Is your partner still washing?

[catsears1]

My husband seems to think the government has banned washing during lockdown. Because he's not going out he doesn't see the need to shower - he's probably doing it every 4-5 days and I really have to nag him to do it. He's wearing the same clothes for that whole period too I won't let him sleep in the bed unless he's washed so he's sleeping in the spare room as all he wants to do is play video games in there and sleep.

Is this a man thing? I don't want him near me as I keep thinking about how dirty he is!

[Thisismytimetoshine]

Pum-pum

[peperethecat]

That's grim.

[Blurry009]

I’ve been showering maybe every 4 days, I feel so depressed I’m lucky to get myself a glass of water at the moment.

You’ll be glad to hear I’m writing this from the bath though... (after a pre-rinse)...

No excuse if he’s not having a hard time though and there’s no one who has to suffer with smelling me!

[Nogoodusername]

Gross. My DH showers daily. My 5 year old son baths daily.

[radiantrose1]

I don't think it's a man thing, mine has barely been out the house in 7 weeks and is still washing and getting dressed every day. I'd be repulsed if he didn't wash for that long!

[Tiredtiredtired100]

I would honestly have to sit down with him and say, this can’t continue. It’s disrespectful to me, shows you care about others more than me and if it continues, even after lockdown ends and you start showering again you can stay in the spare room (or leave) and don’t expect me to forgive you or be intimate with you after you’ve shown such disgusting behaviour and disrespect for me.

[LuxLuxLux84]

What if you stopped showering and changing clothes? Would he find that acceptable ? I suspect not.

[TheNavigator]

My DH showers more than me because he sweats more than me. Every day as a minimum and always after exercising - so often 2 if not 3 times per day.

[rainbowlou]

If anything everyone here is showering more! We are so bored it’s something else to do to kill time 😂

[JKScot4]

I’m still having to remind him to wash and change his clothes every week
Are you his mummy? Why does an adult need to be told to wash and put clean clothes on?

[hawleybits]

Literally crying with laughter at pum-pum. So glad I kept reading this thread.

[Peppafrig]

I'm washing my hair a little less as it doesn't seem to be needing done as much. But I shower my body daily. I wouldn't want the kids to think it's normal to not wash everyday.

[ThirtyAndASmidgen]

I live alone and I still wash (very nearly) as often as normal. It’s so important for self-esteem and mental health!

[Prisonbreak]

Is it any wonder that viruses spread like wildfire when humans can’t even wash their own bodies?
Shower in the morning here then after a workout so twice a day for us.
My ex had the most awful personal hygiene of anyone ive ever known and I had no idea how attractive a good smelling man was until I met my boyfriend

[allfurcoatnoknickers]

That is repulsive. I wouldn't have him in the house. It's not a man thing. DH showers twice a day and changes his clothes every day. Washes most things after one wear.

[Shoxfordian]

It's disgusting
My dh still showers everyday and I don't need to remind him because he's an adult not a kid. Ffs.

[Winterlife]

Not DH, who showers daily and even shaves the back of his neck. However, I have to nag our 20 year old son to shower and to strip his bed so I can wash his sheets. I have threatened him.

[Lavenderpurple]

That is gross. My DH showers every day. As do I.

[Bumpsadaisie]

Thank goodness. My dh for all his annoyances is scrupulously clean.

Why world your husband not want to feel nice N fresh?

Do you think he's depressed?

[Winterlife]

Our son has been gaming a lot. I wonder if the gaming and casual hygiene are related?

[CherryPavlova]

I don’t think I’d have him in the house let alone the bed. Quite revolting.

It’s not a man thing for all men but suspect men are more susceptible to laying around playing in an unwashed state because society judges them less on appearance. Mine still shaves, still irons his shirts, still puts a jacket on for meetings.

[SimonJT]

I’m not washing less, but I haven’t blow dried my hair as much. My boyfriend is a strip washer more than a showerer, he only really has a shower if he needs me to wash his hair. I think his sweat smells nice, so I’m fairly pro him doing strip washes. He has started volunteering at a food distribution charity, so he has a full shower and I wash his hair on those days.

I’m changing my clothes less, but I tend to just wear underwear inside or shorts if it isn’t as warm, so tops only go on when I’m going out. He’s still changing into fresh clothes everyday as he wears his all day.

[sofato5miles]

How are there adults who don't wash every day? My mind boggles. Get up, get in shower get dressed. Sometimes have a coffee and breakfast first but always shower before dressing.

In the normal.old days: after exercise and before going out in the evening, so sometimes 3/4x a day

[BluebellParty]

The thought of sharing a house with someone with such poor personal hygiene is really turning my stomach 🤢. And minimising it as "a man thing".

I would be really worried about my DH if he wasn't still washing regularly. It can be a sign of poor mental health.

All these men existing in marriages where their wives are having to pester them to wash or change their clothes? Just so odd. Like having another child to care for rather than a partner.

[BlueJava]

No, we all still shower every morning, sometimes shower in the morning and evening, or bath in the evening. Anyone who does not shower at least once a day does not live in a house with me. As for 4-5 days that would be it for me - over.