Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

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I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

Why would it be a ‘trusting relationship’ in the long-term anyway? I’ve told him I’m looking for casual - not necessarily ‘long-term’ let alone serious or exclusive.

How can it ever become a trusting relationship otherwise

Because not ever sexual encounter is likely to. I’m very clear with mine there is zero chance of anything more

Wondering why you’re asking then op if you’re so sure it’s ok.

How can it ever become a trusting relationship otherwise

Not everyone wants “a trusting relationship”. Some people just want casual sex.

I wouldn’t think much of someone who did that, male or female.

I did it once when I was about 19!

It is his business. Most people would assume that the person they are sleeping with is not sleeping with someone else. How can it ever become a trusting relationship otherwise.

I think OP has told all concerned that they are casual and non-exclusive arrangements. That's fair warning that you aren't the only person in the game so-to-speak.

I wasn’t sure. I’d been thinking about it for the past few days - how I could see them both, once lockdown is lifted. I was already comfortable with having two sexual partners. What I wasn’t sure about what two in one day - but I couldn’t put my finger on why that was.

The more I’ve read this thread, I haven’t come across a single reason why the ‘in one day’ part matters, other than words like ‘grim’ or ‘slutty’ being thrown about (which are entirely meaningless words). And I don’t feel weird about it now.

No I wouldn't. I have done something similar in my late teens when I was young and stupid and I look back and regret it and see it for what it was- disgusting.
Not a chance in hell I would do it in my 30s. I do think it's wrong.

I’ve told him I’m looking for casual - not necessarily ‘long-term’ let alone serious or exclusive.

You have one FWB? Why do you want two? Where do you draw the line? Six? Seven?

If you don’t think there is anything off putting about multiple partners, why did you start this thread?

*Dippy egg & soldiers/stirring porridge/lock being opened by many keys - misogyny at it's finest ffs
If it's consensual and safe and none of the relationships are exclusive - why not?? *

Because without a waiting period and full std panel it isn’t safe.

You have one FWB? Why do you want two? Where do you draw the line? Six? Seven?

They have different looks, qualities, availabilities, interests. Why do I have to have only one? That sounds dangerously close to have a monogamous relationship. Seeing as I only have 3 free nights per fortnight, 6 would be pushing it.

If you don’t think there is anything off putting about multiple partners, why did you start this thread?

See a few replies above.

You’ll spend the next few days washing bedlinen. That would be off putting enough although maybe the men won’t care about sheets with multiple body fluid, I mean you have been clear they aren’t exclusive.

Thankfully, they have homes too!

Purpleartichoke - Fair point - in an ideal world, but I suppose real life not being so 'tidy' am not sure everyone tests before/after each new partner or waits the 72 hours for the std panel results

As far as I’m concerned who I sleep with isn’t anyone’s business and that includes someone I’m going on a first / second date with.

Sorry, but I don't get this. Of course these men should know if your planning on having sex with someone else. Does nobody think about sexual health! I wouldn't want to be with a guy who just rawed someone else a few hours ago (even with a condom, of be put off)

Not shaming, nothing against casual sex.

Just make sure everyone is aware, we're all being hygienic and safe etc. If it was a man we'd all be screaming this.

If it was a man we'd all be screaming this

This is such lazy thinking. If the scenario was the same my response would be the same:-

Is it consensual?
Does everybody know?
Are you safe?

If the answer is yes, crack on

Thankfully, they have homes too!

Only if they change the bedlinen frequently but hey I’m sure that wouldn’t bother you either. What’s off putting about a few bodily fluid stains from other people!

Yes, @swingingontheswing that’s exactly what I said!

@MarieQueenofScots

And that's exactly what i said, thanks for stating the obvious.

And that's exactly what i said, thanks for stating the obvious

You’re welcome, I think on these threads it’s always worth doing, don’t you?

No I wouldn't, I think it's pretty icky for a man or a woman to do this

I sit and help one of my FWB message women off tinder whilst we drink wine and chat and inevitably have sex 😂

Not every person thinks dating equals relationship.

Some of us just date different men with no want or desire to have a relationship.

It’s not like you’re cheating so yes why not. It’s no ones business. As long as you’re safe