Is he into me or shall I leave it

[Ineedwine1]

Been talking to this guy for a few weeks. He's the organiser of my hobby. There's been flirting and we get on. I catch him looking at me and we smile at each other alot. We begun messaging each other last week and it's flirty. However I don't know if he's doing it because he's bored and has nothing to do or likes me. Last night I asked if he was up to much at the weekend he said no not really and I said I weren't either. He replied so you're free... That's interesting. I replied yea I am whys that interesting. Hoping he would ask me out. He's read the message and just not replied!! I'm suppose to be seeing him tomorrow at this hobby so I don't really get it. Is he interested or should I ignore him now

He's hinting, why not just ask him out? Bite the bullet cos he might be shy about asking you. Nothing really lost if he says no?

Maybe he read the message and debating on plucking up the courage to ask you out?
Some people are rather good at flirting but get rather shy when it comes to asking someone on a date

Well that's what I thought he was hinting and that's why I asked why its was interesting opening up him to ask me. But nope haven't heard from him all day 😕 and he's read my message

No he is not interested - well maybe up for a shag down the line if he doesn’t have a better offer. Don’t buy the ‘hinting’ or start chasing him. If he was interested he would have said ‘great your free, fancy a drink’ - but he just left you hanging. He is just fishing to see if you would bite back. You did. He obviously isn’t in a rush to want to spend time with you.

I don’t want that to come across as anything against you btw!! I have a couple of friends that are on line dating and blokes do this all the time, cheeky shits!

He's all talk and no action!

I'd strongly advise not to chase him. If he's interested he will make it known.

Yea maybe he is all talk. Yesterday night he found an excuse to speak to me because my last message the day before was ill see you Friday. So he is seeking out to speak to me but I'm just so confused. Unless he messages later but can't understand why he has to take a day to reply

If he hasn't replied by the time you see him tomorrow I'd just say to him "so are you still free this weekend or do you have plans" and see where that conversation goes.
Although if it doesn't lead to asking you out then leave it, he knows where you are and you've made it pretty clear you're interested.

He may have a partner but likes to do a little flirting.

Ive lost count how many times ive picked up my phone and read a message, put it down to reply in a minute and completely forgot.
Wait and see what his next message says, he could be working? Sometimes my partner takes all day to reply to me if hes run off his feet.
Dont lose hope yet

If it’s confusing now imagine how it will be later on down the line.

Don’t go there-

He either has a partner and liked to flirt talk to other women

Has loads of women he is talking to on line dating

Or he is bored just fishing

All the serious relationship I’ve had were very straight forward. No weird or confusing messages, game playing over reading messages and not replying

Don’t do it to yourself

tatto it’s different when your established.

When your about to/or trying to set up a date with some one your interested in, your checking your phone every five mins to see what they say.

If he is this disinterested now it will not bode well.

tattoo I know he has his own business so is normally pretty busy in the daytime so that could be true.
And yea maybe I could ask tomorrow and I guess by seeing his reply and reaction I'll know if he's serious or just looking to flirt/mess around

You’ve made your interest clear. He hasn’t asked for a date. Wouldn’t be asking him or messaging further.

Maybe he's waiting until he sees you face to face at the hobby to ask if you want to do something. Don't forget tone doesn't get carried across in a text. While you might have intended it as a sultry 'why yes I am...why is that interesting??', it could have come across as a more defiant 'yes I am, so what, why is that interesting?' If he's a bit nervous he might want to wait and see you in person to judge how you are with him.

Yea I don't think I could have made it clearer. I joked he just wanted to find a way to talk to me and he said how do you know and I told him I weren't complaining about it. So he knows I like him. Just so frustrating
Maybe it could be innocent though and he is run off his feet with his business

@Summersunandoranges thats true, within a few weeks of speaking to my now partner the screen had smashed on my phone, i was gutted as had no way of letting him know. When i finially got my phone done 2 days later there was a few concerned messages, he thought i ghosted him.
I do remember the beginning and eagerly awaiting on a reply (not sure if men are the same though

:( I feel a bit of an idiot I thought he liked me too. I guess not. Still haven't heard from him

Is he from the Meetup groups? I find some of the men at these group lack social skills. I wouldn’t contact him and see if he gets in touch. Also I found Meetup men tend to use the groups like dating sites by serial dating all the women.

Ineedwine he will message you but at a time that’s convenient for him, when he is bored or some one else has stopped talking to him...

It’s honestly like a script.

He would have looked as his phone a hundred times today. He could have quickly replied if he had wanted to. Don’t be pulled back in with a bit of flattery or eye catching.

No he isn't from meet up groups. The job he does he can't be shy really so don't really think it's that

summer could be right. Thinking about it he said something at the weekend. He took over a day to reply and he said he has lost his phone. Could have been true but I don't know. Also he seems to stop messaging around 9pm. Although he said he was alone last night but that could mean nothing

He’s not from Meetup groups then. Sounds like a mind f*.

He could just he scared you'll reject him so he's putting off replying.