I know this sounds crazy but

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Is it possible for someone to be able to see what I’m doing on my phone?

Dh and I are going through a divorce. One of the main reasons is that I found a hidden camera that he was using to spy on me while he was away at work on weekdays. He was being incredibly controlling and I’m pretty sure he put a tracker in the car as he always knew where I was.

Anyway, it all seemed to have gone quiet on Xdh front. Then this last week my phone has been running really, really slowly. I deleted a load of apps and videos etc. but it didn’t help at all.

Then last night I hooked up with a guy who has been a friend of mine for ages and who Dh was always a bit weird about. There is absolutely no way Dh would know about this. I posted about it on here but I regularly name change and he knows some other information about it that I haven’t posted on here. I have had constant messages from him for the last hour or so telling me that I’m a slut, that he’s going to tell my dm what I’ve been doing (she couldn’t care less), that he’s going to try and have the dc’s taken off me if I’m just out shagging all the time 🙄.

All annoying but xdh is full of crap and about 200 miles away so won’t physically do anything. But what’s got me is he’s referred to something that has only come up via a FB message between me and this guy.

What should I do? Is there a way to find out if there’s something he’s put on my phone that shows what I’m typing, shows my messages or something?

random absolutely, that’s something I’m still a bit concerned about. I’m going through each room a day at a time atm and getting rid of all his stuff and checking for anything suspicious. Not found anything as yet though.

I think theres a way using light in a dark room to find hidden cameras if I remember right. Google it maybe?

Also consider places where you would be most vulnerable (as it's a power thing for him), where you spend the most time and where he could gather the most info on your daily life.

Some normal looking items such as plug adaptor sockets can have hidden cams (as can clocks and even children's toys). Consider any gifts or anything new he brought into the home shortly before leaving. Or since.

More likely it is in your phone/computer though. But no harm in looking.

He might have access to your laptop and know all your passwords this way. Change passwords and bring all your devices to someone who can check them.