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Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

601 replies

ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 12:53

I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

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AllsortsofAwkward · 10/05/2020 14:21

Sorry op its grim, if a man had posted this he would be ripped apart.

Tappering · 10/05/2020 14:21

Bloody hell there are some very unpleasant and misogynist posts on here. Posts about locks and runny eggs are just hideous.

It's just sex. If someone reading this finds the idea a bit off-putting, then fine - nobody's asking you to do it. It's not my cup of tea personally, but as long as all concerned are consenting and clear about their arrangements (e.g. everything is casual, therefore no sexual exclusivity) then what's the issue?

ViciousJackdaw · 10/05/2020 14:22

If on was Thurs and the other Sun, would you still hold the same view?

On a SUNDAY??? The sabbath? You harlot. Everyone knows it's 'chilled on Sunday' and with good reason too.

Tootletum · 10/05/2020 14:22

Urgh!!

BitOfANameChange · 10/05/2020 14:24

There is a point where a man feels uncomfortable with the quantity of partners and lose respect for the woman. There is also a point where a lock opened by too many keys means you don't respect the lock.

Now that is just misogynistic.

Any man who thinks it's his business knowing whether you've had multiple isn't someone I'd be interested in knowing.

And if you're free and single, it's no skin off my nose whether you have sex with more than one person in a day. Regardless of age.

I've never done it myself, in fact I've only had one sexual partner in my life and I'm mid 50s. Now that I'm single, if the opportunity arose, I probably would do it. Safely, with condoms.

IdblowJonSnow · 10/05/2020 14:25

I did this in my wild youth so no judgement from me.
Doesn't appeal now tho (assuming I could find 2 blokes who wanted to have sex with me!!)

thedancingbear · 10/05/2020 14:25

I agree that a lot of the language used on this thread - runny eggs and that - is a bit grim. I'm not sure how much of it is genuine misogyny or people trying to be funny. Either way I think people need to remember that the OP is a real person.

I think the question about how a man posting the same would be greeted is interesting, though. I do tend to think he would get a kicking. I'm struggling to think why as the consensus seem to be (correctly, I think) that the OP would not be doing a thing wrong.

Flyinggeese · 10/05/2020 14:26

OP if you haven't even met the person you've been chatting to yet then how come the leap to sleeping with him and furthermore the possibility of sleeping with the casual guy on the same day? Why the rush to sleep with the person you've not met yet?

MulticolourMophead · 10/05/2020 14:26

Sorry op its grim, if a man had posted this he would be ripped apart.

Actually, no, I don't think so. Because in an identical situation, the man is not in an exclusive relationship and it's all consensual.

Beancounter9 · 10/05/2020 14:27

Personally I just wouldn’t see FWB that weekend, see how it goes with the new bloke and then take it from there. If you don’t click, your FWB will still be there the next time.

SodaSloth · 10/05/2020 14:28

Have a wash in between or he'll be tasting the other man

Dhalandchips · 10/05/2020 14:28

Chance would be a fine thing Grin

Elsiebear90 · 10/05/2020 14:29

Is the second guy someone you want a relationship with? Or is he just casual as well? If you want a relationship with him then I don’t think it’s right to plan to have sex with a different man on the same day you’re having a date and potentially having sex with him (unless he’s aware of it), as I’d be really annoyed and hurt if someone I ended up in a relationship with did that to me. If it’s another casual relationship then I see no issue at all.

Boomclaps · 10/05/2020 14:32

@ViciousJackdaw

“If on was Thurs and the other Sun, would you still hold the same view?
On a SUNDAY??? The sabbath? You harlot. Everyone knows it's 'chilled on Sunday' and with good reason too.”

It’d be fine if they were on Wednesday, and on Thursday and Friday and Saturday.. though wouldn’t it...

Honeybee85 · 10/05/2020 14:32

My friend actually did a while ago.
She was dating a guy & they slept together for the first time. She had already found out he was very stingy and when they had sex, turned out his cock was appearently awfully small plus he wasn't very good in pleasing her. After he had left the next morning and she had decided she wasn't going to see him again, she called her FWB.
She said she needed some decent cock 😂.

I just had a good laugh with her about it and hoped she used protection properly with both of them.

IllegalFred · 10/05/2020 14:35

It's not particularly the length of time between each of them, it's more that you're cultivating a relationship with one of them online who is not aware of the other's existence from what you've said. If online partner is aware of your casual partner that changes things.

Rebelwithallthecause · 10/05/2020 14:35

I’m sure a man would if they had the Same opportunity

MysticMeghan · 10/05/2020 14:36

What's wrong with a threesome? Wink Once dated identical twins. It was awesome. My DH (who I met later) knew them vaguely and still teases me about it! Grin

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ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 14:37

@Flyinggeese - honestly, this really is hypothetical so we may indeed not sleep together.

However (I know, other ‘grim’ viewpoint here) if I’m attracted to someone, I will sleep with them on the first date. Besides, we’ve been talking (inc. some FaceTime chats) for a while and I find him really hot.

Other guy knows I’m not looking for anything serious - I have a very, ‘casual but if it feels right...’ kind of stance. So I would be going into something new on the basis of it being casual and non-exclusive, but if something changed I would end it with my FWB.

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MorganKitten · 10/05/2020 14:39

I’ve been to sex clubs so comfortable with sex and my sexuality so don’t see an issue as long as you’re happy and safe.

Scruffyoak · 10/05/2020 14:40

Previously I have but I cant be bothered now!

Ronnie27 · 10/05/2020 14:43

I don’t know. If a man did this to me I’d be pretty disgusted tbh. If you told the second guy he was the second guy that day would he want to? Probably not.

JingsMahBucket · 10/05/2020 14:44

I would do it, definitely.

Sleepyquest · 10/05/2020 14:45

I wouldn't, but I might have done 10 years ago! I think it's a bit dirty unless you use condoms!

crimsonlake · 10/05/2020 14:46

In my youth I may have done, but not now. Personally I would not like to someone to do that to me, whether it be in the same day or a couple of days apart. If it floats your boat go for it but take precautions.