Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

[ElderflowerPotion]

I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

No

I'm joining the 'group of 'slappers' on here, yep, I have and I would again.

Our bodies our choice, go & enjoy OP :)

I wouldn't be fucking someone if I had an STD/outbreak of one. I have never had one so I don't need to disclose anything other than "we're not exclusive".

How do you know whether you have one or not? Many are asymptomatic, particularly in women. The only way to know is by having a test, so, that's simply not correct. As for "not exclusive" - to me, that means free to see other people. I wouldn't think it means you're the second person I've shagged today. Clearly, my level of acceptable risk is different to others.

How do you know whether you have one or not? Many are asymptomatic, particularly in women. The only way to know is by having a test, so, that's simply not correct

Because I have tests regularly as part of my committment to myself to keep sexually safe....so I am correct.

Honestly you'd think this was the most difficult concept in the world

As for "not exclusive" - to me, that means free to see other people. I wouldn't think it means you're the second person I've shagged today. Clearly, my level of acceptable risk is different to others

I wouldn't imagine you have time, it must be exhausting being all the about the bloke every time!

Because I have tests regularly as part of my committment to myself to keep sexually safe....so I am correct.

But unless you test between each partner you simply have no idea. So why claim that you wouldn't sleep with someone if you had an STI? The truth is you wouldn't necessarily know until you went for your next test. Is there a problem with admitting that?

I did, years ago. I was casually dating a guy who stayed over on the Friday night and then went on a date on the Saturday night which ended up in sex. I felt absolutely terrible though - I really wasn’t a slut and didn’t plan things to happen that way. I lost my virginity at 22 and only had a handful of boyfriends, certainly didn’t sleep around. I blame getting over a very intense long-term relationship and trying to make myself feel desirable again. It still haunts me now after having been with my DH for 11.5 years and married for 9. People should obviously do as they wish but for me it’s not something I’m proud of, even though I was technically single at the time.

I've worked in sexual health clinics. I know that having protected sex doesn't guarantee you don't have an infection and you can still infect a partner. Or they can have an infection that they pass to you.

I just find it strange that so many posters are claiming to have safe sex, or that they know they don't have stis when that's just not correct. Is there a problem with stating the truth - that there's no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex?

But unless you test between each partner you simply have no idea. So why claim that you wouldn't sleep with someone if you had an STI? The truth is you wouldn't necessarily know until you went for your next test. Is there a problem with admitting that?

When did I say I didn't? That's all your assumption.

Is there a problem with stating the truth - that there's no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex?

No, I said that pages ago.

Done it many of times in my youth last year one thing I do find though is it makes u realise the one you want most but the one you enjoyed most quite quickly or it does me anyway I know men who would be fine with this and men who would never look at u the same again and that’s fine it’s just the way they feel about the situation

How do you know whether you have one or not? Many are asymptomatic, particularly in women. The only way to know is by having a test, so, that's simply not correct. As for "not exclusive" - to me, that means free to see other people. I wouldn't think it means you're the second person I've shagged today. Clearly, my level of acceptable risk is different to others.

@Hearhoovesthinkzebras - if you're not exclusive, regarding STIs, what difference does it make whether you sleep with two people in the same day, or week?

And yes, there is obviously an increased risk of STI transmission if you are engaging in casual sex. Even if you have multiple, but regular, partners. Personally, I prefer everyone to be open and regularly tested, and I am not keen to sleep with anyone who isn't (and do, generally, ask).

I have two partners. They get tested regularly. Their other partners get tested regularly. I get tested regularly. We're all fairly open with each other about who is sleeping with who. It's not a perfect system, but generally it catches everything. It does require honesty, and an acceptance that it's not 100% guaranteed that you will not catch something.

But then, how many people who are just dating, ask before they sleep with someone for the first time when they got their last STI test? In my experience, people who are openly non-monogamous have a much more open and honest dialogue about STIs and sexual health in general.

@Hearhoovesthinkzebras not that it's a rule as such but if you're using a condom for sexual intercourse yet willing to engage in oral sex without any form of protection.. it just seems abit.. pointless? The only part that your protected from in that aspect though is pregnancy

Have just caught up with the thread as I've not read it since yuesterday.

@SummerAgain's post is an example of misogynistic thinking with all the slut shaming and the implication that there must be something wrong with a woman who is enjoying casual, consensual sex. The idea that sex is a deep and meaningful experience is a load of bollocks.

I was with ex for 30 years. Yes, some of the sex was the deep meanginful stuff (at least in the very early days), but a lot of the time, the sex was just sex, of the scratch an itch variety.

And saying the OP needed help for her low self esteem? My jaw dropped open at that. Such a smug, self-indulgent post that positively screamed that the poster feels she's better than OP because she doesn't have multiple sexual partners.

I was casually dating a guy who stayed over on the Friday night and then went on a date on the Saturday night which ended up in sex. I felt absolutely terrible though - I really wasn’t a slut and didn’t plan things to happen that way.

Again, another example of misogynistic ideas about women and sex.

Crownofthorns You shouldn't be haunted by this. It doesn't, and never did, make you (or indeed, anyone else) a slut, even if you'd done it every week.

Now that I am single, and have recovered from the abusive relationship I had with ex, I'm definitely planning to start dating soon, and I definitely intend to have fun.

This is the 21st century. Women are supposed to be equal. Each poster on here needs to concern themselves with their own sex lives, and stop judging other women for daring to behave differently to themselves.

It does require honesty,

Well, quite. I'm just shocked at the view of many posters that it's none of their partners business who else they are sleeping with.

It's that really that's concerning me. If everyone knows the score then they make up their own minds. I don't know, it just feels deceptive to not be completely honest.

Each poster on here needs to concern themselves with their own sex lives, and stop judging other women for daring to behave differently to themselves.

Erm, then why did op advertise her sex life on a public forum?

As for being misogynistic - that's only the case if people are singling out women. My views about it apply to the men and women. Sorry, I think it's a bit sordid to sleep with multiple people on the same day and that applies to men and women.

Frankly, if you don't want opinions don't ask for them.

Well, quite. I'm just shocked at the view of many posters that it's none of their partners business who else they are sleeping with

Yes. apart from the ‘honesty’ aspect which is irrelevant for so many (I’m not going to even try to understand that mindset as frankly I don’t want to understand it), it is dangerous. I never took recreational drugs, cheated on a partner, slept with other women’s partners and I see sleeping with multiple partners into the sane category.

Yes, as others say if it's safe and consensual. I have.

I never took recreational drugs, cheated on a partner, slept with other women’s partners and I see sleeping with multiple partners into the sane category

The same category as which?

@Swingingontheswing and what category are you talking about exactly

is there a high five emoji, @Smilethoyourheartisbreaking? ;-)

@ElderflowerPotion you've put this out as a hypothetical situation but in what scenario will you be able to safely DTD in the current global pandemic.

Not only are you risking your sexual health, but your respiratory health if you catch the virus.

This is unlikely to be resolved in the next year/18 months. It's highly irresponsible of people to give you the 'cool' thumbs up on this, given you have no knowledge of where these blokes have been. That's why I continue to say it doesn't bear thinking about. It is grim.

Take control of your rational mind and decide if you think it's a bad idea. I cannot believe you'd even consider it.

"If it's safe"