Is he into me or shall I leave it

[Ineedwine1]

Been talking to this guy for a few weeks. He's the organiser of my hobby. There's been flirting and we get on. I catch him looking at me and we smile at each other alot. We begun messaging each other last week and it's flirty. However I don't know if he's doing it because he's bored and has nothing to do or likes me. Last night I asked if he was up to much at the weekend he said no not really and I said I weren't either. He replied so you're free... That's interesting. I replied yea I am whys that interesting. Hoping he would ask me out. He's read the message and just not replied!! I'm suppose to be seeing him tomorrow at this hobby so I don't really get it. Is he interested or should I ignore him now

If that's the case then I'm stuck because if I message him again I'll look too keen and if I don't then I look uninterested.

Have you posted about him before?

as you sent the last message I wouldn’t send another if he hasn’t replied. 2 messages when someone hasn’t replied is just cringey

Impossible to know from what you’ve told us. He is flirting with you but could be any number if reasons he hasn’t replied yet. Find something else to focus on and see what happens - you can’t decipher that short text exchange to reveal the depths of his intentions. You’re overthinking it at this stage.

And agree with PP - don’t text again and don’t ask him out - if he’s interested you’ll know soon enough. Don’t chase him.

Like others have suggested don't chase him. Some men love the thrill of the chase, let him either ask you face to face or text you, don't reply straight away you don't want him thinking you are needy.

No I haven't posted about him before. I won't reply just so tempting to say we'll it couldn't have been that interesting. Argh. Why aren't people straight forward! As in I like you, you like me let's go on a date! Nice and simple

"Fancy doing something on Saturday if you're still free?"

It's literally that simple.

He didn’t reply to Ops last message so no it’s not that simple, don’t be desperate.

@PumpkinP there could be a million reasons he didn't reply and you know it.
Its not desperate to put yourself out there.

She sent the last one. Yes it is desperate to send a double message. What are the
Millions reasons? I can think of one and that is that he isn’t interested.

Sorry op but he's not into you

If he was you would t have to ask the question, you would know because he would make it known.

It's really that simple

He’s already breadcrumbing you - see you’re already giving him head space and he hasn’t even made the tiniest bit of effort apart from one little hint! And got you hanging on waiting for some attention which by then you’ll feel slightly desperate for...go with your gut and bin him off.

I think it's clear that he was flirting with the 'so you're free- that's interesting.'

Am sure he'll get back to you. xx

He just got back to me and his reply was "its interesting because I'm free too" then said look what I've got and sent me a pic of a snack. Why doesn't he just ask me out!! We are both free 😒

He is enjoying the chase maybe!

Say 'if you're free and I'm free, would you like to go somewhere or do something?'
It's not outright asking him on a date and could be interpreted as you just being friendly.

He knows what she’s hinting at and he’s liking dangling her on a string getting more desperate for him to ask! He’s a player.

Sounds like he wants you to ask him

I wouldn’t reply.

Yeah he wants her to ask...then I’d place bets on him then messing her around in one form or another, acting like he doesn’t know she means as a date, dropping her if something more interesting comes along...if he was keen you’d know!

Why don't you just ask him for a drink??? Why has it got to be him asking you? You're being as coy as he is, he is responding to you in the same manner as you are to him.

Maybe he wants to speak to you in person.
Why are you waiting to be asked out? You can do it yourself you know.

Right I've just gone for it. I don't like game playing so I'm just being straight. I've said if you're free and so am I do you want to do something? His next answer will tell me alot

Something tells me that if this does turn into a relationship, it will be one where you are always taking the lead, always carry the mental load etc.

I'd have waited til Friday, to see if he would ask me out. I'd be busy, because I always am at the weekends. You have to book me a lot earlier than Friday to get my weekend! but I'd have offered him an alternative night next week. In the week - don't waste weekend nights on first dates.

If he responds favourably to your text, don't become the one who always asks for the date. Otherwise my prediction is bound to come true.

I’m actually curious what mysterious riddle he might reply with

Well done OP, think you’re right not to bother with the daft X factor reveal messaging style. Keep us posted!