Is your partner still washing?

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My husband seems to think the government has banned washing during lockdown. Because he's not going out he doesn't see the need to shower - he's probably doing it every 4-5 days and I really have to nag him to do it. He's wearing the same clothes for that whole period too I won't let him sleep in the bed unless he's washed so he's sleeping in the spare room as all he wants to do is play video games in there and sleep.

Is this a man thing? I don't want him near me as I keep thinking about how dirty he is!

Bloody hell, is he 14?

Bah gross!!! My partner showers at least once a day, get him told!!!

That is seriously disgusting

I’m still having to remind him to wash and change his clothes every week.

I feel nothing but pity for you.

I shower every day as I did before lockdown, but don't apply makeup or wear normal clothes, just clean pyjamas

Gross! No we are still all washing as normal. I'm rarely wearing make up or doing my hair so feel sorry for DH having to look at my face every day 😀

@couchlover Aww I'm sure you look lovely. My make-up standards have slipped too, arguably. I can't do without lippy but am not being arsed with concealer much.

He showers every morning and strip washes at night.

Doesn't the room he sleeps in stink to high heaven?

No make up here for weeks either and I’ve treated myself to a wardrobe of new gym gear as that’s all I’m wearing atm.

But I’m still showering twice a day and DH showers every morning before 8am whether it’s a work day or not (he’s working from home). He even puts aftershave on, but I’ve stopped wearing my expensive perfume.

I’d be appalled if DH stopped basic cleanliness, like other pps, I wonder if his MH is ok...?

I'll admit to showering every day and a half because of the way my gym classes work, but that's grim.

That sounds horrible. Is he OK? It can be a sign of depression, especially if it's out of character.

Definitely not a man thing. DH still showers every day. My DS's 12 and 15 still shower every day. And I shower mostly twice a day because I work in a nursing home. Sometimes it's just a flannel freshen up in the morning depending on what sort of night I've had as to whether I need a shower in the morning or not, and I shower as soon as I get in from work, proper scrub head to toe.

But no, it's not a man thing. I wouldn't let him sleep in my bed if he was leaving it that long with the same clothes on either. It's pretty grim.

@nomoredickheads

by the morning I'd smell of pum-pum

I may regret asking this, but what is pum-pum??

That's disgusting. DP still showers daily like a normal human.

Does he smell?

I'm going sort of against the grain. I had covid weeks ago and lost my sense of smell. I'm fine now, but very very busy teaching dc and managing work etc. Because I can't smell anymore, and am recovering and so so busy and life's routine so altered - I haven't been washing as much. TMI- but there was three weeks where I bathed / showered 5 times. I noticed as I got better, and my darling husband didn't say a thing. Bless him.

Your dh however has been told and doesn't care?! There's no reason?! Wtf?!

Urgh. Boak.
My DH automatically showering every morning first thing as usual. Even my teenage DC who is basically nocturnal is remembering to shower every second day at least.
I tend to do morning housework in my pyjamas then shower mid-late morning as I'm so enjoying setting my own times right now with no mad morning rush.

My DH is still washing as frequently as normal. Even though he's working from home he gets up early every day and dresses smartly to get himself in the right frame of mind. He hasn't turned in to a slob!

Why would anyone not wash just because they are mostly doing things at home?

Sorry - I totally and utterly could in no way cope with a dirty man. Nope. No chance. He should, like me, shower at least once a day.

what is pum-pum

@MoreOfADogPerson You know, your 'flower.'

That is disgusting!!! My DP is cleaner then me, twice a day mostly. Me always always once.

We both hate not being fresh !

What I always resented was that my late H could shower every day when he had to be at work, but didn't shower on weekends. Like we weren't worth being clean and presentable for.

He had depression and addiction issues though.

Do you think he’s trying to ward you off?
So you will leave him alone to play computer games in peace and comfort?!?

Pum-pum flower? What the fuck?