Is this just too distasteful?

[4tplussome]

Before I'm jumped on I'm thinking yes it is

I'm late 40s . I don't look my age by any stretch but I am late forties none the less.

I'm single, and on some kind line dating sites .

Had a few dates - nothing special. I'm happy alone tbh .

On one site a very young man has been messaging me. Now I'm not stupid at all - I know he's probably on some top trumps competition for a cougar or something.....but he is very persistent and I actually feel a bit of a connection. I've had loads of young men message and I've dismissed them all . Except this one . He is younger than my kids and I'm thinking just no.....
Yet he seems very clear about what he wants and is quite refreshing. I've been chatting. I should block shouldn't I? I feel like I should be in some register somewhere just for talking to him....

Absolutely @GilbertMarkham

It's very common.

Just not something some of the posters on this thread are lucky enough to have been blessed with though, hence the absolute next level bitchy comments aimed at the OP.

Sorry but its utterly sick to date men younger than your children

No need to @ me, mama- I'm on the thread.

It's nothing to do with looks, PPs. It's about being at different stages of life and the inevitable power imbalances that brings.
I'm early 30s and have absolutely nothing in common with a uni student, well we probably would have some things in common. But we're at totally different life stages and I wouldn't be interested.

Nobody is giving BoJo all this hassle.

Look I'm not delusional I just do look younger.

My son is the same . He gets ID "d often - can't buy lottery tickets, cigarettes or alcohol. He is 28 . Maybe we just have young genes . He couldn't buy red bull once . 🤷🏻‍♀️

Oh, I think BoJo's rank, he's a cheap slapper. He's getting loads of hassle on another thread. His kids weren't happy when it came out he'd run off with his latest.

It is delusional to think you look 20 years younger when you're near 50, and I have 'young genes', too. But hey, you're going to carry on with someone who's younger than your own kids. Really think that's disgusting personally, but well, it's your life.

Carrie Symonds is 31 though I think. There's a huge difference between 21 and someone in their early thirties. 21 is barely out the teens. Still got a lot of growing up and maturing to do and some could say easily influenced or possibly coerced by an older partner even though it may not be intentional.

And all this 'we have so much in common'. C'mon.

By the time I was 21 I had been married 4 years and had a 3 year old . I owned a house and worked full time .

I definitely wasn't "just out of my teens " .

Same here OP, some people can only judge by their own experiences. I lived on my own from the age of 16, bit different to a mid 20 something living at home with mum.

I wanted to @ you notredamn just so you knew it was you i thought was the nastiest to the OP..anyway no worries, @peppermintcupcakes has just steamed in and taken your crown.

Your second reply though, much more grown up and reasoned, bordering on helpful.

@4tplussome

At 21, I had a mortgage on my first home, a great job, nice car, partner of 4 years, happy and successful. I was not some idiot fresh out of mummy's arms, all bewildered and easily coerced. The guy is 21, you lot are acting like he's 13.

Right, so he's got kids, a mortgage and the mind of a 50-year-old now. I see the makings of a Marian Keyes novel here, the romance, the surprise love, the drama of the kids' reactions, the donor egg baby . . .

You're presumably trying to be amusing @peppermintcapsules? It's not working love, you sound bitter.

But it is just out the teens. 2 years. I don't get why you're arguing the point when you said yourself you knew it wasn't right. You were 27 when he was born. He's not even that age yet.

He lives alone when at uni and presumably sorts his finances, budgets etc. Yes we do have shared interests and since he's an art student he speaks with some knowledge. He has made it clear he likes talking and yes , he has asked if we can talk on the phone . He hasn't made a secret of the fact he is interested but he has been respectful and polite and hasn't tried to turn any conversation into anything sleazy or sexual.
I did say I was worried about peoples perceptions, he just said we change them. Like it's no biggie. I have to say this fella seems more mature and sensitive than anyone I've chatted to and I've chatted to lots ! And blocked lots . And swerved lots . Even the older men or ones my age start to get really flirty so fast , or start with the "you're really sexy " shit . He hasn't . He said he thinks I'm nice looking and enjoys talking. He actually appears to come from quite an affluent family so I'm not worried about him wanting money ....he probably has more than me . 😳.

Wow, I cannot believe just how much some of you are going out of your way to pull the OP down.

Nope, love, I'm not. Bitter, LOL! That's not presumptuous of you to assume, oh no. Oh, you forgot jealous, fat, ugly . . . blah blah blah. It's rank AF to shag, date people even younger than your kids. I'm happily married. He's even younger than I am! A whole 6 years. He was 28 when we met. If only I'd been quick off the mark when he was 21.

@cravingthelook

Shocking isn't it. Not just opinions, outright nasty bitchiness...maybe lockdown is getting to these women.

Perhaps a young lover would help them relax.

No peppermint

I had kids by that age and the mind of a 50 year old.

He is free to make his own decisions. We talked about art, books, and no I've not found a 50 year old online who can even spell cocktails let alone make them.

I take that back. @peppermintcapsules HAS a younger husband and is still uptight and with a distinct inability to string a coherent sentence together.

Go figure 🤣

@mamato3lads ok I can be passive aggressive too.

And yes I had a child young as well, had my second at 24, had moved out from home at 17, career tick, adulting tick, motherhood tick...even MORE reason I wouldn't fuck with a young, free and single uni student at the age I am now, let alone the age I will be in a good few years.
I don't care what you think of my posts @mamato3lads, you don't need to appraise them 😂

and with a distinct inability to string a coherent sentence together.

Hilarious! Funny, my sentences are coherent enough for you to read them, if you are at all or just skipping to the insults because I think it's gross to engage with someone this young when you're 48, in response to the OP's question of, 'Is this just too distasteful?' IMO, yes, it is, but carry on, you're doing fine. Here is some more rope. 🤣🤣🤣

Notre, I can read your sentences! They are coherent! But they don't fit into mama's paradigm so you'll be told just what a poor grasp of the English language you have. Did you come from an affluent background, were you into art and literature at 21, did you yearn to change peoples' perspectives and show them all that love conquers all? Piffle! You're just so (insert insult). I'd be thrilled if my 21-year-old were dating someone 48, totally, beyond thrilled 🤣🤣🤣.