Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

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I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

This is the 21st century. Women are supposed to be equal

Being equal means being empowered to take good safe choices about who you get up close with, who you share intimate acts with and not feeling you have to "beat men at their own game" or collecting extra notches on the bedpost just because the menz do it. Not all men either, the men I've known whose opinions and values I've respected, definitely do not act like that.

Daisy using that logic no one should be fucking their monogamous partners if they work out of the house for the next 18months.

The OP is considering taking the risk with two separate partners, one of whom is almost a stranger to her. My point is I cannot see how it is a good thing to put thumbs up to her doing that, adding risk upon risk in the current situation.

Some people have all the fun! ;)

The same category as which?

The same category as selfishly not getting a shit about someone else!

daisychain01

I completely agree. How can the poster compare this situation with sleeping with your monogamous partner? That's ridiculous.

My dh goes out to work and maintains social distancing. He isn't kissing or shagging anyone.

In this case, FWB has multiple partners, then there's new man (who may or may not have other partners). How many potential routes of infection are there in this little web? No way is it the same risk as sleeping with a long term partner who goes out to work.

Imagine if they get the tracker app?

The same category as selfishly not getting a shit about someone else!

How remarkably reductive.

My dh goes out to work and maintains social distancing. He isn't kissing or shagging anyone

You don’t need to kiss or shag someone to get Covid you know.....

You’re more likely to get Coronavirus from your husband than I am from my FWB. I’ve not seen him since February

I know you love to present this narrative of reckless women, but certainly with regards to Corona you’re taking more risks than I am!

So we’ve moved away from the spread of STDs to Covid now.

Here’s the thing - I have no idea what it will be like with new guy. It might not work out; it might be so amazing that I just want to spend all my time with him; it might be that as they are entirely different characters, I’d want to be seeing them both. I don’t know - hence hypothetical. So this could be one weekend ever type thing, or it could be an ongoing basis. I really don’t know.

What I do know, is that as soon as it’s a feasible option, I want to see them both. I miss FWB. It’s been 7 weeks since I last saw him. I’m excited to see new guy.

Unfortunately , with Covid it doesn’t matter if they are a sexual partner or someone else I’m spending time with. That’s really neither here nor there. I am just as likely picking that up by being in a ‘social bubble’ with my friends and family - hell, more likely at work once I’m allowed back in the office - as I am being with a sexual partner.

How many potential routes of infection are there in this little web?

And this applies to any socialising, not just sexual. All your friends that you decide to see will have their friends and family too.

Ug revolting, speaking personally but if you want to and you keep yourself safe and clean. We are all different.

MarieQueenofScots

No one is talking about you though. We are talking about op and her seeing these two men. Don't tell me that going to work, whilst maintaining social distancing is as likely to spread COVID19 as having sex with someone. That is just utterly ridiculous.

Having sex with two people, who are having sex with other people also is a huge potential risk for spreading it. So, yes, that's reckless.

Having sex with two people, who are having sex with other people also is a huge potential risk for spreading it.

No more than seeing two friends or family members, who are seeing other friends or family members.

And this applies to any socialising, not just sexual. All your friends that you decide to see will have their friends and family too.

That is an utterly ridiculous claim.

Seeing family (which we can't do so it's moot anyway) is in no way the same as having sex with someone. You're just looking silly now.

Yes I would. You've not made a commitment to anyone, so as long as you're safe, it's no ones business

No more than seeing two friends or family members, who are seeing other friends or family members.

Don't be silly

But also I wouldn't ask on a forum or irl if others thought it was acceptable.
So maybe you're a little uncomfortable with the idea
Do what feels right to you

No one is talking about you though

Well make your mind up, you certainly were when you were telling me how wrong I was due to your own assumptions.

Is some consistency too much to ask for?

Are you really denying at this moment you’re at more risk than someone who is single? Isn’t honesty to be valued....?

Why do you need to know what everyone else would do? Do what you want, no one's bothered.

Are you really denying at this moment you’re at more risk than someone who is single? Isn’t honesty to be valued....? wink

I'm shielding. I am not even in the same room as my husband. We sleep in separate rooms, eat in separate rooms, as per shielding guidelines, so no, I'm at no risk because I'm not even setting foot outside the house or having any contact with anyone.

How the hell do you socialize with your family/friends if you think you're just as likely to pass something on as you are having sex?

Personally w friends and family we just sit and talk/ have a drink. Minimal touching, no tongues.

Or is the sex just really rubbish?

*That is an utterly ridiculous claim.

Seeing family (which we can't do so it's moot anyway) is in no way the same as having sex with someone. You're just looking silly now.*

Why is it a ridiculous claim? I can no more go and have sex with someone right now than I can see a friend. When household visits are allowed again, the spread of Covid is just as likely amongst friends as sexual partners. Why do you think it wouldn’t be?

I'm shielding. I am not even in the same room as my husband. We sleep in separate rooms, eat in separate rooms, as per shielding guidelines, so no, I'm at no risk because I'm not even setting foot outside the house or having any contact with anyone

And yet you’re in the same household. So more at risk than me.....sadly my poor shielding friend found that out. Luckily she has just about recovered 42 days in thankfully!

I wouldnt, and I would be really annoyed if I found out I was the second woman a guy had stuck his dick in in the same day, but I suppose there nothing actually wrong with it. I just find it a bit manky