Dating Thread 187 - Love in the Time of Corona

[JeSuisPrest]

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. Know your worth.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Just popping in to pick brains on Fab- any do's or dont's? Happy to pm if preferred, things are going well with MrC but we're spicing things up..

He lives alone, not been able to see his daughter. He’s been ill for a week, no signs of feeling better yet either

@NoBloodyFighting do you mean meeting someone together or on your own ?

@UtterSocks the poor thing is he well enough to get his own food and things. This is why I’m so worried about getting ill being alone with a child and too ill to care for her.

jane together is the ideal but I might do a meeting alone to check chemistry. Disclaimer: obvs not til it's allowed!

@Jane1978xx yeh his adult daughters shop for him and leave stuff on the doorstep, he has a support network. More so than me actually, if I got sick my teenage kids who actually live with me would leave me to die Haha Through incompetence rather than malice but even so ...

@NoBloodyFighting
I dont know how fussed you are about the other person being single but if it bothers you both then tread carefully as a lot are not single even if they say they are.

Have you set up a couples profile?
I would make sure your profile is as honest as you can make it, Fab is great for just putting what you really want without anyone being offended.

I would be chatting to people for a while before arranging a social or 2 to check you get on.

Are you looking for a woman to join you?
If you are remember on Fab they are known as Unicorns.

Could you go to a swingers club instead?
I went with my guy a few months back and although we played a tiny bit with another couple we just had sex with each other.
There is definitely a thrill to sex when you know people are watching.
We were planning to go again bit my family circumstance has put paid to that for now.

Not everyone goes to a club to swing with others, some go to have sex with each other.

If you would rather PM you can

Checking in as fed up and need to get back on that horse

Thank you SortingItOut that's hugely helpful advice! I have set up a single profile but MrC is in the loop and I love how upfront you can be on Fab, it's such a refreshing change from Tinder.
Certainly not ruling a club out, I think it might have to go on the list of "treats for after lock down".. Hoping to catch up on thread today!

Welcome @OntheWaves40

It's possibly not the best time to get back In the saddle. Threads very quiet too as no one is actually dating.

Ah that makes sense, at least I might be able to keep up with the thread now!
I haven’t actually made a dating profile yet. I keep pondering which app would be best

How is everybody doing this sunny Sunday? Are you all outdoors exercising, gardening or bbqing I'm having a break from patio jet washing to drink a well deserved beer. I've bribed/paid son to help, his rates are bloody extortionate but it's worth it 😂

Hope those with partners/irons that they can't see are coping ok with the lack of face to face contact, and everybody is keeping healthy 👍

@Ant330 im loving the sun and eating fresh pineapple with my kids on the decking.

I'm now not liking this lock down fiasco as I finally have a few irons I'd like to meet plus my FWB. Sods law really.

It’s not sunny here in Wales 😩 warm but dull. Keeping in contact yes but not a lot to talk about as a lot we did talk about was planning things . Still bat around ideas but there’s no clear pic at the moment.

It's not sunny here either @Jane1978xx and I'm gutted as sunbathing is basically one of my favourite things in the world! So have been working instead 🙄

Warm and sunny here, have engaged in a lot of displacement gardening and running this weekend to take my mind off both the news and missing sex with Mr GN. He keeps bleating about missing me, I just get busy. We are quite different in our approaches to life which may or may not be a problem in the end.

I really hope all the regulars on here are finding strength and comfort right now. Hugs and love to all 💐

I'm still here! Still messaging with Mr Farmer every day throughout the day and a few calls through the week too. Really enjoy his chat although I'm aware it's early days and odds are against it with lockdown looking like a lengthy process.

I'm still around.
Counting the days til my daughter comes back from her dad's next weekend. She will have been away 3 weeks which is the longest time we've been apart.
But on the plus side, I've got more things done round the house and she's spent more time with her dad than she ever has done before.

I'm still chatting to some randoms of Fab. There's a couple of them that I'd like to meet when this is over.
I gave up on Badoo. Started with a few chats but they just fizzled away after a couple of days and all I was getting was "lol" in reply to my messages

It’s lovely here, we’ve been to the park, it’s so nice being virtually the only one there.

There’s a couple on the street having an almighty argument, nice bit of evening entertainment..:

Mainly stayed inside today. I have a sensitivity to certain uva/uvb lights so I sometimes get hives in strong sun light. Didn't feel like putting it to the test if.it would happen today when I can't see a GP to get my steroid cream for it. Usually I don't care about being out in the sunlight as I know that the cream works but better safe than sorry at the moment.
Mr Army is still keeping in touch. There isn't really a lot to talk about though. He is busy weekdays with work but we try and find things that aren't virus related to talk about. Him continuing to keep in contact to me is a good sign so I'm just waiting it out.
Decided to be like the queen this year and have 2 birthdays. It's in 4 weeks as of yesterday and it is almost certain the lockdown will be extended until after it.

See that's interesting @SimonJT because I've been out exercising every day and I haven't seen all these groups of people sunbathing and picnicking. It's busy but everyone is social distancing. I think it's media bullshit so they can blame us in total lockdown. Or maybe it's just in London we're sensible?

As ever I agree with you unambiguous, I think it’s media hype (by and large). In my small Berkshire town the convention has always been social distance of at least 12 feet 😂. And there’s been a fair amount of calling people out for non-compliance/ dobbing in aka point-scoring and settling old scores. That said, in my little close we just had a little drink in the sun with each family sitting on chairs outside their houses, about 15 feet apart. We’re all well, I don’t this can be against the rules?

I wonder everyone, if you stayed at home completely for two weeks not going anywhere, and so did your bf in his house (but lived with his parents) would you be able to see each other ? As I've heard if no symptoms are displayed from either person they can see each other then ? Prob a no as no test to confirm each other yet 😔

@dollface19 no you can't, the rules are clear and simple! You need to distance yourself from anyone outside your household regardless of being symptom free or isolating for 14 days.

I understand this completely and will not be mixing households I just wanted to ask as I've seen some people on threads sayin they have been ok to visit their friends because they have been no symptoms and self isolated for 14 days that's all