End of honeymoon period or worse??

[Jamill]

So I have been with my bf for 8 months with us both coming out of long term relationships due to husband/wife affair.

The relationship has been really good, we get on so well, have a good connection etc and he is a lovely genuine man, I have kids and he doesn't.

Fast forward to coronavirus crisis and he has moved in so we have spent the last 4 weeks together constantly, it's like he doesn't really notice me anymore, never comments on how I look or shows any affection. It makes it sound like I am needy but it's just that it is so different from how it was before. He is really difficult to speak to as he just seems to shut down when talking about things, and I am worried to keep bringing it up as scared will push him away further.

Before this we were just seeing each other at weekends really put planned to move in together once my house sale has gone through.

Does this sound like its just the way it will be now and the honeymoon period is over? It's making me feel rubbish about myself and feel like I am never going to be happy.

Every parent has a responsibility to make themselves aware of the steps abusers take to groom them and their children.

An intense honeymoon period followed by blowing hot and cold is a classic abuser tactic. Its designed to put you in your place, make you compliant, stop you trusting your own judgement, and make you crave the abusers approval.

Its irrelevant if this man is abusive or not; his behaviour follows patterns used by men who turn out to be abusive.
Safeguarding demands you pay attention to that cold hard fact, and stop the wishful thinking.

medium.com/survivors/the-stages-of-sexual-grooming-every-parent-should-know-6e98fb444f9f

It’s going nowhere your already keeping quiet rather than upset him that’s no basis for a relationship

What does ‘he’s amazing with the children’ actually mean?

Do you have sex? It sounds like you've already got into a situation where you are showing more affection than him.

And what was his life before? Does he have a house?

It is a big step being in the same house. Personally I think you aren't happy. And if it was right then lockdown would be honeymoon paradise. But it isn't.