Is your partner still washing?

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My husband seems to think the government has banned washing during lockdown. Because he's not going out he doesn't see the need to shower - he's probably doing it every 4-5 days and I really have to nag him to do it. He's wearing the same clothes for that whole period too I won't let him sleep in the bed unless he's washed so he's sleeping in the spare room as all he wants to do is play video games in there and sleep.

Is this a man thing? I don't want him near me as I keep thinking about how dirty he is!

Not a man thing. A dirty slob thing.

I'm shocked at what I'm reading! Wtf! Why would anyone stop showering/bathing? It's vile. How anyone would sleep in the same room let alone bed with someone so unhygienic and putrid is beyond me

Even my 13 yr old is showering daily. He gets it and he's just a kid.

Your bloke is a lazy fucker.

This is nothing to do with gender and I’m surprised you’d think it was, do you know other men like this?

It’s nothing to do with gender and just who he is. It’s unpleasant but there you go. He has poor personal hygiene an doesn’t feel you’re worth the effort.

Yes that is a bit,or a lot, grotty. He just doesn't care it seems. Its odd too, as most people would usually feel grubby, sweaty, and unpleasant if not washing themselves for ages.

I won't let him sleep in the bed unless he's washed so he's sleeping in the spare room

Do you think he's trying to avoid sleeping with you? He certainly isn't making the effort to.

And/or has it become a power struggle?

Either way things don't sound good between you.

Sorry OP but that is really grim. Especially as the weather has been pretty warm.

Of course, why not???

That's grim OP you have my sympathy! My DP is still showering daily or every other day at worst... he's working from home. I read this to him, his response was "scruffy bastard, he's a man child" 🤢🤣

Yikes that’s disgusting. My husband showers at least once a day. It’s not a man thing. It’s a lazy no self respect thing.

I can’t get my head round he would rather sleep in the spare room than wash,

Does he literally spend all his time in the spare room? That’s really unhealthy behaviour. The whole thing is.

I can't believe that grown men are having to be told by their partners to shower.

Absolutely grim to be going days without a shower 🤮

Ugh, this is disgusting. I've just recovered from severe food poisoning and I couldn't shower for 3 days and I literally stunk so bad it was making me vomit. I feel for you, is he depressed? Or just a lazy, vile cretin?

Not a man thing.
DH -shielding so not left the house for weeks-showers every day.
Even stinky, lazy teen showers every other day.
Your DH is gross.

This isn't a man thing it's a fucking disgusting thing. Especially as you say he just can't be arsed and it isn't symptomatic of a mental health issue. Ugh. He sounds disrespectful as fuck.

Am staying with my bestie (ex partner) and he has a bath every night (there isn't a shower.)

I do think it's weird washing at night but that's just me- He can get away with it. I must sweat in the night and by the morning I'd smell of pum-pum and have to wash all over again before seeing anyone.

Bestie is in the camp that says he sounds depressed though.

Of course it's not a 'man-thing' ffs.

It's a disgusting slob thing.

I can’t get my head round he would rather sleep in the spare room than wash

Me neither. I think there is something more going on here. How can he rather sleep in the spare room than have a 5 minute shower?

I am also wondering like others if he is depressed. Might not realise it as manifests in different ways but that volume of days is a lot and also preferring to be alone is a symptom. X

Thank god mine is still working!

That sounds horrendous

Luckily still daily showers here

Definitely not a man thing. I can’t believe a grown man plays video games either.

Does he brush his teeth each day? And at least wash his face / pits / hands?!

That's grim 🤮 DP showers every day, as do I. Usually, we'd shower first thing in the morning before leaving for work, but now we shower at lunch time because we both exercise in our lunch break (working from home), so we shower then.

We were showering first thing in the morning and then at lunch but it's not necessary if we're not leaving the house. 4 hours after waking won't harm us.

No! My 3 year old try to do the no bath thing.