date with?

No i would find it disgusting sleeping with 2 men even in the same month, im not one for casual sex

Go for it,now I'm too old to get the chance I wish I had when younger.