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Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

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ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 12:53

I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

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MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 17:05

Crikey it’s puerile when people describe sex between consenting adults as “yuck”.

I rather think that says more about them than anyone else, if that’s the way they express themselves.

MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 17:05

Oh and now we have “boak”. I mean I appreciate schools are off and there’s little homework but really parents should monitor their children’s access to the internet.

Bbq1 · 10/05/2020 17:07

Oh and condoms and the pill can fail despite 'dobling up" and when sleeping around, it's not only pregnancy you need to worry about then.

Bbq1 · 10/05/2020 17:08

Doubling

MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 17:09

Oh and condoms and the pill can fail despite 'dobling up" and when sleeping around, it's not only pregnancy you need to worry about then

The chances of both failing are vanishingly small. If they both fail, I’ll have an abortion.

In 20 years of sexual activity I have had a condom split once. I’ve never had an STD. If I get an STD, I will get treatment for it - I’m careful to know my own body and often check for anything unusual.

WombatChocolate · 10/05/2020 17:09

I wonder how old Op is.

I guess that lots of people on MN are parents and in stable long term relationships and have been for a long time, so even if in the past they had lots of casual sex, it gets harder to imagine doing what Op describes, or even if they remember it from their youth, it's not something they'd want to do now and are perhaps more interested in the broader aspect of relationships and not just sex....although sex can still be very important too.

Not sure what the average age demographic on MN is, but I'd think most are over 30. I guess some older women want to have casual sex with several men at the same time, but I'd think it's more a thing younger women do and for most it's a phase they go beyond. I know that won't be true for all and some older women might be doing this and continue doing it all their lives.....but hard for me to picture people in their 60s and 70s having multiple casual partners, but what do I know? Perhaps some older women would like to keep going with lots of casual partners but the opportunities reduce.

Anyway, I think I'm saying, that I think most women, as they get older are less interested in lots of different sexual partners. Lots of women are never interested in having anything more than monogamy and lots of other women come to monogamy later in life and seem to find it more satisfying into the long term. Clearly people are different but it does seem to suggest that multiple partners concurrently is ultimately not satisfying into the long term for most women.

riotlady · 10/05/2020 17:10

I’ve done it, no shame!

(One of the men is actually now my fiancé and father of my child so clearly romance isn’t dead 😂)

FreedomBird · 10/05/2020 17:11

Yep. Enjoy!

MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 17:12

Clearly people are different but it does seem to suggest that multiple partners concurrently is ultimately not satisfying into the long term for most women

Absolutely, I totally agree.

Unfortunately internalised misogyny means many people can’t handle the idea of women not being satisfied with a relationship or monogamy.

ByzantinePrincess · 10/05/2020 17:12

I’d rather be with someone who had sex with ten people in one day than anyone who used the phrase ‘Boak and double boak‘

sammylady37 · 10/05/2020 17:15

Wow, a lot of misogynistic and puritanical attitudes on this thread.

Woman enjoys sex and likes to have sex with different men shocker!

I’ve done it OP, and will continue to do it when lockdown is over. I have 2 FWBs at the moment, and sometimes I end up seeing them on the same day or within 24 hours.

In the not so distant past, I’ve ended up having sex with three men in 5 days- 2 of them being the FWBs mentioned above and the 3rd a ONS.

In the more distant past, I was once with 3 men in a little over 36 hours. One was a FWB, who I used meet every second Friday. I was starting to casually meet another guy who came to my town the Saturday of that particular weekend. And on the Thursday night I went out, unexpectedly bumped into an ex and brought him home.

As long as it’s safe and consensual I see no issue with it.

Don’t worry about the judgement from others- it’s a real shame that in the year 2020 women are still judging others for their sexual activity. It shows them up for being narrow-minded and unpleasant though.

Chochito · 10/05/2020 17:15

Sounds fun. Enjoy, OP!

ShirleyB25 · 10/05/2020 17:16

In 20 years of sexual activity I have had a condom split once. I’ve never had an STD. If I get an STD, I will get treatment for it - I’m careful to know my own body and often check for anything unusual.

Congratulations!

Let's hope your multiple partners all feel the same if they get an STD from someone they didn't even know you were shagging.

Chochito · 10/05/2020 17:17

Yes, I'm also shocked by some of the prejudice from other posters. If you're still living in 1693, what are you doing on this thread?

RUOKHon · 10/05/2020 17:17

I did do this once when I was in my early twenties Blush

It was safe, consensual, all parties had a good time, the world didn’t end and I didn’t become a slurry crack whore. I’m now a vair respectable, middle class, married mum of three.

Fill your boots.

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 10/05/2020 17:19

However, she did ask so can't expect all positive replies...

I'm sure that she doesn't (expect all positive replies); neither do I. However, I think it's fair for her to expect not to be called grim, slutty or skanky (to name but three)!

NiceLegsShameAboutTheFace · 10/05/2020 17:21

Boak and double boak.

FFS. Haven't you got homework to do? Homeschooling again tomorrow .....

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ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 17:25

Let's hope your multiple partners all feel the same if they get an STD from someone they didn't even know you were shagging.

How would that happen? Unless the condom split with all of them?

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ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 17:29

Someone asked up thread - I’m 32 - so firmly in the MN demographic. My last relationship was over 10 years, so I’d much prefer to be out there having fun now.

My early 20s were very dull, so I’m now of the opinion to enjoy myself as much as I can.

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Swingingontheswing · 10/05/2020 17:30

I think it’s grim too and it isn’t something I’d do personally. I knew a few people, mainly men tbh, who did this in their youth and I thought it was grim then too. When all the people casually dating or getting to know one another, do this, it all becomes a bit muddy imo.

MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 17:32

Let's hope your multiple partners all feel the same if they get an STD from someone they didn't even know you were shagging

All my partners know it isn’t exclusive. I am very clear and give them the option to opt out if that isn’t for them.

They know I practise safe sex, the small risk is theirs to take if they want.

Hearhoovesthinkzebras · 10/05/2020 17:33

I wouldn't want to sleep with a man who had slept with another woman that day so I'd be a hypocrite to do it. However, I also value my health so wouldn't have casual sex - as another poster said, no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex.

I'd be worried about man number two discovering it. Condoms leave a funny smell behind. How do you explain that in the middle of proceedings?

midnightstar66 · 10/05/2020 17:33

How would that happen? Unless the condom split with all of them?*

Condoms only lower risk of std's. Things like herpes, genital warts and pubic lice affect areas not covered and aren't always very obvious so condoms mighty not help at all. I'd hope anyone sexually actively was aware of that tbh

Hearhoovesthinkzebras · 10/05/2020 17:34

How would that happen? Unless the condom split with all of them?

Herpes and public lice and scabies aren't prevented by condoms.

Crabbo · 10/05/2020 17:35

Would I? No. Should you? If you want to.