Is your partner still washing?

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My husband seems to think the government has banned washing during lockdown. Because he's not going out he doesn't see the need to shower - he's probably doing it every 4-5 days and I really have to nag him to do it. He's wearing the same clothes for that whole period too I won't let him sleep in the bed unless he's washed so he's sleeping in the spare room as all he wants to do is play video games in there and sleep.

Is this a man thing? I don't want him near me as I keep thinking about how dirty he is!

Echo what PP just said...any man who doesn't shower every day would be out the door. Under normal circumstances I shower every morning/wash hair etc before going to work then again in the evening to wash the grime and sweat of the day away; currently working from home and not necessarily showering first thing but once I have logged off it's the first thing I do. Wouldn't dream of not showering daily. I couldn't stand someone who disrespected me enough to go 4-5 days without washing and he certainly wouldn't be getting anywhere near my bed

So disgusting and disrespectful.

The playing video games all the time is disrespectful and lazy too.

Surely there must be things to do around the house. Laundry, cooking,cleaning, yard work, side projects, repairs.

Disgusting OP. Frankly I’ve never had more long soaks in the bath than I have in lockdown.

Ugh, no. That’s very disrespectful to you. Doesn’t he give a shit about what you think? So he only washes for the benefit of other people outside the home apparently?

My partner is still showering daily, sometimes twice a day if he’s done something even slightly energetic and my adult son has taken to having his normal daily shower plus a bath almost every day as he has the time. (Heaven knows what our water bill will be like at the end of this, but that’s another story.)

Strange this is all about partners. Why would you ask that and not whether anyone here is still washing? What point are you trying to make?

FFS that's grim. Hell no. I couldn't cope with a stinky DH. We all shower daily here and clothes change regularly!

If you’re sure that he’s otherwise ok, dirty sod. Just, why?

Not a man thing.

My partner is lazy too and doesnt wash or brush his teeth everyday.

I'm keeping a distance and living a semi-separate life, not like he's ever up in the day anyway. Maybe you could do the same. Just go out and don't even think about having sex with him.

Definitely not a man thing. In this hear he must be stinking!

My teens shower every day, never miss a day unless seriously ill.

It IS a man thing! It IS! The number of times I read similar stories from women about their partners who don’t wash/shower/brush teeth is staggering. When do you read a man complaining about his grim, unwashed woman? Exactly! Never..

It's not a man thing. It's a disgusting slob thing.

You don't read men complaining about their female partner not washing because you're on Mumsnet where 99.9% of posters are female. Nearly everyone on this thread has said that this is absolutely disgusting and that of course their partners are still washing.

Not here! Both showering/changing clothes every day

That really is gross, you deserve so much better OP!

I’m single and live alone, yet still know to shower and put on fresh clothes. I have very low standards, but I could not be with someone who doesn’t wash regularly

As others have commented, does he have depression?

Sorry I asked if he was depressed before seeing your update saying he definitely isn't.

Could he have a gaming addiction or just not care what other people think, including you?

What does he say when you tell him he smells?

I’ve gone two days in a row without showering during lockdown but felt so gross.

Ewww. No. My husband is not feral slob.

Now I need a shower...