Is this just too distasteful?

[4tplussome]

Before I'm jumped on I'm thinking yes it is

I'm late 40s . I don't look my age by any stretch but I am late forties none the less.

I'm single, and on some kind line dating sites .

Had a few dates - nothing special. I'm happy alone tbh .

On one site a very young man has been messaging me. Now I'm not stupid at all - I know he's probably on some top trumps competition for a cougar or something.....but he is very persistent and I actually feel a bit of a connection. I've had loads of young men message and I've dismissed them all . Except this one . He is younger than my kids and I'm thinking just no.....
Yet he seems very clear about what he wants and is quite refreshing. I've been chatting. I should block shouldn't I? I feel like I should be in some register somewhere just for talking to him....

Sorry peppermint whose the rope for ? Me ?

Peppermint she's always resorted to personal insults, sad misogynist that she is. I usually ignore her but she has the cheek and arrogance to think I give a flying fuck what she thinks about my opinions. Back to ignoring her now (and reporting her derailing).

Peppermint.

We aren't dating. Keep your wig on .

Peppermint to clarify, I wasn't referring to you there, I was addressing you in regards to 'mama'

I know it's a complicated concept but you can give your opinion without being nasty, sneering and patronising.

The OP has been called disgusting, delusional, laughable, silly, vain amongst many other things.

As a decent person, I am outraged by this, so I will comment or "appraise" as much as I like.

I quoted mama in the post, 4, not you. But I answered your question, yes, I think it's rank and irresponsible and sleazy, no matter how fabulous he's coming across online.

You're not the thread police, hypocrite.

I actually wish I could post a picture without outing myself just so I can put to bed the "you're delusional if you think you don't look 50 " posters.

I am very lucky not to have a single wrinkle or grey hair and I can make the best of myself. Some of my dating profile pictures are on holiday without a scrap of makeup. I used to absolutely HATE looking younger . I couldn't get served in pubs , I couldn't get into pubs quite often! I bloody hated it .

Now I'm rather enjoying it!

Mama thank you for trying lovely but it's ok.

This is a faceless daft Internet forum and I'm not upset by the comments.

No one here knows me , so they are judging on very superficial info . Do t get into a scrap over it x

Outraged! So much umbrage on MN these days between the Covid threads and the Boris Johnson ones. I forgot to buy a wig on Ebay, maybe I'll just stick to a niqab to serve the dual purpose of covering my head sans wig and as a handy face mask for virus protection. Why ask, OP, if you have no interest at all in anything other than admiration for talking to this very young man? Carry on then.

@4tplussome

Fair enough. I can't help it with women like this though!! So spiteful! You have to wonder where it comes from.

Have fun!!

Ok thanks peppermint. 👍.

I am not bedding him. Dating him. Stringing him along . Using him . I'm not nieve. I'm not some desperate sad lonely old spinster ripe for defrauding.

I'm a very lucky , shiny hamster faced , slim, outgoing, young thinking 48 year old who is enjoying a chat with another person about some shared interests and he happens to be 21 yet miles ahead in the maturity he has displayed so far and well in advance of the 55 year olds who want wank material.

We chat. That's it .

@mamato3lads 'bitches' this, 'witches' that. Get help for your misogyny, it's absolutely appalling. No one can take you seriously.

You're obsessed with your looks, OP. It's not about looks. Here's some validation: I'm sure you look great. But your looks aren't relevant.

The comments have been bitchy tho Nortre.

And I'm so not obsessed with my looks ! . Most days I don't drag a brush through my hair....I was trying to explain why a much younger man might show interest other than fraud, prob hub , because I think that's doing him a disservice tbh. He seems a thoroughly decent person.

What's a shiny hamster face (genuine question)

You're right that nobody knows you per se but your posting style is very distinctive and you've been posting about your life life and obsessions with one man for years now. So I cannot fathom for the life of me why you'd go back to all that for a 21 year old.

I think - and I say this with no malice - that you have some issues that you should probably address before agreeing to meet up for a Keats and Clarice Clif evening with a boy who is much younger than your own son.

Notre. That's twice you've used the word misogyny. We get it, you can use big words!

Definitions though. Work on that. I have been nothing but supportive to the OP...who is a woman.

I haven't called her "cringe worthy" or "silly" but i was so shocked that you did, because it's plain nasty.

Obsession with what man ?

Who do you think I am ?

Just out of interest OP, has he lots of tattoos and comes from a city in the South East? . . .

Well I'm not going to say that am I?! I'm assuming you wish to be anonymous. Simply stating that you've got form for all this sort of obsessive man mooning

Hey it's your shout. You asked for opinions. I haven't got particularly strong ones but I personally would be giving a boy young enough to be my son the swerve. You won't but that's your look out

Cooper .

I have oily skin which has probably saved me from wrinkles and I have high, round cheeks ! I always thought I looked like a hamster...wide face . Think Sophie Ellis bexter but old .

No tattoos. No.

Latte ....

Man mooning ? I am thinking that you have got me confused with someone else.

I was married a long time. And then I was with someone after that for a third of the time I was married. And then I was single.

And I name change and go years without posting here . I think you maybe have gat a bit confused.